Giving Birth.

Sarah - posted on 08/26/2011 ( 129 moms have responded )

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As we've kinda hijacked the Breech Birth thread, thought I'd start a new one!

So, natural? Vaginal? C-section? Birth experience important? Not important? Was birth the best thing ever or just a means to an end?

Giving birth.........discuss! ;)

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Sarah - posted on 08/30/2011

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The only times I felt pressured by the midwives was with my eldest, they pressured me to get into weird and wonderful positions when all I wanted to do was lie on my back or my side.
They pressured me to have weird and wonderful scents on hankies shoved under my nose (which was REALLY annoying!)
They also seemed to be so intent on me giving birth at their hospital (which could only cater for very straight forward births with no interventions required) that even when it was blindingly obvious that I really wasn't coping, they stalled on sending me to another hospital. (they did eventually after my Mum kicked up a fuss)

So I think it can go both ways, midwives/doctors/etc can pressure people into unwanted interventions........but they can also pressure you into trying a non-medical birth when you don't want one!

Rosie - posted on 08/28/2011

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i personally never understood the whole "natural birth" concept. labor is painful, give me drugs. you can't hear my baby on the monitor? put some internal monitors on him. why would i not want to know that he's ok?

i do understand women wanting things to go the way they want them, i just don't understand how people get upset when things don't go the way they planned. you got a healthy baby, and you are alright as well -get over it. it screams selfish to me.



now hearing stories of procedures being done on them without their consent is entirely different IMO. that should never happen. now, if the doctor says something should be done that the woman doesn't want done, that's tricky. i am not the person who thinks doctors advise things only to make money, or save time, or their ass from being sued. they are people who have feelings, and i doubt any one of them wants to put women in danger on purpose. to think so is ridiculous. i can see them being cautious to avoid being sued, but i think that could be solved by having women sign something that they won't sue if they choose to go against doctors advice.



IDK, i know i sound like i'm totally against people getting want they want. i'm not really, i just think that SOME women have unrealistic expectations surrounding birth, and their priorities are mixed up sometimes.

Krista - posted on 08/28/2011

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However, I would never do anything to jeopardize the health or safety of my baby or myself just to have my "perfect" birth experience, because in the end, birthing a healthy baby is the most important thing to me.

And I think that's a healthy attitude to have. There is nothing wrong with your birth experience being important to you. Nothing at all. It's great to be involved and educated and to have your preferences and to be an active participant in the whole process.

I just get concerned at some women who are SO married to this ideal birth, that if it DOESN'T happen, their trauma is so great that it interferes with their enjoyment of their baby. Or, those women who, during birth, are so invested in that perfect birth that it clouds their judgment.

Things just need to be kept in perspective, that's all.

Elfrieda - posted on 09/27/2011

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It probably depends on WHEN they break your waters, as well as all kinds of other factors. I had my water broken when I was at 7cm and it really sped everything up like crazy, but then the midwife needed to go in and push the lip of cervix over the baby's head because I wanted to push but was only 9 cm. (Ow. Very ow.)

So would that have been necessary if I didn't have my waters broken? Who knows? I think her general point (that some interventions can lead to more interventions, and often more interventions lead to c-section) is still valid.

Cyndel - posted on 09/09/2011

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Birth experience when there are no or few complications is very important to good bonding with the parents/baby. Baby should never be taken away from mother unless baby is very sick or mama wishes it. Most minor problems can be cared for on mama's belly or beside mama on the bed. esp if the hospital had a full size bed for giving birth which would be so much more comfy. And unless it is an imediate life or death threat full explination should be given of what doctor wants to do (pro's and con's) and permission ask before anything is done to mama or baby though honestly a good doctor should have hammered out most of those details long before birth with the parents. But far too often a baby is delivered by whoever is on call and not by the doctor who knows them, their case history, and their wishes/beliefs. I think it is awful when this happens unless an Ob is gone on vacation or something they should attend their patients birth period and if they know they will be gone around due date they shouldn't take on the patient at all!
If there are serious problems then life is far more important then birth experience. But I feel it is important to later go back to the parents esp the mother and explain exactly what they did and why it was necessary. Just so she has some closure and can emotionally heal, because it can be very emotionally traumatizing.

