High School deals with 90 Pregnancies in one year!!

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Kate CP - posted on 01/16/2011

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How does this happen? Because of the stupid method of "abstinence only" education! Kids DON'T and WON'T abstain from sex! But GOD FORBID we give them a fucking condom and teach them how to use it! *growls*

Kate CP - posted on 01/16/2011

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I don't think media and society are solely to blame or even MOSTLY to blame. It's the fact that so many school districts push abstinence only education and it's been proven OVER AND OVER throughout the years that this method of birth control for teens just DOES NOT work.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/16/2011

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Our sex ed was actually pretty good and quite thorough. Of course my mum gave me some at home lessons as well. Not all parents are going to do that though, unfortunately. If every kid had proper sex ed at the right age (not waiting until they are 15 and already at it like rabbits), some of those kids with clueless parents might have a chance at figuring stuff out. They also need to pick the teachers who aren't going to have problems teaching the stuff. Details are necessary. I had the odd teacher who clearly wasn't comfortable answering some of the questions people asked, but if they're asking them then they need answering.

Perhaps schools might think about bringing in sex therapists who aren't afraid of the word "oral" to talk to the kids.

Tara - posted on 01/16/2011

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It happens because teenage pregnancy is being glorified in the media through shows like "teen mom" or "pregnant at 16" etc. and when you combine that with a lack of education directing at having SAFE sex not NO sex you end up with a population of young women who think it's cool to have a baby.
I would also have to agree with the trend setting mentality, it seems that the more young girls see their friends having babies, the more acceptable it is, the more desirable it is.
Where are the parents in this? Are they going to be raising these babies?

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Sherri - posted on 01/17/2011

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Ya in our town their will be I believe their will be somewhere from 400-500 kids in their respective graduating senior classes.

Nikkole - posted on 01/17/2011

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Sherri i totally agree with you on the adult supervision thing, my mom didn't watch me that well at all and my husbands mother was oblivious to everything i was having sex at 14 (with my now husband) but we were smart i was on the pill and he used condoms all the time every time so i didn't get pregnant till we tried after we were married! My kids have a while to go till thry are teenagers but im going to keep a close eye on them and try to be as involved in there life as possible i want to be close with my kids i couldn't tell my mom anything she would freak out and yell and scream i dont want to be like that i want my kids to be open with me! I think 90 is horrible we didn't even have that many in my high school lol

Sherri - posted on 01/17/2011

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Amanda interesting that you think that over protection is actually a problem instead of a positive thing. We have not one pregnant teen in our town and that is for a a population of 21,000 people. The average age that our children are having sex is 17 & 18yrs old. Most of our children haven't even heard of sex at 10yrs old and honestly most are just hearing about what it is at 12yrs old. Also the difference in our schools is you are never without adult supervision in the school as well. You can not leave the school bldg without a parent or guardian signing you out. Bathrooms and all hallways are monitored for stragglers. Even for school dances you can not leave the building without a parent going into the school to get their child.

So I am not sure what our town is doing differently then others but I would be willing to say we are doing something right?

Janessa - posted on 01/17/2011

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I was wondering are these girls from low income areas? I mean that is what happens allot of times to low income family I am not saying this does not happen to well to do folks but not as much in higher rates. Maybe these girls should have abortions If I was an american I would be piss paying welfare to sluts running around sleeping and thank it is cute to be pregnant. I mean abortion over time is way cheaper then people who have to pay taxes to care for these babies and their mothers. I know in canada my friends and I look down on pregnant teens don't they have a life to do something other then sex? When i was that age I was not even thinking about dating I had boys interested in me but I said we could only be friends because everyone knows what boys at those age wants Majority of them anyways.

Amanda - posted on 01/17/2011

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Fools (edit i mean the pregnant girls not you all)!! First off the first few posts is why there are so many teenage pregnancy. Its a PARENTS job to teach sex ed, and to make sure its done right!! Not the schools, why would any parent trust the schools to get this EXTREMELY important subject done right, when they cant even teach history english or math right. Second sex ed in many schools do not start until age 14, but children now a days are having sex as early as 10 years old.



