Fetishes

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Some of you know that I am an avid Craigslister and I do well in fact. Spare $20-25 every now and then is great! But then you come across the downright weird-those who have fetishes.

I listed a bunch of kid's clothing, and cam across an ad from an adult male seeking to nurse form a lactating woman. Yup....seen those ads before. But curiosity got the best of me and I clicked on the link in the ad. I figured this would bring some conversation to the table!

So, are fetishes good? Bad? Peculiar or harmful? Could an adult nursing relationship be beneficial?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/31/2011

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The baby fetish thing (diapers, binkies, breastfeeding) makes me vomit in my mouth a little bit.

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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Constance the link I provided below explains the phsycology behind it .

"Rape fantasies can be either erotic or aversive. In erotic fantasies, the woman thinks: "I'm being forced and I enjoy it." In aversive fantasies, she thinks: "I'm being forced and I hate it." Forty-five-percent of the women in the recent survey had fantasies that were entirely erotic. Nine percent were entirely aversive. And 46 percent were mixed.

Rape or near-rape fantasies are central to romance novels, one of the perennial best-selling categories in fiction. These books are often called "bodice-rippers" and have titles like Love's Sweet Savage Fury, which imply at least some degree of force. In them, a handsome cad becomes so overwhelmed by his attraction to the heroine that he loses all control and must have her, even if she refuses--which she does initially, but then eventually melts into submission, desire, and ultimately fulfillment.

Romance novels are often called "porn for women." Porn is all about sexual fantasies. In porn for men, the fantasy is sexual abundance--eager women who can't get enough and have no interest in a relationship. In porn for women as depicted in romance novels, the fantasy is to be desired so much that the man loses all control, though he never actually hurts the woman, and in the end, marries her.

What do rape fantasies mean? In my opinion, they are no different from any other fantasies. They are neither wrong nor perverted. They imply nothing about one's mental health or real-life sexual inclinations. They just happen, to somewhere around half of women. If you have such fantasies and feel bad about them, I can't tell you how to feel. But I can assure you that you are not alone. Rape or near-rape fantasies are surprisingly common. What do you think?"

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-...

Constance - posted on 05/31/2011

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I have been raped and hat reallyfreaks me out that someone has a fantasy about being raped. The only way I can kinda wrap my head around this maybe because the woman is actually in control. I don't know but I would never want to go through that again.

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Martha - posted on 06/05/2011

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Well i understand fetishes, but i have one that concerns me a bit. I like to read everything about domestic discipline, that is corporal punishment during the raising of children. Love to read peoples own experiences as a child and how they were physically punished. I also collect spanking art. It is certainly a strong fetish, but sometimes i feel a bit guilty about it that it is about child discipline done in homes and schools in the past and present. In one way I never would hit my own child, but reading about the theories on the benefits on strict corporal punishemnt of children do give a strong thrill. I think it is the mixed feeling of feeling it is wrong but also enjoy the detailed descriptions of the carried out spankings and how they affect a child, do attract me very much. Knowing there is also a sexual reason for many discipliners to carry out there ideas, does disturb me in a way but at the same time is a strong turn on. I hope someone understands and you dont judge me on it.

Nikki - posted on 06/01/2011

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I find that article really disturbing. Hey, if that's what your into then go for it but I don't want to know about it. When I am lactating, that milk is to feed my baby not fulfil strange sexual fetishes.

Amber - posted on 05/31/2011

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I had to google it too!! Haha Kate!

That link for rape fantasies said that 52% of women have fantasies of being dominated by a man, which I can see. I think sometimes it's about feeling as if they just can't NOT have you, that they want you so badly they can't help themselves.

I don't fantasize about rape...but domination...that's another story. I think the only difference is that you know the person and know that you said yes at some point? Does that make any sense?

Constance - posted on 05/31/2011

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Loureen I can see the lgic behind it. I like to get rough during sex. I don't consider a rape fantasy gross or perverted. As women we are so strong and we defidently have that thing thatgets us hot.
On my side for reasoning the fantasy is because rape is about power. And it does kinda make me wonder if I had the control to resist then maybe it might give some of that power back that I lost. I will check out the link and read about it.

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Well I sure as hell learned something new through this thread about a furry ;-) Um, NOT for me! I agree that the baby fetishes make me want to puke as well. Looners are another one that I don't get. I saw a documentary on it. These are nutjobs with balloon fetishes. In any event, as long as it's legal and behind private doors, no problem with me! As far as a grown man WANTING to nurse, that is just plain old SICK! (maybe he was formula fed and wanted to experience nursing?! lol) As far as rape fetishes, yeah I've heard a high statistic on that one too.