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Ashley - posted on 10/03/2011

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I didnt have any plan for my first. I was induced due to preeclampsia. Horrific experience. My doctor was on holidays and i had a replacement but the resident didnt feel the need to let the doctor know i was in labour. Had nubane and the epidural. Pushed for an hr was made to hold him in for an hr and pushed 20 mins the 2nd time around. I was in extremely rough shape didnt even see my baby for an hr after he was born. Ended up 2 wks old with bacterial meningits. My 2nd the only plan i had was to not have a horrific birth lol. My dr had written on my chart that the hospital staff were not allowed to touch me (even break my water) without his permission. I had to have pitocin because my water was broke i was dialating but not contracting. Again the nurse decided she wanted to have it her way and gave me the pitocin before the epidural (against my drs orders) i was in huge amounts of pain for 3 hrs finally got my epidural (at 10 cm dialated and they didnt know) felt like i was in heaven after that and he was born 1/2 hr later. MUCH better birthing experience. Was still in rough shape after him (almost had a blood transfusion) but i pulled through and was able to sit without being in huge amounts of pain right after having him. I never had any plans as it sometimes does not happen as you want it to

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/02/2011

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LMAO Elfrieda, I'll remember that when I bring my girls to visit my friend in Alberta. She lives in a haunted trailer.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/02/2011

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Eeew. Creepy. Well I'm really glad she wasn't born that way then. Nobody wants to see dead people.

wiki agrees!
"A legend developed suggesting that possession of a baby's caul would give its bearer good luck and protect that person from death by drowning. Cauls were therefore highly prized by sailors. Medieval women often sold these cauls to sailors for large sums of money; a caul was regarded as a valuable talisman."

Elfrieda - posted on 10/02/2011

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luck to sailors? maybe. I heard it gives the baby second sight, like "I see dead people" ;)

Sherri - posted on 10/02/2011

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I am with Heather it really helped everything along when they broke my water. I have amazingly short labors and the breaking of my water helps things move along for me.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/02/2011

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Heather, I didn't have fun when they broke the water on my 2nd baby. And I guess my bp was 220/180 at one point. I had my 6 month old at 11:36pm. One of the over night labour and delivery nurses came in Friday night and she'd been there for my delivery Wednesday night. She said she got in at 11pm and by the time I had my baby she said she felt like she'd been there 8hrs.

Oh yeah, and my BP was so high I was pushing before I was fully dialated.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/02/2011

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Oh yeah, the caul thing. That's good luck for sailors or some shit. Or maybe I'm confusing my folk stories. lulz.

In any case, I am glad that my water was broken because I'm sure at the point I was at it did help move things along. I did not need to be pushing for more than two hours, both for my sanity and the health of the Bean who was not doing so hot.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/02/2011

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I've been induced both times because I have hypertension which gets really bad when I'm pregnant. My first daughter was induced the day before her due date and I had an epidural which worked wonders. It numbs you for a few hours which is good because nubain doesn't do crap and she was 6lbs 8oz. I know that's not exceptionally large, but still.

My 2nd baby I was having an NST (non stress test) every Wednesday at 8am. I went for the one 2 weeks before my due date and my diastolic was in the low 100's at rest on the BP meds so I was scheduled for induction that afternoon. I had her that evening. I had so much edema that they couldn't place the epidural so THANK GOD or whomever that she was only 5lbs 10oz. The worst thing was I had to be on an IV drip of magnesium for 24 hours and I couldn't eat until the 24 hours was up. Damn was I hungry.

Ez - posted on 10/02/2011

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Some babies are born in the caul, meaning they come out inside an intact sac. And yeah.. there is a big difference between breaking the water at 8 or 9cm and doing it in early as a way to augment labour.

Merry - posted on 10/02/2011

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I know a few moms whose babies were born in the sac, like some puppies are I think!

Lady Heather - posted on 10/02/2011

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Well you also said to never let anyone break your water. Ha. I'm sure glad I did. Have no idea what happens if you attempt to push the kid out before the water breaks.

I was early in labour (1 hour in) but it's probably not the same when it goes that fast. :) Certainly did not need any help in the progressing department.

Merry - posted on 10/02/2011

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I never said it slowed things down, I said it starts the time clock running because if your labor doesn't start then you risk infections which sets you up for a c section. not when labor is already going strong, but as a try to start labor.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/02/2011

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Ummm...I had my water broken by my midwife and it certainly didn't slow things down. She broke them because I was fully dilated and needing to push but they were still intact. Ha.

