Hello im looking for advice from someone/people who have had ivf.. I have a 6 year old little girl but my current partner of 5 years is not her bioligical farther. Me and my partner have been trying for a baby for the past 2 years and are struggling to concieve. Hes had all the neccessery tests and hes fit and able to produce a child as am i so im just wondering will that mean the ivf will be successful for us both?

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Mary - posted on 10/04/2012

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Have you had testing as well? Although you have already had a child, your body changes, and secondary infertility is actually pretty common, for a variety of reasons, and sometimes none at all.

I wish I could tell you that the odds are in your favor, but IVF is always a gamble, even when they cannot pinpoint a specific problem with either partner.



My first husband and I went though extensive infertility workups and treatments. We were an "unexplained" infertility. 5 cycles of IVF, all with great embryos, and not once did we get pregnant. I remarried at the age of 37, and without any conscious effort (other than stopping BC) I was pregnant a month after the wedding. Go figure.



I wish I could reassure you, but there are no guarantees. All I can do is wish you the best of luck!

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Mary - posted on 10/06/2012

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I don't know what country you are in, although something about your manner of writing gives me the impression that it's not America, which is all I'm familiar with. Over here, despite your young age, if you have been trying for over a year without success, any reasonable doc would either refer you to a reproductive endocrinologist for testing, or at least do the more simple cycle-specific labs themselves. As I said, secondary fertility is not uncommon, and your age and prior fertility do not mean that there is not some issue preventing conception now. Regardless of what country you are in, I cannot imagine that anyone would proceed without all of the necessary testing of you before embarking on IVF.



You need to research what the requirements and regulations are for infertility are for your area and healthcare coverage, and go from there. Are you seeing a GP, or an OBGYN? Can you at least switch doctors without a referral?

Lauren - posted on 10/05/2012

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No i have not had any testing as my doctors told me that because im only 22 and ive already concieved a child there should be no reasom why i cant get prengnant again!! How would i go about getting tested if my doctor wont reffer me? We have been using the fertility sticks for over a year now and yet no luck thankyou for your support and kind words its really appreciated :)

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