And for the mothers who HOVER over their teenagers, and thinks they are in adult supervisation all the time, its those type of kids, who are "hooking up" in empty class rooms, and washrooms at schools. Reality is teenagers have sex, a lot of it, rather parents are fully in the picture or not, so teach your child to be safe, BUY their condoms for them (its no different then buying them pit stick, or pads and tampons), and make sure your daugthers are taking their birth control correctl (and teach them they STILL need to use a condom).

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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So hopefully with education, me supplying them with birth control. Talking to their girlfriends as well as my boys together. All I can do is hope that I have done enough to educate them, the consequences of those choices such as my job of doing in home daycare and having him have to help me and change diaper, give bottles, burp them and then listening to them scream on occasion. I used it as a prime learning moment. I know that eventually I need to let them go and make choices for themselves. I just pray that I raised them and that we have an open enough relationship that they will come to me before so I can make sure they are probably prepared. I am also not naive to think that they will ever wait till they are out of high school. I will be thrilled if I can get them to wait till they are at least 17 and are as prepared as possible. That is what my best friends daughter did. They made sure she was well prepared and ready, she was also 18yrs old.

Krista - posted on 01/16/2011

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Okay, fair enough. But at 17, they're still technically teenagers. And so were many of these girls in Memphis who got pregnant.

I guess the point that I'm trying to make is that adult supervision isn't the be-all, end-all when it comes to preventing teen pregnancy. We can't sit here and imply that none of those girls would have gotten pregnant if they'd only been better supervised. It's just not as simple as that, not once they're older teenagers.

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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Krista I can't speak for everyones children however, mine even at 16 they will go to school take the bus, come home, do homework I will still be here. They don't get home till 4pm and have hours of homework a night so there is not time for socialization during a school week. On weekends my kids will be expected to have jobs and free time since they most likely won't have cars as of yet just because of pure cost of such things they will be required to be driven to friends homes and yes I will still verify parents are home etc. So my guess is before they are without adult supervision 90% of the time it is going to be around 17yrs old. My oldest will be starting his senior yr in HS at 17 and my middle son will be graduating HS at 17yrs old.

Stifler's - posted on 01/16/2011

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The education thing is probably true. No one in my grade at school ever got pregnant except like 1 or 2 people if I remember correctly, and if they did they had an abortion. 1 person I know carried their baby to full term. We were all well aware of the pill, condoms, dams, how to put a condom on, STIs and what they look like from sex eduation if HPE.

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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Honestly my teens aren't out of an adult supervisions site virtually ever. They take the bus to school right outside our house door, go to school, get dropped off by bus at 4pm. Do homework, eat dinner go to bed. To go to a friends home I drive them, walk to the door make sure a parent is home. When they do sports I drive them to practices and games, stay with them, drive them home. My kids are in bed by 9pm Sun-Thurs on the weekends they may stay up till 11pm but they are always with an adult. They are not allowed to just roam around the neighborhood with out an adult. We live off of a very busy thorough fair so if they wish to leave our street which is only 500' long they must be driven anywhere they choose to go.

Krista - posted on 01/16/2011

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I did a bit more digging, Sherri. (Google is my friend.)

Kate asked how something like this happened, and you said it was because parents don't watch their children, and that young teens should never be without adult supervision. So you were operating on the assumption that these girls were young teens.

And yes, some of them were. But some of them were not. So I guess I have two questions for you:

1. At what age are teenagers old enough that they do not require constant adult supervision?

2. How do you reduce the odds of those particular teenagers getting pregnant, once you're no longer watching their every move?

April - posted on 01/16/2011

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I am not Sherri, but I would bet her philosophy is "my house, my rules". If an 18 year old is still living under her roof...I am assuming she'll be watching/laying down the law.