So my baby is breech now. She can't seem to decide where to go. And yeah - I totally called her a "bad baby" at the ultrasound. I don't know if I should read these sorts of discussions anymore. 3 weeks until my due date. Gah.

Becky - posted on 10/02/2011

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So many traumatic experiences! Wow! I'm starting to get nervous!

My daughter was a c-section due to frank breech. My water broke, but contractions didn't start until 4-5 hours later. The Doc examined me, said we were going to do a c-section. I had little say in anything, but I was hardly 20 yr old and scared! I was glad the doc made the call for me . . . my daughter was born & she was beautiful and healthy!

With this one we are planning a VBAC. I'm nervous I'm not going to know what to do, or that my body will not want to do it! I'm ok with an epidural, and of course emergency staff will be on hand in case anything goes wrong & they need to rush me into another c-section . . . I'm ok with that. After looking up info on medical inductions . . . that scares me! Sounds like the contractions are painful and unnatural. The couple hours I was having contractions with my daughter was not pleasant.

Tina - posted on 09/27/2011

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I had been for a walk I had been going for walks in the days before I went to the hospital hoping my waters would break. The hospital even told me to go outside the hospital for an hour before they interviened to see if it made any difference. My contractions were quite regular and intense I was bleeding and considering I had been in labour for quite a long time and was already very tired the doctor did what he thought was best maybe it wasn't the right thing I don't know and I never said breaking waters leads to more c sections. Like I said I am well under 5 foot I agree that height may not be a factor but the fact the fact I am small in every other way including the hips probably is. @ Sherri My partner was the one doing the research and no I didn't say only 6% percent of 5 foot people could give birth I meant people well under like me. Any shorter I'd be legally a midget. Both my kids were around 7 pounds. Many woman in my family are around 5 foot and have had natural births. My partner felt helpless through the whole thing and that's mostly why I elected to have a c section the second time because he was more terrified than I was. My waters were broken and drip put in about 12 hours before I had my son the pain relief was in the last hour. My partner and mother were in the delivery room with me who by the way has had 10 kids. She wouldn't have suggested intervention or pain relief unless she thought it was necessary but even she thought it was necessary. Every person is also different and what works for one person wont necessarily work for another. You've just got to do what feels right at the time. My son was born with an egg on his head but that cleared up. The fact I also had the urge to push but knew something was wrong and it was that I was only 3 cm dialated was also why the doctor thought a c section at that stage was in my best interest. It would be great if giving birth came naturally to everyone but it doesn't some people can do it some can't and although sometimes medical intervention is done when it isn't needed it has also saved alot of lives.

Stifler's - posted on 09/27/2011

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Mine broke with Logan and they measured and I was 1cm dilated. Then with Renae they put that gel in and I dilated enough for them to break my waters.

Minnie - posted on 09/27/2011

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My membranes didn't rupture until I was pushing out the girls with both labors. Four hour labors, I practically sigh and they fall out. I must have a pelvic outlet like a cavern.

Minnie - posted on 09/27/2011

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My friend wallowed around for 60 hours with broken membranes. No biggie. Was an out of hospital birth. We both had the same midwife.



Perhaps the difference is location? More risk of infection in a hospital. And hers were spontaneous rupture.

Ez - posted on 09/27/2011

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Laura is right. AROM is a big risk. And obviously it depends on what stage of labour you are in when it happens. But it definitely puts you 'on the clock', which increases your chances of further intervention. Sometimes it works wonderfully.. if a mumma is at 8cm and struggling to get that last bit of cervix to move it's probably a reasonable option. Doing it in early labour is asking for trouble IMO.

I had an AROM at 5cm because I stalled for a couple of hours. It was a huge mistake for me. I wish I'd just gone home. Because once my water was gone, I was SLAMMED with much harder, more frequent and longer lasting ctx. Having the bag intact cushions you from some of the pain. Having your water go spontaneously during labour generally means your body is ready for that next stage. With my AROM, I went from ctx 4-5mins apart, walking around between them and managing happily to on the floor (hands and knees), vomiting, fainting and 3mins apart. This happened within a few minutes of the procedure. It made things much harder for me, but didn't really speed it up. I still took another 7hrs to reach full dilation.