Laressa - posted on 05/31/2011

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I suspect tho I have not researched it that the majority of people have some kind of fetish. A lot of people might not admit to it tho.

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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"Nisan didn’t mean to fall in love with Nemutan. Their first encounter -- at a comic-book convention that Nisan’s gaming friends dragged him to in Tokyo -- was serendipitous. Nisan was wandering aimlessly around the crowded exhibition hall when he suddenly found himself staring into Nemutan’s bright blue eyes... 'I’ve experienced so many amazing things because of her,' Nisan told me, rubbing Nemutan’s leg warmly. 'She has really changed my life.' Nemutan doesn’t really have a leg. She’s a stuffed pillowcase — a 2-D depiction of a character, Nemu, from an X-rated version of a PC video game called Da Capo." The New York Times' Lisa Katayama on "2-D lovers" in Japan, the latest outgrowth of otaku subculture.


http://www.google.com.au/imgres?imgurl=h...,r:6,s:12&biw=967&bih=705

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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Ok so there are plushies too .....hmmm?

I think the hentai pillow case girlfriends are a weird fetish especially since the charecters are generally very young also the real dolls .......just sad .

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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woooow , so it is people having sex with people in furry animal outfits ......there are some interesting pictures on google images.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/31/2011

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A furry is a person who likes to dress up in large animal costumes...



Edited to say I'm trying to find a good link lol

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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I actually like pain during sex , asphyxiation , spanking , hot wax .......

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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"From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women's rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month. Actual prevalence of rape fantasies is probably higher because women may not feel comfortable admitting them."

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-...

Jocelyn - posted on 05/31/2011

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Hey now guys...sometimes getting hurt is half the fun ;)

LOL Ok, carrying on.... what happens between two (or more) consulting adults, I could care less about. Whatever blows your skirts up! I have a friend who is a Furry....I don't understand that at all, but it makes him happy!

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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I was reading a site that claimed one in four women have a rape fantasy .

Constance - posted on 05/31/2011

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I defidently don't understand some of the fetishes but if it makes a couple happy then ok I guess if that is what gets to the motor going. Have fun. I just don't really want to see it. Some don't bother me at all and can be fun. I can e a little freaky but if my husband was trying to nurisment then we would defidently have an issue.

Rosie - posted on 05/31/2011

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baby fetishes are disgusting to me as well. some women apparantly have rape fetishes and that baffles me. how anybody would be turned on by that man or woman pisses me off.
other than that as long as no one is hurt i could care less what other [people do when they get their freak on.

Michele - posted on 05/31/2011

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In general, I have no problem with fetishes between consenting adults. It can cause problems in relationships, though, if that is the only thing that works for one party in the relationship.
The only time I think an adult nursing relationship could be good is being lost in the desert or a snow storm or severe famine, though. Bleah!

Jenni - posted on 05/31/2011

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I can think of a few that make me sick to my stomach. Like ones involving bodily fluids, gases or solids. *hurl*

Yeah, I'm going to have to agree with the baby one or adult diaper fetish creeps me out too.

hmmm what other ones have I come across on the inet?
weird insertions? sex machines? cream pies (ick). Hairy women? Spitting.... oh lord and becareful not to vomit, there are people who get turned on by that as well!

Oh yes... here's one that creeps me out; foot fetishes. If I'm watching porn and a guy starts going for the piggly wigglies, I quickly hit the 'back' button.

But what two or three or four consenting adults do behind close doors is their business. Whatever floats yer boat.

Amber - posted on 05/31/2011

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I think a lot of fetishes are peculiar. But I don't think that they are harmful as long as both adults consent and nobody is being harmed.
Ohh..and that both adults are free to consent to the people they are fulfilling fetishes with.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/31/2011

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If it is between 2 consenting ADULTS, I do not see any problem with fetishes. If it is harming other people, IE ruining marriages, children, animals...yeah...well I maybe that person needs professional help.

My response was to fetishes in general.

Charlie - posted on 05/31/2011

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I don't think it would be any more beneficial nutrition wise than a good diet .

I think as long as both parties are happy , no one is unwillingly getting hurt then it is fine although I do think the whole baby fetish is weird , you know where they where a diaper and sleep in a cot .

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