Formula.

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I have a friend who has just had his girlfriend walk out on him.
He gets the kids every 2nd weekend. The baby is on formula. For him to buy a whole tin of formula that he probably wont even use half of for the 2 weeks of every month seems like such a waste. I was wondering if anyone else had ever had the problem of formula going past it's use by before using it all.
I am after anything anyone could throw out there because when he told me this i was thinking why they don't make half tine for those fathers who dont have them full time???

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Charlie - posted on 03/11/2011

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Karicare also sell cheaper ( than S26 ) sachets of formula too in Australia .

She is really being petty , maybe he could be the bigger person and send his tin back with her .

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Wanting to save money does not mean can't afford their children. Assumptions are ridiculous.



I believe you can get liquid formula in a small can. Even if he bought a bulk flat the individual cans would only last a day or so. So it wouldn't expire before he got to use it like the bulk powder would.

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Sharon what makes you jump to the assumption that he can't afford his kids? He is actually working fulltime and paid very well. They have only just seperated an she is refusing to send formula with the baby. As you would know in most recent seperations things can be pretty hostile. Just like you are most of the time.

Kati, Yes he is paying child support. He isn't the kind to not pay because he knows that child support is for the kids.

Stephanie, He is not complaining. He was talking to me about how stupid it is that he has to buy a huge tin of formula to not even use half of it. Why are you so negative?

Krista & Bonnie, I am not big on infor when it comes to formula because i have never used it. I have never seen the concentrate stuff on the shelves though. I think i will keep and eye out for it.

Rosie - posted on 03/11/2011

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can't he make a deal with the ex to have her supply the can and he pay her for some of it? i think that's the best solution for all. does he pay child support? cause if he does, his money is going towards stuff for the baby as well, so IMO he shouldn't have to pay her anything else. it's be nice if he did, cause it's HIS kid, but i wouldn't understand the ex having a cow when she's getting paid by child support.

Sharon - posted on 03/11/2011

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1. Why have a baby if you can't afford to feed it?

2. he should go online and hit all the baby freebie sites and register like a pregnant or recently postpartum mom for their freebies & gifts.

I did this for my babies and for friends who were expecting. A shit storm of free formula, diapers, creams & wipes will rain out of his mailbox.

And if the baby is on formula - why don't they just shuttle the tin back and forth with the diaper bag? FFS.

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Rosie - posted on 03/12/2011

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i wish i would've gotten formula samples. :( well,i did with my first, but not my other 2.

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Shannon- I apologize. I combined this post with something else I read and thought (I don't know why though) that you were talking about the same person....then I realized that the other post wasn't even you. I am so sorry for coming off to you like that. I didn't mean to be rude or unkind. I had this story about this deadbeat a-hole stuck in my mind! : (

Erin - posted on 03/12/2011

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i know you can buy boxes with packets you use 1 pack for each bottle i'm not sure if its any cheaper but it wouldn't be going to wast

Jodi - posted on 03/12/2011

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Shannen, I am pretty sure that if they have their deal through the Child Support Agency, he is already getting a huge discount on his child support just by having the baby for 4 days a month. About 50% discount in fact (or almost anyway). That discount is to account for the fact that in 4 days every month apparently you have paid 24% of the cost of the child (which is total bullshit, but that is the way the system works). Anyway, I am just saying, that any non-custodial parent having their child for 4 nights a month or more get a pretty generous discount on their child support to help them be able to afford to provide for the child during their visitation. So I guess this is one of those things.

Bonnie - posted on 03/11/2011

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I can't remember for sure because it has been a while, but the powder formula should have a later expiry date than the liquid one as well, so even if they use the powder form he should be able to hold on to it for a while before it expires. It may end up getting used up by then anyway.

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Sorry i didn't mean to come off as if i felt thats what you were saying. I think from some of the other comments i was a bit annoyed. I didn't think you ment it like that.
Yeah they had an arrangement set 3 days after they seperated.

Rosie - posted on 03/11/2011

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i wasn't trying to imply he was a deadbeat. i didn't know if they had an arrangement set up, or not yet-that's all. :)

Charlie - posted on 03/11/2011

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Good for him for sending it with baby , and yeah prohibited to promote or give free samples of formula intended for babies in Australia except for toddler milk by which age are usually weaned anyway .

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LOL April, We are in Australia so we don't have WIC.

Loureen he has said that until something better comes up like a smaller tin or he decides to use the pre made stuff he will be buying the full tin and just sending it back with the baby.
In Aus they don't give out free smaples of baby formula. I did receive a toddler formula sachet when my baby was born.