Patricia - posted on 09/27/2011

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ny firts baby i was cut and hd a forceps delivery 10 pounds 2.5 ounces after stpping me from oing into labour 6 weeks early then was 10 days late

Merry - posted on 09/27/2011

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My water spontaneously broke when I was 2cm and she was born 4 hours later :)

Merry - posted on 09/27/2011

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Ok if you are only dilated to a 2cm and they break your water and labor doesn't speed up and after 24 hours you start risking an infection this CAN lead to a c section!
Not that every time your water is broken you have to have a c section.
My water was broken with Eric because I only dilated from 6-8 cm in 8 hours but it didn't speed anything up and my dr was warning me it was getting to the point of a csection a few times before I got him out.

Ok so having your waters broken is a risk, either it can help it along, or it can do nothing and then if you're still not in hard labor by 24 hours they start talking surgery. That's why it's risky to have them break your water to get labor going.
If you're already in hard labor and they break your water it should just speed it all up.
Elfreida, both my babies I had that lip of cervix that wouldn't dilate, both times my practitioner had to push it aside as I pushed down. One time I had an epi so it felt nothing, other time I was not drugged and OMG white hot pain!
I wonder if my cervix is going to do this every time :/ hope not!

Stifler's - posted on 09/27/2011

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You're supposed to get IV antibiotics after 18 hours of your water being broken. I had mine broken when I was induced and that's when the contractions actually started I don't think I could have been dilated more than 2cm.

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Height has very little to do with giving birth tall ladies struggle as well if their hips are too narrow.

It is right that UNNECCESARY interventions lead to a higher rate of c-sec but interventions can sometimes be neceassry and can very much aide labour.

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I'm hoping for a VBAC with this one. My c-section was very traumatic. I'm not really a "birth is magical" type, but I don't like excessive medical intervention - though I accept it's sometimes necessary.

Birth was really just part of the process for me, not any more or less important, save for the fact I was delighted to meet my child.

Sherri - posted on 09/27/2011

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I am 5' and everyone of my births was vaginally. You better recheck your data Tina because I call BS.

Also I agree with Marina sometimes it is necessary to break your water and in no way does breaking your water lead to more C-Sections.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/27/2011

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BTW I am 4ft 11 3/4 inches...first kid was a c section due to the doctor having many patients on the floor and other factors...my second was a VBAC. I gave birth just fine, and technically I am under 5 ft.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/27/2011

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No it does not Laura. I was pushing, and my water had not broke (this is with my second child who was a vbac) and I could not push her out, cause my bags of water would not break. The midwife had to break it for me. Also, if the water bag is broken, it is suppose to be safe for 24 hours until risk of infection . That is what I was told by my doctor and midwife. Having your water broken can actually help the process along....

Merry - posted on 09/27/2011

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That can't be true! I've seen stats that say height is NOT related to pelvic width.

Usually at 2cm they send you home!

Go home and walk and come back when labor picks up. Breaking water really should be avoided cuz that puts a time limit on birth before you start risking infection. I recommend never letting anyone break your water. It just paves the way to a c section.

Sherri - posted on 09/26/2011

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@ Tina Are you saying people that are 5' tall only 6% of them can give birth naturally??

Tina - posted on 09/26/2011

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yeah true. although the doctor did say with my daughter there was no way she'd come out naturally although he left me with the option of trying I'm well under 5 foot and have read the statistics and only about 6 percent of people my size have been able to give birth naturally and in most cases the baby was small too. It is a pity though when there is intervention when it's probably not necessary.

Frances - posted on 09/26/2011

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Tina, where you went wrong was at the beginning when you had your waters broken and a drip put in. Interventions tend to snowball. Using the drip, pitocin, can have a 50% c-sec rate. All the interventions led to the c-sec. I'm sorry it did not work out better for you.

