Have I Become One of 'THOSE' Moms?!

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I've double booked my 6 year old for sports! For the record, our parks & recs policy is for all parents to sign a contract stating that we never, ever push/force our child to play. My son LOVES, LOVES, LOVES basketball! has been waiting for it to start. We even put up a calendar in his room labeling 'basketball starts'. It is the non-competative 6-8 year old group. Practices are Mon & Wed at 7 pm. Games are Sat 11 am.

He also exceeds in karate and the original plan was to pull him from summer karate, and then resume in August when school starts up. Oh, that was a full blown tantrum because he doesn't want to give up karate either! (I have to giggle because when I catch him doing something I remind him "Sensei Mike would be disappointed!" ) Summer karate runs every Wed. from 5:30-6:30. Karate & basketball are 2 miles down the street from each other. Basketball ends July 24th, while karate is year round.

Oh, and not to mention that there is a Basketball Camp Clinic from June 20-24 from 8-9:30 am at the high school that I signed him up for. This is the 1st-4th grade group. I was leary about it, but he really does jump right in there with the bigger kids. No summer camp for him this week.

Have I doomed my kid by planning too much?

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Isobel - posted on 06/12/2011

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When the kids were younger it was easier to have them in lots of activities throughout the school year, I have found that lately though, if I have them in more than one or two at a time, there's no time for homework, family dinner and a decent bed time.

since family dinners are really important to us, we cut down their activities this year just to get a little of our sanity back.

Dana - posted on 06/12/2011

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LOL Well, I'm not big on running kids on a crazy schedule but, it is summer time and it's only two sports that coincide one day a week.
At least you recognize it! Other moms might be trying to squeeze something else in. ;)

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I don't plan, i wait for my oldest to come to me.Then i know its something there excited and happy about.It lasts for longer to.Its happy sailing really.

This works for us personally.Its all about what works for you.So i say stick with it.If it works.

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Laura, we're teh same way about dinner time. The problem sometimes is that dinner can be hit or miss with our work schedules :-( Hubby can walk in the door anytime between 5:30 through 7:30. When karate ran from 6-7 pm, we simply did not do family dinner at all. It was, "Here's a quick PB & J sandwich" at 5:30. Hubby would come home and make some quickie for us like sandwiches. Sometimes he would wait for me at 7:15, but if he was hungry he'd eat without me.

Why do all these kid activities always interfere with dinner time?! I hear the same complaint from almost everyone! Of course, it's so kids can come home, do homework, waut for working parents, etc. No wonder why so many parents resort to the drive thru!

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Hmmm - I used to roll my eyes at parents who booked their kids into a million different things and think they were big suckers for punishment.... but now we are totally doing it too. All 3 do soccer, Zoe does dancing as well, and Felix and Michaelie do cello and trumpet lessons respectively, plus string group and band practices, plus German classes. Plus more things I'm too embarassed to mention.

But I like what Laura said - when things get too stressful, you/kids are getting tired and frazzled, no time for home work or going to bed on time... it's time to back off.

Melissa - posted on 06/12/2011

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i have always planned 2 things for my son to do it's swimming and soccer for him, however soccer is only 8 weeks long and that's all i can afford as a single mom of 2. He also gets a daycamp this year since it's the first year he qualifies as completing Junior kindergarten. However you have to base how much your child can handle based off your child. I will do drop in swimming, or drop in events and play dates, or special events where that fits into my schedule better because i know my son won't be too worn out by it. As he gets older i will add more as he's interested in more, but he's young now, so i don't want to force him into too much as well i want him to choose what he likes too!.

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I don't think so and if he gets overwhelmed you can drop one, can't you? Umm...... I think it is verrrrrrrrrry beneficial for kids to be active in sports and programs. So way to go! They are usually better off later in life socially :)

Shannintipton - posted on 06/12/2011

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It could be worse Sharon, I am "That Mom". The one who doesn't go to soccer games. The one who doesn't go to the park. The one who doesn't volunteer as room mom. I would love to be one of "Those Moms".

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Thanks for everyone's comments. I think I got worried because when it's all planned out in color code on the calendar, it looks like SO much! But you are right....we can always pull back on one activity if it becomes overwhelming. Yeah, Wednesdays will be busy, and I'm hoping that he'll sleep well Wed. nights! My son still likes going to his daycamp summer program too during the day because they go on field trips and he really likes to be with his friends. Starting July 5th, he will switch back to a full-time daycamp program at his former preschool since I return to work. I guess I will start to consider priorities once the school year begins and what activities to partiicpate in.

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I don't think so. My son did Baseball and Taekwondo while still in school this past spring.

Like your son, he REALLY wanted to do both. It did not affect him academically, and he was not overly exhausted. That said, there were two weeks during the season that I felt he needed more rest and we skipped Taekwondo (since it is year round).

To balance, we are taking it VERY easy this summer. He still gets lots of free time to do whatever he likes and play on his own. It is important to have free time, but I don't think it hurts if there is one day a week that they don't get any--and it's not all year, just one season. So I think he'll be fine :)

Lady Heather - posted on 06/12/2011

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Hey, it works for some kids. I looooved being busy when I was little. My mum made me pick two things only until I got to be over 12 so I did piano and a couple of dance classes a week. Oh. one year I didn't dance and did art classes and horse riding lessons instead. When I got older I focused on music but I was involved in every group I possibly could be as well as doing my own solo stuff. I hated the odd day there was without an activity.

If that's what your kid likes to do, then that's what he likes. And it's not like there's much scheduled in for summer time anyways.

Constance - posted on 06/12/2011

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As long as he isn't suffering from being so busy then go for it. Look on the bright side he much rather be running around than sitting and playing video games. If he starts showing that he is tired even after sleeping through the night then I would say take him out of something. My kids are always packed full of things to do. They all keep their grades up and are happy doing it. I just got done dealing with a broken arm from my daughter. She is suppost to be going on extreme camping trip with her three best friends. I know they are going white water rafting, mountain biking, dirt biking and eveything else that will make me go crazy thinking about.

Amie - posted on 06/12/2011

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Not at all. Ours are constantly on the run but there is also 3 of them (right now) that are old enough to be enrolled in activities. Nicole is the most active but she loves doing her stuff. If she had her way, she would have been booked up Sunday - Saturday. As it is, we had to say no so she had Friday and Saturdays free.

Summer time we have swim lessons and camp for Nicole. So long as they are enjoying what they are doing and you're not destroying your finances getting them involved in things - let him go.

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