April - posted on 03/11/2011

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I wonder if he can sign up for WIC and get free formula from them? Can single fathers do that even though it is "Women Infant Children"? I don't know much about formula, I never used it. If he was a friend of mine, I'd ask if he wanted breast milk. I'd pump for a friend so that they could avoid the cost of formula (and i don't pump ever because I hate it, lol) .

Charlie - posted on 03/11/2011

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Im not sure they do that in Australia or are even allowed to provide free samples of formula for any age less than the toddler milk , In Australia we have strict rules that prohibit promotion of formula , only toddler formula is allowable .

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I don't blame him for not wanting to buy a whole container that would only get used for 4 days and then be trashed. Sending it home w/ the baby's mother may eventually soften her up (kill 'em w/ kindness), but he'd end up buying 2 cans a month if he did that. Still 2 cans a month isn't a BIG thing and maybe the mother would start being nice after a while and send the can/cans back and forth for the baby. One can always hope, at least.

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I just got a box of formula in the mail. I gave it to a cousin that uses formula. I have no idea how Similac got my info or knew that I was expecting. Sharon's idea of signing up for freebies and samples would probably work...for a while anyway. Perhaps if he were to buy a tin of formula, then give his ex the leftovers, it would soften her up a little to be more compensating when it's his weekend.

Jenni - posted on 03/11/2011

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Where I'm from you can buy half tins. There are also smaller cans of liquid form formula. Can't the mother just send her tin with the baby? My SO was in the exact same position with his daughter and his ex would just send her tin or he would buy a small tin.

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If the mom has the baby all the time except every other weekend and is supplying all of the formula for that time, why are you worried about this being a financial burden for this guy who only has the baby 4 days per month??? I don't get that. The liquid may cost more but it's only for 4 days per month for pete's sake. Come on.



Also, why would she need to help him with anything? If she was a SAHM and is now raising the children on her own it looks like he's the one who needs to do some helping out. Sounds like he has it pretty easy to me and should stop complaining.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/11/2011

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I would recommend that they alternate supplying it...or he just buys small tins of the correct formula, and sending it home with the baby. No need to be wasteful. He is the father, he should feel good about supplying food for his child.

Krista - posted on 03/11/2011

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That's what I was thinking too, Bonnie. Do they have the concentrated formula in tins in Australia? I think one tin makes two bottles, if I'm not mistaken. It's not as cheap as the powder, but is definitely cheaper than the ready-to-drink stuff.

Bonnie - posted on 03/11/2011

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The formula that is ready made or even the liquid one where you just add water comes in smaller tins.

Nikki - posted on 03/11/2011

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S26 makes the single sachet packs at Coles. They are cheaper than the pre prepared formula, but of course dearer than using a large tin. I seem to recall seeing a smaller tin of formula in the chemist too. I had the same problem when we were trying different formulas, I spent hundred's on big tins of formula which were never used. I used to make it up and give it too my dog so it wouldn't go to waste.

I wonder if it would be safe to store half the tin in an air tight container in the fridge?? I would think the reason it spoils is because the tins is opened so often?

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The baby is 6 months. She is having some solids but not much. The pre made stuff costs a fortune. With the society we live in with broken families i think maybe the makers of the formula should look into half tins here is Aus.

Newly seperated and she is not helping him with anything. He has to supply everything by himself even though she has been a SAHM so he doesn't know how much she drinks or eats. He said he would possibly buy the full tin first and give her whatever is left and do a trade off kind of thing.

Louise - posted on 03/11/2011

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If I was your friend I would buy the pre made for the weekends as the baby is getting older and will soon be coming off the milk and onto solids. For the time he has the kids it has to be more economical unless the baby is newborn.

Sal - posted on 03/11/2011

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i haven't checked latly but there was one brand that made single serve sachets, or the pre mix cartons, or he could just give it to the mum if it is only going to waste anyway, you never know she might get nice and supply it sometimes, or offer her half the cost of a tin.....

Becky - posted on 03/11/2011

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I was going to suggest the pre-prepared stuff too. I'm pretty sure you can also buy different sized containers here.
Or what if he made it up and then froze it? Can you freeze formula?

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2011

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I think they do half tins here in the UK.
Otherwise, they have like little cartons of pre-mixed stuff, useful if you're out and about but would also be useful for that sort of situation. He could just buy enough to last the weekend. :)

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