Tina - posted on 09/26/2011

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I had my son on a Monday I had been having pains on and off since the thursday before and had very little sleep sunday night before i had him they were more regular and intense I had full intention of having a natural birth having a shower and bath to help with the pain. When I got to the hosital I was only 2 cm dialated. I had my waters broken and a drip put in to increase the contractions and bring on the labour 12 hours later I was only 3 cm dialated. I only wanted to use gas if absolutely necessary by monday night i'd been talked into having gas. Not something I recommend. I got talked into having an epidural I absolutely refused to begin with but my partner talked me into it. The doctor was trying to give me the birth experience I wanted but in the end he recommended a c section be my best option because I am a very small person and I was having a decent size baby. I just wanted what was best for my baby and ended up having an emergency c section it was disappointing at first I had a bit of a cry before I got taken into theater but in the end it was all worth it. All that matters is I had a beautiful healthy little boy. My second child I was hoping I could give birth naturally but she was about the same size as my son and I elected to have a c section. From time to time have felt envious of other people who could do it naturall and a little annoyed when people judge people who have c sections and think it's a walk in the park it's not it sucks. A natural birth would have been good but I'm just happy to have happy, healthy children.

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I honestly don't feel that the means of how the baby arrived is important, As long as s/he arrives. With my first I had wanted to go natural with no meds. After being a week and a half over due i finally had to be induced. They gave me cervidil to start labor which i had a bad reaction to so i was in a ton of pain. They gave me ambien to help me sleep but it didnt work because i was in too much pain. I finally chose to have an epidural because i liked the idea of that better than the idea of being too exhausted to push her out and needing a c-section. With my second they induced me on my DD because of the size of my first. my labor started out easier but was a lot longer. I stayed at 4 cm for the entire first day. By the 2nd day i was exhausted and gave in to the epidural. She finally arrived after 40 hours of labor. My epidural wore off both times before my babies arrived so i did end up feeling EVERYTHING in the end. Giving birth was the most painful yet rewarding experience I've ever had.

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Was induced because someone got too comfy! 1 hour labor and emergency c-section to top off my experience.

Heather - posted on 09/16/2011

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2 emergncy c-sec, 2end time around better than the first labor wise, yes i would go throu it all again for my babies

Momof1 - posted on 09/16/2011

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Vaginal, no meds. Best thing ever, definitely! I was in labor for 12 hours 55 minutes. I had back labor and I felt no stomach tightening, just back pain. I was able to labor in the tub and I was able to eat breakfast and lunch, since I did not have an IV. I am super glad I did it the way I did it. However I did want to give birth in a squatting position, but I didn't end up doing that. The worst part was peeing afterward!!!



It did suck that because my water broke (at 2:45 AM) I had to go to the hospital, but I showered first (lol) and made my husband stop at Sheetz so I could get something to eat, just in case I wasn't allowed to eat at the hospital.

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Amy, it's because an epidural interrupts the natural processes of birth. It can decrease the amount of oxytocin your body produces, and it stops your body from producing endorphins. It sounds like your epidural was turned down or off at the end. Mine wasn't, and it impeded my ability to push also.

That doesn't mean that you didn't work as hard (I know my medicated birth was WAY harder than my pain-med-free birth!), that your birth experience was any less important, or that you love your baby any less. Nobody (with half a brain) says any of that.

I don't particularly like the term "natural birth" either. I prefer to say "med-free", "pain-med-free", "low-intervention", "intervention-free", etc.

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I don't like the term "natural childbirth".



I had both my girls vaginally but because I had an epidural it wouldn't be considered "natural". If you have to have surgery you go under, if you have a backache you take an advil or tylenol. I don't see why having some pain relief because it is available makes it any less natural. I still pushed, I still felt the "ring of fire" I was still sore for weeks afterward.



Who cares how the baby gets here as long as it does.

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with my first son I was too young and dumb to have a plan...If Id stopped to think about it long enough but at 18 I thought i could conquer the world and giving birth was natural,normal,easy that was all there was too it...Lucky (or maybe unucky) for me he was an hour start to finsh so #2 bugger me I figured "Ive done it once I can do it again" - my # 2 was born in 6minutes,at home with my husbnad as the catcher!! NOT A PLEASANT experience and down right dangerous.
#3 son we figured "we better get a pln together just in case" and I was induced 10days before my due date, to avoid another uncontrolled homebirth (and the dangerous assosicated with the rapid labour) and that was our only plan. Was told "expect a 12hour labour" he arrived in 5hrs and 35 mintues....
# 4 son came along and we figured "inducment was a great plan - lets go with that" and again that was about it, and my hubby caught that son too, in a hospital labour ward because again he came more rapidally than planned and we had been left unattened.
# 5 came along - our only plan was inducemnet "yes please" and although she was posteior and the hardest baby yet, I wouldnt change a thing.

