Gay Fathers Children

Claudia - posted on 06/08/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My Father said that he was gay after 25 years of marriage.
He had 5 children.
My mother found him having oral sex with a neighbor.
This caused a divorce
It was disgusting. He was at road side stops sucking on other men's dicks.
I do not accept this gay lifestyle.
It ruined my life.
I do not think believe that gay men should adopt children, being a child of a gay father.
It is a disgusting life style and no child should be submitted to this lifestyle.
But, now you see it all over the media. They want this gross lifestyle to be normal.
And, they act like "Oh I'm so proud you came out."
Well, it ruined my family, and I'm disgusted with the gay community.
Please keep in the closet Gays, because it grosses us out, and it ruined my family.


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Firebird - posted on 06/09/2013

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And your bigotry is going to make it all better! Infidelity sucks. That's what ruined your parent's marriage, not homosexuality. If your going to let the fact that your father is gay ruin your life, you've got bigger problems in your own head than you seem to realize. You should consider therapy.

Mary - posted on 06/09/2013

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I agree with Jodi. Do you think you would have felt much differently if your father had been performing oral sex on a bunch of random women at a road side stop? Do you think your mother would have been less bothered if she discovered her husband having sex with a female neighbor?

The degree of hurt and betrayal caused by infidelity is most likely the same whether the person is homosexual or heterosexual. I am sorry for the impact that your father's behavior had on you and your family. I'm sure it was devastating for all of you. However, I don't think you would have been any happier or less gutted if your father's partners had been women. I'm fairly confident that you family would have been equally "ruined" if his partners had been female.

Promiscuity and infidelity are not uniquely homosexual traits. Unfortunately, they are just as prevalent in heterosexuals, and are equally destructive to the family unit. I am so terribly sorry for all of the pain and suffering that your father caused your entire family. No child or spouse should have to experience that. However, I cannot agree with your conclusion that homosexuality is inherently bad or "wrong", or that the entire gay community is to blame for your father's actions.

Lady Heather - posted on 06/23/2013

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As much as I don't think it is "right" for gays to embark on heterosexual relationships and marriages and cheat on their spouses, the funny thing about this to me is given the age of your father it is exactly the sort of attitude you display that led to this scenario. My guess is that he never felt he was able to live any other way but a lie. Should he have told your mother before cheating on her? OF COURSE. But anti-gay nonsense is what creates the environment in which gays feel forced into living fake hetero lives. We will see less of this now and in the future as the world grows up and realizes that there ain't nothing wrong with being gay. I'm sorry for what happened to you. My dad is straight and he cheated too. Imagine that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/10/2013

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I seriously think you need to get some counseling to help you through this and understand that being gay is not wrong....and that your anger is completely misplaced.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/10/2013

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Clearly you have an issue with homosexuality due to your fathers infidelity. Think of how hard it was for your father to be living a lie for so many years, and working through his own feelings. Surely you are an adult that can try and see things from another persons perspective. Sue, be upset with him for cheating, but for being homosexual?

Unfortunately, this whole experience for you has made you incapable of loving others for who they are, and instead judging their whole life on their sexual preference. What happens if one of your children are gay?

And nope, doesn't gross me out....so all you homosexuals that are "in the closet" please come out and introduce yourself to me, cause I don't care what your sexual preferences are.

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Tabitha - posted on 07/12/2013

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This is not the first time i have seen this post....by a different person...hmmm

Emma - posted on 07/09/2013

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You should be disgusted with your Father, he STOLE 25 years of your Mothers life as he was too cowardly to 'come out' , She now has to face the fact that she lived a 25 year lie, and that time, she can never get back.

You ought to concentrate your anger at the right person, not 'persons' , The Gay lifestyle is not for you to accept or not to accept, it is irrelevant to your day to day life.

The Gay Community didn't do this, Your Father did, so how about supporting your Mother now? Stop being so bloody selfish and Homophobic, it's pathetic.

Kristi - posted on 06/24/2013

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Lady Heather is absolutely right about your type of attitude being a large part of why so many homosexuals led fake hetero-lives. You are contributing to the hatred and discrimination against gay people by maintaining this perspective. Men and women cheat, it's destructive and awful and "cheaters" are in a class all their own...it has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

I also agree with the other moms regarding counseling. If for nothing else but to let go of your anger and hate. It is tiring and overwhelming. It eats away at you and your life until there's nothing positive left in it.

If we're honest, I think most of us would be somewhat grossed out by the visual of our naked parents pawing and sucking and licking on each other! ; )

Dove - posted on 06/13/2013

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Ditto Jodi (cuz she's all I've read so far). Your father being gay did not ruin your life. Him having no respect for the institution of marriage... or himself... is what ruined your family. I highly suggest you seek counseling immediately to help you heal from this situation and move on with your life.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/11/2013

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Claudia, seek some counseling. You have deep anger issues, but you're directing them the wrong way.

Sexual orientation is not what broke your family up. Infidelity and lies are. Be pissed at your father for the infidelity. Be pissed that he lied to you.

OH, I like Jakki's post...heterosexuals suck dick too...am I a horrible person because I give my husband a hell of a blow job?

Sal - posted on 06/10/2013

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If dick sucking makes a bad parent then I guess there are millions and millions of children living in such appalling households the world over!!!! Man I hope some busy body do gooder comes and takes mine before they turn into resentful bitter adults too..
Like the others have said infidelity was your parents issue, he wasn't a bad father because he was gay...
A good parent is a good parent no matter their sexuality religion their gender or marital status ... A bad parent is a bad parent regardless of their sexuality religion gender or marital status

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I was going to say something but saw it had already been said by Mary and Jodi.

BTW heterosexuals suck on dicks too - are disgusted with that thought too?

Jodi - posted on 06/08/2013

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Actually, it is not his gay lifestyle that ruined your life and your family. It was his lack of fidelity within his marriage with your mother.

Has it occurred to you that it is the lack of tolerance that forced your father to remain in the closet and marry against his desires in the first place?

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