Guy is living for Free and wants girlfriend to pay him for work around the House?

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I would like everyones thought on this Topic

Let me share a nightmare my girlfriend had and tell me what you think.

She met a NICE GUY in the beginning of course.An actor she actually met on a Dating service .

!Well after dating for about 6 month they lived together .She set bounders of course she asked him for Only 500.00 a month for living expenses and 1/2 the utilities.
Team work she promoted ..
O.k. the first month he came thru.2nd month he started short changing her and then after that he was basically living for FREE !!

She was in need of some yard work and you know little things around the house. For some odd reason he wasn't getting work as an actor he had the nerve to say I'll be your handy man if you pay me !!The nerve of him to even go there.
She made him breakfast and dinner washed his clothes on n on and he wants her to pay him!!!! HUH !!Well she kicked him to the curb !!!
We would like to know what the general population thinks about this matter.
My personal thought is how dare he ask her to pay him.
So please post your thoughts
Thanks

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Brittany - posted on 09/23/2011

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The average Mother's Salary (I am talking if stay at home moms were paid) would be about $40,000/ a year. There are 8,760 hours in a year. That is $4.57 an hour. Is that even half of minimum wage?

If this were the case my husband owes me $200,000! LOL plus tips!

I would have done the same thing and kick his "actor" behind to the curb.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/23/2011

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Hell, if I charged my husband for everything I do...Daycare, maid, chauffeur, doctor/nurse on call, cook, laundry mat, whore ;) and everything else.....dude...he wouldn't be able to afford me.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/22/2011

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I think he is a ridiculous free loader with no goals, ambition, shame, dignity, self respect, or respect for anyone else. What a loser. Glad she got rid of him before he sucked the life out of her.

Kate CP - posted on 09/22/2011

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My response?

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BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

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My thoughts? He was using her. I'm glad she chucked him to the curb because that attitude is a CLEAR sign that he's selfish and did NOT consider her an equal.

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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/29/2011

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Now this has me thinking how much do I owe my my DH since I'm not working right now because I'm waiting for my Visa to go through here in Canada. He helps with our baby, does the dishes and helps cook. But then again I take care of both girls. grocery shop cook and do laundry.

I couldn't deal with a guy like that though, I'd end up killing him and burying him in the back yard.. .or in the woods.

Karla - posted on 09/29/2011

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I haven't read the other responses yet, but your friend did exactly the right thing. Unless someone has a disability they must contribute to the household - One doesn't get paid by other residents when one does work at the residence where they live. (unless one is a child, which may explain that man's thinking...lol)

Lorraine - posted on 09/28/2011

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I would have said to him "pay you? - r u rent boy or something?" just to really drive home to him what a ridiculous thing to say. He was living rent free and wanted pocket money? She did well to chuck him when she did and she won't make that mistake again. Can't imagine why he is an out of work actor!!! xxx

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 09/25/2011

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If my husband asked me to pay him I would politely ask: Are you drunk?

Sal - posted on 09/23/2011

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Thats like my hubby paying me to clean just stupid out was the best place for him .

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011

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My Girlfriend was cautions about the relationship.
They actually were talking for almost a year before she decided to date him.
He was super in the beginning
What happen who knows.
She sat down and discussed the rules which is good .
However when he started slacking off she should have done something way sooner.
Live n Learn

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011

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The reason her and I decided to post this topic is to hear other point of views.
See he stopped by to see her yesterday and she had hired a landscaper to do her yard.
That's when he started telling her Well if you paid me it would have been done ...
So I intervened and said o.k. user I'm going to conduct a poll and see what healthy normal people have to say about this.
I actually told him to leave he was no longer welcomed here !!!
So he left !!
Many thanks to all whom have answered

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011

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Hello
Yes I am so glad she did ask him to leave.
The best thing she could have done.

Stifler's - posted on 09/22/2011

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I can't talked I have freeloaded off Damian forever hahaha. I did work after we moved here but I always made 1/3 of what he did so he never made me pay any rent or bills.

Becky - posted on 09/22/2011

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Freeloading asshole who needs to grow up and take some responsibility! Mommy probably did everything for him and paid him to clean up his own room! Glad your friend kicked him out!

Stifler's - posted on 09/22/2011

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I would be making HIM wash the clothes and cook dinner if he was living with me and I was working and he was paying nothing. I agree with Marina, FREELOADER!!!

Carolee - posted on 09/22/2011

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Ummm... I would have kicked his ass out as soon as he missed his second month of rent. I would NEVER have done his laundry OR cooked for him. You really do teach people how to treat you. Hopefully she has learned to set rules up before having somebody live with her, and known consequences that need to be followed through with if those rules are broken.

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011

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Good Morning Stephanie
You know ur right when she told me this I thought he was kidding as well !! Its like who does this ???
Yes he got the door alright !!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/22/2011

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Eh, he is a douche bag....just give him some fresh vinegar, and send him on his way.

Dolly - posted on 09/22/2011

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Funny u said that I thought the same thing.
I notice many insecurities traits he had.
O.k. so maybe he's having a hard time but pitch in and make good use of yourself,
Compensate and give back were my thoughts.

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Im with Kate...bahahahahahaaaaa!!!!! ; ) And of course Marina, too. I would probably assume he was kidding at first then laugh in his face and show him to the door.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/22/2011

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Oh, forgot to add.....he has no character, and was not hugged enough as a child :P

JuLeah - posted on 09/22/2011

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Well, unless she has the IQ of a rock, then I say she made her choice. She chose to move with in with someone she did not really know. She chose to accept his word. She chose to let him start slacking off. She chooses to make his breakfast and dinner and wash his clothes.

Then she kicked him to the curb where one puts trash.

He will find another to take him in. And she will have learned a good lesson and never do this again.

I continue to just not get it. I really don’t. We make choices and blame others for them. This situation was clearly not a problem for him, so in his mind, he did nothing wrong and there is no behavior he needs to change. She was the one who had issues with how this played out, but she was blaming him???

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