Frances - posted on 09/08/2011

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I have had four natural births. I wanted to use the Bradley method and I had to really look for a place where I could use it. The hospitals around here will not allow natural childbirth, so I went to a birth center. I wanted no IV, no pitocin, no electronic fetal monitor, no routine episiotomy, and I wanted to be allowed to eat and drink during labor. I could not get what I wanted at a hospital. I only had an episiotomy with my first one because she went into fetal distress; I also had a second degree tear. (Episiotomies are known to cause tears.) With the other three I had the completely natural birth I wanted. I even had a cookie and some milk 20 minutes before my son was born. I never had short labors, I would have been weak from lack of food if I would have fasted the entire time. My labors were 19 hours, 15 hours, 11 hours, and my fourth one was 33 hours long. My birth experience was very important to me; as important as my wedding.

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12 hours labor and 3-4 pushes with each of mine! The whole experience was a bit overwhelming the first time but then it was like I was a pro! Natural all the way, no drugs and I would do it all again if I could!

Patricia - posted on 09/06/2011

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i would ever be without my kids they are all a special gift and a blessing to me and i have 10 but they ain''t nothing natural about child birth i will up date more later on my experiences

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i dont think that how they get the baby out is that important, just that u have a healthy baby is what really matters.

i had my first as an emergency c section and my second as an elective c section. with my third i cnt have a normal birth because of previous c sections, which is fine by me because i think c sections are better for me any way.

I dont like those parents who make u feel bad about the way u gave birth, makes me soooo mad!

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I love my midwife. She's retired now, though. While I spent my labor wallowing around in the pool she left me completely alone. She didn't do any cervical checks, and listened to the heartbeat once right before I began pushing (which lasted less than four minutes). Didn't touch me while I was pushing, didn't touch Adelaide. I was able to catch her myself. I love a hands-off midwife. I like to be alone while laboring.

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I'd love to have a water home birth but even if I did get pregnant again, which is unlikely with me having pre-e twice (I don't want it again it's not fun) I'd have to give birth in the hospital because I'd be high risk (and probably induced again, as I'm sure the pre-e would reoccur and I would worry about the baby needing nicu again.



If I had low risk pregnancies I'd definitely go for a home birth, and I was always disappointed I couldn't have a water birth at the hospital because of being induced.

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I wanted a natural birth and ended up with a c-section because my daughter was frank breech and as her being my first the doctor reccomended that I had a c-section. He said he would allow me to try for a vaginal birth but reccomended against it because of my "untested" pelvic opening. I cried for an hour after I told the doctor during my labor that I would go for a c-section.

It wasn't what I wanted at the time, but now I'm happy I went with the c-section, it gave me a healthy baby girl, and it's a good thing I went for the c-section. It turns out she had been in distress and had passed meconium during labor. I plan on having another baby very soon, and I will now go into labor knowing that it most likely won't turn out the way I want it to, and I'm okay with it this time.

On a lighter note. Before I found out my daughter was breech, I was laughing and smiling through my minute long contractions that were coming every 2-3 minutes and my nurses kept on saying they had never seen a woman so happy to be in labor :D The pain was a means to an end, and that end was my baby and I cherished those contractions. Although once the contractions started every minutes and it was horrible back labor it became quite unbearable :P

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Johnny I'll throw in my opinion as well----water birth was amazing! It was just amazing. Highly recommend home water birth if anyone is low risk.

Johnny - posted on 09/02/2011

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The birthing ball was my saviour. I think I would have wanted to die without it. The only down side that was once my daughter was born, one of us had to hold her and bounce on it to soothe her colic. It was the only thing that worked.

We are going to aim for a home birth next time. Being trapped in the hospital after the birth for 3 days for no good reason in a tiny room was a highly unpleasant start to motherhood. It wasn't as if I was getting a lot of help or anything, I was basically left alone there with my husband to do everything for ourselves.

Next time, I'd like to be at home where I can choose my own set-up. If it isn't in the cards due to risks, that's fine. I plan to make sure my midwife has priveleges at the other hospital from last time where they have full birthing suites for all their rooms and there is no chance of being stuck in a miniscule closet of a room where my husband had to sleep in a hard backed chair for 3 days. By the time we left, I was in better shape than him. I'd like to try a water birth as well, because all of my friends have totally raved about theirs.

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