Now...I don't have teenagers yet, but Sherri, you do, right? Could you elaborate a little more on what you mean by "watching"? How would you watch an 15 year old? (besides setting a curfew) Also, never being without supervision also means "around the clock". Did you actually mean around the clock?



I am just curious and not attacking or being sassy. I just don't have the experience that you have in raising children just yet. I have 1 child and he's just turned 2. We're not exactly having the sex talk yet!!!

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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Read what I wrote I said young teens. Hence an 18 or 19 yr old wouldn't be considered a young teen. A 13,14,15 yr old would. How do you know the ages of this kids the article doesn't mention ages? Not to mention HS kids graduate between 17 & 18 unless they have repeated. So I was thinking this girls where 14 and up since that is the age kids begin HS.

Krista - posted on 01/16/2011

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Sherri, these girls are between the ages of 15 and 19 years old. Watching a 15-year-old? Sure. Watching an 18 year old starts to get a little bit ridiculous though, don't you think?

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2011

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It happens because parents don't watch their children anymore. Young teens should never be without adult supervision.

Kate CP - posted on 01/16/2011

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I totally agree on all points, Tara. I think too many parents are uncomfortable talking about sex and birth control with their kids so they DO leave it up to the schools. Or if they decide to "talk" to their children about sex it's always "Don't have sex until after you're married!" and they tend to ignore or fumble through the rest. It's a real disservice to the youth of America, I think. All these kids having babies and not being able to reach their full potential as adults because their own childhood was cut short. It's very sad. :/

Tara - posted on 01/16/2011

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See I remember that too.
They didn't talk about it like there were any other real options that could help, they glossed over all of the methods of contraception with a quick "there are several forms of birth control, that when used properly can prevent a pregnancy, however those methods do not guarantee you won't get pregnant, the only way to make sure you don't get pregnant is to not have sex at all."
Not very helpful for people already having sex.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/16/2011

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I don't know what kind of twisted mind watches 16 and Pregnant and says to itself "Oh man, I wish that was me!", but I guess some teenagers are just plain nuts like that. Totally agree - abstinence education definitely doesn't work. If parents want to emphasize that at home, fine. But the general population needs proper sex ed. It amazes me how many girls (even older ones who should technically know better), just go on the pill like pregnancy is the worst thing that can happen to them.

April - posted on 01/16/2011

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i remember being in high school and being told that the only way to truly prevent a pregnancy is to abstain from sex. They didn't tell us over and over, but they didn't exactly hand out condoms either.

Tara - posted on 01/16/2011

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That's what I meant when I said a lack of education is also to blame. It's not the media alone, nor the lack of education alone, but combined they allow for a culture where the very fact teens are having sex is being ignored because of the abstinence only policies. And due to that fact they are not receiving real applicable sex ed. that discusses and encourages the use of contraceptives for those students that are having sex. (which apparently is quite a few)

But again where are the parents? Do they also teach their children at home about sex and birth control and std's etc.

If 90 girls got pregnant, how many were also treated for an STD?

I do not and never will leave sex ed up to the school (once they got to high school) and if my kids were in school now, I would not assume they are learning what they need to. I am their first and most important teacher.

I have no problem showing my son how to use a condom properly (obviously using something like a cucumber etc. lol)

I would rather he know ahead of time how to put it on, so that he doesn't fumble around and end up doing it wrong and making a baby or getting a disease etc.

April - posted on 01/16/2011

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Maybe a lot of them are doing it on purpose so they can be on the next teen mom series. Those girls are getting salaries over 200,000 (i am not sure if this is per episode or per series, but still that's a lot of money!)

Rosie - posted on 01/16/2011

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crazy!! i just don't understand how this could happen?? i wonder what their sex ed is like?

Bonnie - posted on 01/16/2011

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Oh wow, that is ridiculous! It almost sounds there is a competiton there of who will be pregnant next.

Katherine - posted on 01/16/2011

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I saw this, completely ridiculous. How in the WORLD does something like this happen?

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