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Lindsay - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




How do you feel about adult activities such as leisurly drinking when kids are around? Do you think it does no harm for kids to be exposed to adults drinking or that it's innapropriate? Why?

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my familys done it. as long as no ones getting drunk. i have seen a case on tv where a baby was killed because the mom had her sister and her friend over and they got drunk and someone put alcohol in the babys bottle and the mom thought it was water and her baby died. however i have a rule at our house while shes still young no alcohol or anyone drinking. my husband fine as he can control himself and knows when its enough, but as far as having friends over drinking i say no bc i know that alot of times people do get drunk and out of control and start doing crazy things which i dont agree with around kids. but we have alcohol at family weddings and stuff and its funny to watch them get drunk however they arent so trashed around kids.

Joanna - posted on 04/09/2010




As long as their is a responsible adult able to care for the children, then I think alcohol is fine in moderation. You don't want your children to be in a situation where their uncle Dan is peeing in the driveway or their grandma Jan passes out on the floor.

Lindsay - posted on 04/09/2010




We always have beer in our fridge. My kids know what it is and that they can't have it until they are older. They have both also had little tastes of it and think it's gross and have zero desire to try it again. Madeline classifies it with salad in that she doesn't like it now but will as an adult! lol

I also think it's a good thing for them to be exposed to responsible drinking. They've seen us have fun with and without alcohol and will learned that it's ok to consume a little and it's ok to stop before you are totally sloshed.

Ez - posted on 04/08/2010




Having a couple of drinks around children is not an issue. I have fond memories of my Dad enjoying a beer while we played outside in the sun, or watched football (rugby league, not soccer lol) on tv on a Sunday afternoon. But I can honestly say I never saw either of my parents drunk while I was a child (I have once or twice as an adult... hilarious).

I am not a heavy drinker anymore - unlike in my early 20s when I was partying up a storm. I have drank wine or champagne around my daughter, but only ever one or two. I figure if a person drinks so much they are legally unable to drive (legal limit here is 0.05) then they are unfit to be taking care of a child.

Caitlin - posted on 04/08/2010




I don't think drinking in front of the kids is harmful at all, as long as they dont get traashed as others say. Myself, I don't touch the stuff, and my husband doesn't bother because I dont drink, and a bottle of wine is too much for him, so he only drinks when we have guests over or we are out with friends for dinner. When I was in high school I had my fair share of nights where I drank waaaaay too much, and can't stand to touch the stuff anymore for the most part. I on occasion will have a very weak cocktail for a fancy occasion out, but that's it..

Kayle - posted on 04/08/2010




I think as long as the parents are keeping their drinking to a minimum (not getting sloshed) it's fine but when they are complete;y wasted I think that is very wrong. I know a couple who does this (they are also both underage go figure) and we are no longer friends because of this. They were getting wasted around there 2 month old son and I told them I thought they were being irresponsible and they stopped talking to me. Alcohol is a depressant it makes you sleepy. I know I sleep like a rock after I've been drinking how are you supposed to hear a baby cry if your that drunk but my hubby and will have a glass of wine with dinner or what not but thats all.

ME - posted on 04/08/2010




My hubby and i share a bottle of wine a few nights a week after the kids go to bed, and we do drink at big family get togethers as well...but never to excess! I don't think it hurts them to see what responsible consumption looks like...I would have a problem with people getting wasted around my kids, particularly if there wasn't a sober responsible person there to handle any problems. I don't think drinking more than a couple is EVER necessary tho...I did that in college, don't need to do it now!

?? - posted on 04/08/2010




I think showing your children that alcohol consumption does NOT have to be about getting wasted at a younger age is a great way to introduce your child to something they will eventually be exposed too that can have great consiquences.

Showing them that alcohol can be a wonderful accessory to a good meal and that drinking responsibly can be fun will allow them to grow up in an enviroment where they are able to 'monkey see monkey do' safely.

I'm not saying give them booze, but if they see their parents, friends, family drinking responsibly from the time they're young, they're going to be more inclined to drink casually knowing they can still have fun - than growing up thinking booze is naughty, only for partying and getting wasted.

Amie - posted on 04/08/2010




Responsible drinking (one or two) during a get together is fine. We do it with ours and our friends kids around. I grew up the same way.

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