Have you ever gotten an “Im sorry, I know I was jerk” gift from your husband/partner/boyfriend?

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 12/22/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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What was it and why did you get it? Was it flowers, jewelry, a very nice dinner with just the two of you, or maybe a box of your favorite chocolates,

If you haven’t gotten a gift like that, do you think the gift would be less sentimental if he got it for being a jerk, or just plain rude to you? Or would it hold the same sentimental value as a gift he got you “Just because he loves you”

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Sharon - posted on 12/22/2010

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Oh yeah. I've gotten diamonds, lesser jewelry, chocolates, flowers, PHONE TO CALLS TO MY BOSS, MOTHER, CURRENT BOYFRIENDS. ugh.

I'm really easy to please, NEVER FUCK ME OVER. If you had to go to that length to get my attention. Its over.

I've gotten some incredibly sweet "I want to know you better, I love you" gifts. Not necessary but really awesome. the best I ever got I was a chain of hearts with a key attached around the arm of a largish stuffed bear. I was so enamoured of the bear, the poor guys mother had to call me to ask if I ever looked at the arm of the bear, lol. AWWWW poor guy felt so bad, he was sooo clever and I missed it!

Jenni - posted on 12/22/2010

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Pffft... No... my husband just smothers me to death and asks me if I'm OK? every 10 mins. Tells me he loves me every 15 mins. It gets pretty annoying. But the part I do like about it is for the first 24-72 hours (depending on how big of a jerk he was) he does everything to make my life easier. ;) Takes the kids out so I can have time to myself, does the housework, lets me sleep in late, makes dinner. *sigh* makes me wish he was a jerk more often. ;)

My ex finance use to buy me flowers, jewelry, take me out for dinner, buy me chocolates all the time but he was also a serial cheater. So now to me the idea of those "romantic" gifts just feels tainted and cheap. Maybe not the dinner, definitely the flowers and jewelry. It obviously wouldn't be a gift just because he loved me if he were giving them to me to get me to forgive him. If he bought them just for the heck of it that would be different. Men will do what it takes to get out of the doghouse and buying a gift is an easy way out. It means much more to me for him to show me with actions rather than gifts if he feels sorry for his behaviour.

Bonnie - posted on 12/22/2010

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I got roses once because my husband thought he had been a jerk about something. There has also been a few times when he has brought me home a coffee because he felt he did something wrong. I think it is the thought that counts. It is nice to know when he realises he was wrong sometimes and to get that reassurance that he loves me.

Amie - posted on 12/22/2010

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Now I remember! I went and looked at my vases and it kicked my memory. It was this past Valentine's day. I got a teddy bear with them too. Shocked the hell out of me, he's never gotten me anything like that before. haha

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I wish my hubby would learn to steer clear when i'm in a bad mood but he likes to push the point until we start to argue. It doesn't happen very often but when it does, it does big time. I don't get flowers because i don't see the point but we generally end up apologising when we have calmed down and been able to talk about it.

Stifler's - posted on 12/22/2010

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I've receieved flowers twice, once on our anniversary and once on our wedding day. The note made me cry and the flowers died in the traveling around from the hotel to my parents place to our honeymoon and ended up getting thrown out before they even opened.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/22/2010

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Sure my hubby has gotten me "I've been a jerk off" flowers. Not every time we fight, but in the 10 years we have been together, I would say about 3 times. I have also received "I love you" flowers, "congratulaions", and "I am sorry you are having such a tough pregnancy" flowers. I also love to receive the no reason flowers. I don't get them often, and love when I do!

Amie - posted on 12/22/2010

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There's only been once that my husband has ever bought me cut flowers (for the life of me I can't remember why it was now). He doesn't see the point in buying me something that will die so soon. So he gets me plants.

None of them have ever been for any special reason, not even "just because he loves me". We're just not corny that way. I get him little things here and there because I know he'll like it and he does the same.

When he is a rude jerk off, he gets his head ripped off via me and then comes to apologize after I've calmed down. It doesn't happen often any more. He has gotten good about not being a pain in my ass. When I'm already in a bad mood he just steers clear. No need to feed the fire he says. LOL

I can tell if he's in a bad mood just by looking at him. I'll prod a bit to see if he wants to talk about it, if not I leave him alone. I wish men were as astute as women about these things from the get go.

I wouldn't want a gift for him being a jerk either. It would be a reminder, oh ya he got that for me when he did ___. Just makes no sense to me.

Stifler's - posted on 12/22/2010

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I think it would be less sentimental if he got it because he was a jerk yes. I would rather a gift to say "I love you" for no reason.

Mrs. - posted on 12/22/2010

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My mom used to say, "Flowers mean nothing if the man can't put a flower in your heart." For some reason the guys who always felt the need to give me shit as an olive branch for bad behaviour were always the ones who treated me like shit in general.

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my hubby does a lot to piss me off, always has, but i can always find some reason that the ensuing argument is both our faults, not just his. sometimes i have full reason to believe he's being an asshole, but not often, haha.



a couple weeks ago hubby bought lasagna and rented a movie as an apologetic night in because he ran off and hung out with his friends without telling me. i could care less who he hangs out with and for how long, but he could give me a full day's warning so i'll think about how i'm going to entertain myself while i'm stuck at the house alone. he ended up telling me about it less than thirty minutes before he left and i was under the impression we were doing something that night so he caught me completely off-guard.



so i guess that counts, haha.

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my hubby's not too big on gifts for me...but we don't have the money to spend on things we don't need.

Tara - posted on 12/22/2010

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My ex used to bring me flowers whenever he fucked up and acted like the fucktard he truly is.
But it got to be a joke because there were fresh flowers in the vase on the counter ALL the time. It got to the point where I didn't even bother to put them in water, he would do it for me. It didn't ever make up for what he had done/said etc. it just made it seem like he could blow off the hurt with a bunch of smelly plants. I would have preferred and honest and heartfelt apology and a promise to try harder to be nice.
My current partner and I have haven't ever really been that pissed at each other. We're old and so a lot of stuff slides off of us pretty easily, lol. plus we're way more compatible.
However, I have made him a really nice dinner once when he had to go all the way back to work (a half hour each way) because I left the keys on the dock, and forgot to lock the cottage. I felt bad cause we worked all day and he was looking forward to eating dinner... so he did with his favourite dinner. Not an apology, just a way to say sorry to his stomach.
:)

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