Girl forced to make an apology to rapist

Katherine - posted on 08/18/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )




What would you do if you had to write an apology to alleged rapists? That appears to be the case in Missouri, where a seventh grade special education student was allegedly forced to write an apology letter when the school didn't believe her. The story has drawn quite a bit of bad press to Republic Middle School now.

According to the report, after a Springfield, Missouri student had her rape claims dismissed, she was forced to write and hand-deliver an apology letter to her alleged attacker. A new lawsuit in this case states that the student was then raped again, and that the school did nothing to stop it. Enraging many parents is the text from the letter that the school sent out, which reads that the girl "failed and neglected to use reasonable means to protect herself."

It didn't end there though, as the student was expelled for her claims against the fellow student that was accused of attacking her. What was the end result of all of this? The girl and her mother went to the police, had a rape test taken, and found it to test positive for the attacker's semen. He pleaded guilty to charges in juvenile court, likely proving that everything the girl had reported was true. And yet the school denies all of it.

Is there a time when a school should not be responsible for taking care of a special needs student? At what point does this middle school believe that this girl stopped protecting herself as they addressed in their letter?

What do you think about this case? Does it make you absolutely sick to your stomach to learn that a young girl may have been forced to apologize to the very person that attacked her on school grounds?

This is unreal! They proved it and not only that she had a disability. How dare they IMO. I think they should sue the school for what they did.


Tah - posted on 08/18/2011




this is something that requires an all black outfit, ski msk and all your crazy cousins to gather outside the principals house..when i was done i would own the school system...they should be charged as accessories....

Jane - posted on 08/18/2011




From my experience with our local school district, and that of my neighbors, with something serious go straight to the cops. Bullying, harassment, and so on will NOT be dealt with unless law enforcement is brought in. And yes, I have had to sue the school district.

Charlie - posted on 08/18/2011




I am fucking disgusted , the people who made her apologise should be held accountable for extending her emotional trauma.

Lacieann - posted on 08/18/2011




The adults involved should be stripped of their positions. If there is a lawsuit it should be against the people involved not their positions. That any one would dismiss an accusation of rape is unthinkable to me, I feel terrible for that girl and her family. She is not only going to have to deal with the emotional scars from her attack but she will probably never be able to trust most authority figures because of how they failed her.

That any one should be forced to go alone to see someone they accused of rape is retarded. Even if he had been innocent of rape it stands to reason that he would hurt her because of the damage to his reputation.

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That is disgusting, however, she should have gone to the police, not the school. That said, the school should have helped her contact the police and get a proper investigation once she went to them, regardless of whether or not they believed her claim.

Is this a public school or a private school? If it is public, a lawsuit will not hurt directly as you would have to sue the whole district, thereby hurting everyone in the district, including completely innocent parties, and students. A better option would be to file suits against the individuals involved, not their positions.


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Carolee - posted on 08/19/2011




I was attacked at school once... in the middle of class. Thnkfully my knee found his crotch before he got his pants off. Thankfully, when I told the teacher, he got expelled and all his friends that made a circle around us got suspended.

This girl's parents should sue! I don't often recommend suing anybody, but this is one time that they should. The school also owes her a written and public apology. What "reasonable means to protect herself" did she fail to do? Was she walking around naked screaming "F%^K ME"? I think not. That is the ONLY way that it could be construed as being "her fault". Even then, she's special needs, so even THAT probably wouldn't be her "fault". Schools need to start protecting kids rather than blaming them.

Lucy - posted on 08/19/2011




What kind of child protection and safe guarding policy did this so called school have in place, for pete's sake?!

I am a teacher, and in the UK schools have to follow a strict child protection procedure which means that if a child discloses something of this nature to you, you tell them you will listen but cannot keep it a secret, take on board what they have to say without asking leading questions and then report it to the child protection officer at the school. It will then be investigated fully and passed on to the relevant authorities (in this case the police).

This procedure MUST be followed whether you believe the child or not, even if their story seems utterly implausible. If you don't and there are repercussions, you can kiss good bye to your job!

The adults involved in this case are obviously unprofessional, uncaring fools. To ignore the girls disclosure is bad enough, to force her to apologise to the rapist more disgusting, but to then suggest that the rape was in some way the girl's fault defies comprehension. How on earth did these disgusting examples of humans beings stumble their way into a career in education?

I don't think another post on COM's has ever made me so angry.

Sonya Maree - posted on 08/19/2011




WTF??? You have GOT to be kidding me!!! Sue the school, sue the principal and sue the court system that failed to put the little rapist behind bars the FIRST DAMN TIME. SMH.

Nikki - posted on 08/19/2011




This is just disgusting on the part of the school. As a parent I am very upset.

Katherine - posted on 08/18/2011




And they did the rape kit proving it was him. What a bunch of assholes.

Rosie - posted on 08/18/2011




i think i just threw up in my mouth a little....ah this is something that you sue for!!! dumb fucks!!

Lady Heather - posted on 08/18/2011




People need to lose their jobs for this. Stat. That's just so bad I can't even think of a word for it. The rage I feel on behalf of her parents is enough to make me want to fly down there and take care of business myself. Holy crap.

Jurnee - posted on 08/18/2011




omg! I cant believe that this actually happened. I think she should sue the school, the district, and every administrator involved as well. I also wonder if there arent criminal charges that can be filed against the school administrators. I also think they should not be working with children. No one asks to be raped,and what the hell is "failing to use reasonable means to protect ones self", we are talking about a child. Special needs or not, this is middle school, how old can she be 12, 13. I understand that this can happen on school property, unbeknownst to staff, but to totally dismiss the girls claims and then shame her by making her write an apology. They need to so more than sue, they need to make sure all involved are not ever responsible for children again, they have failed miserably

Lacye - posted on 08/18/2011




OMG! That poor girl! I can't believe the school would refuse to protect a child, let alone a child that has a disability. She didn't ask for this to happen to her and not only did they call her a liar, they threw her back into the situation by forcing her to go over there herself. The school should have investigated the situation more thoroughly than what they did, considering they didn't even investigate at all.

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