Good for you FB!!!

Katherine - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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You've got to hand it to the Facebook censors. They may act like big boobs poking their noses into breastfeeding moms' photo albums, but they get it right with underage kids.

A new report from Facebook itself puts the number of kids kicked off the site by the censors at 20,000 a DAY. A DAY folks. Before you start grumbling that you as the parent should be allowed to determine that you're youngster is old enough for the site, if you think about it, Facebook is protecting kids from themselves . . . and their overly permissive parents.

Because if you're not mature enough to follow the rules of a site, you probably aren't mature enough to use it. And the rules of the site are pretty clear: "You will not use Facebook if you are under 13." So when they sign up, 20,000 kids a day are flat out lying about their age.

I've seen a lot of parents justify letting their younger kids sneak in with some big excuses: "But I'm their friend, and I watch what they do." "I stand behind them at all times and don't let them talk to strangers." "They only play games!"

I don't think the average parent is a BAD parent for letting their kid on Facebook. The bad that happens on there can be weighed out by the good (the kid who used it to save his mom's life recently comes to mind). With good management by parents, it's a great place for kids to connect with other kids and relatives.

But rules are rules. I can't help wondering if parents who would be angry at Facebook for requiring kids to follow its rules aren't setting themselves up for something much worse down the road. They just told their kids it's OK to lie "sometimes." And this isn't the "don't tell the lady she's fat because it's not polite" lie of omission but a blatant skirting of the rules. You have to physically enter a fake date of birth to get on Facebook if you're a kid. Arguing that Facebook is in the wrong for kicking the kids off is to argue that your kid doesn't have to follow rules.

So what's next? A fake date of birth on a porn site? A fake date of birth on a beer manufacturer's site? Hey, Mom, it's just a fake age, right?

Are your kids allowed on Facebook? What do you think of the censors?


Oh great they get this right, awesome, now stop deleting the boobie stuff!!!!!

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Minnie - posted on 03/28/2011

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I think no one under the age of 18 (or 17?) should be allowed on Facebook. Then we don't have to worry about the censorship.

Jodi - posted on 03/28/2011

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Well, I let my son have an account when he was 12.....I'm the only one who had the password, and he had it because it was an easy way to keep in touch with the extended family. I don't think it was that big a deal. He only used it about once a week and it was fully supervised and with full privacy. I really don't care what anyone says about it. I don't believe I made any bad choices in allowing it for those purposes. Now he's almost 14 and I still fully supervise it. It does has its advantages - it is how his sports teams communicate with the team, where the team photos are posted, he uses it to chat to his grandparents in real time (which is great when I need to the phone to get work done) and exchange photos with them, chats to his cousins, and some of the friends he doesn't see so much these days because they all went off to different high schools last year.



The media is always portraying FB as this nasty, evil place for children (teens), and really, it is the lack of parental supervision that is creating the issue, not Facebook itself. Facebook can also be a positive thing, and its use by any child under 18 simply needs to be closely supervised.

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Danielle - posted on 03/29/2011

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I know a few adults that aren't mature enough to have a FB lol.
I was floored when one of my best friend's son's (6) sent me a FR. I called her to see if it was actually him and she proceeded to tell me tha yes it was him and she gave him one b/c it helped with spelling and computer skills. The next thing you know my son who is 7 is asking for one. I flat out told him no. Of course then I was the mom from hell and heard the famous phrase "THAT'S NOT FAIR! SO-N-SO HAS ONE!" I just don't feel comfortable putting my child out there for the world to see. I even have their pics on lockdown on my profile. Unless your a friend you can't see my pics (or profile) and I don't add anyone I don't know. There are too many weirdo's out there and my kids are not mature enough to even know that. I won't let them have one until they are mature enough. Whether that be at 13 or 18. It depends on them.

Amanda - posted on 03/29/2011

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My kids are on facebook. The reason facebook has that rule is because its LAW in usa, but facebook failed to add the OTHER part of the law to their site, which is with parental consent a child can join a website under the age of 13. They did shut my sons account down until I emailed them about it, in a few days his account was right back open. Not sure how this mother can compare a social network, to porn or a beer company. These cafe moms are insane

Mel - posted on 03/29/2011

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some of my friends have account for their babies or pets but obviously they cant use their pages. I know heaps of people under 13 on facebook guess they must use fake ages I never knew the age limit was 13. I thnk they are right to censor it because facebook can be so damaging theres alot of bad stuff on it, not only bitch fights and nasty language but nasty groups as well

Stifler's - posted on 03/28/2011

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I'm sick of seeing stuff about Facebook on the news. If it was a uni student site like it used to be none of this bullshit would happen, you'd have to have a uni ID to get on. You couldn't make up a fake age or email address.

Johnny - posted on 03/28/2011

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I didn't report it to Facebook. but I caught two of our neighbors (7 and 8) with profiles.

One of them was actually hilarious, I don't think Facebook will catch him. He claims to play for Liverpool FC, have attended Woodstock, and be in a relationship with Gloria Estefan. The picture is of him with a mop on his head covered with a rasta hat smoking a pipe. You can't tell how old he is from it.

I told them to get it off there by this weekend or I'm turning them in.... to their parents. I know the parents well, and I know they don't allow the kids on there. One of the kids deleted it, and the other one hasn't yet because he doesn't have regular computer access, they don't own one. He's going to do it one day this week when he's over playing. I may make him tell his grandma though, she's not tech savvy & doesn't even have e-mail. I actually want him to tell her himself. But we'll talk about it when he's deleting it.

The other kid, the one with the funny profile, I would wager that his older brothers put him up to it, and he won't try it again. He is a very sweet kid, very smart, and extremely well-behaved. But you know how older siblings can be rather persuasive...

Iridescent - posted on 03/28/2011

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People report it. My niece had an account; she was 9. It's gone. My daughter's half brother had an account. He was 4. He was not using it, but all his personal info was posted. Violation of HIS rights, by his parents! It's gone. The biological father of my daughter and biological mother of our twins, both registered child molesters, both got their accounts deleted when I sent FB their criminal status from the state criminal database - within 24 hours! Very simple, very fast. There is no need for a parent to violate their child's privacy any more than there is for anyone else to. Nobody needs to know their full name, date of birth (you can figure it out when they post it, despite the lied birth year), their school and graduating class year, etc etc etc. Identity theft anyone? Why do that to your own child?

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Well.... that is awesome, at least! I agree w/ that comment about teaching kids to lie about their age to break the rules when you don't agree w/ them.... What about fake id's and stuff? Illegal people...

Rosie - posted on 03/28/2011

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no, my kids are not allowed on facebook. my oldest is 11 and has only mentioned it once. i told him no, and he didn't seem to be affected to much. my 6 year old asked me the other day, and i laughed in his face, lol!
no, not until they are 13.

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