How do I deal with a neighbour not watching her children when me and my son are out there?

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Sal - posted on 03/12/2012

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how big a problem is it for you?? are they naughty or causing fights??? if not maybe she is comfortable with her kids playing outside alone, i personally am and they have played alone in my year for as long as they could walk almost, other mums feel the need to have constant visable contact, maybe offer her a coffee while you are out there so she feels welcome to stay and chat....

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Bonnie - posted on 03/15/2012

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It doesn't look like she is coming back and without all the info we can't be much help.

Stifler's - posted on 03/14/2012

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Is the OP ever coming back?! I swear i posted on this thread and now ti'snnot here.

Sylvia - posted on 03/13/2012

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How old are these kids? Are they pestering you or being mean to your son? Are they getting into trouble? Do you mean that she watches them when you aren't outside with your son, but doesn't when you are?



I guess what I'm asking here is why you feel it's necessary for her to be watching her kids every second, because from your post we can't tell whether they're toddlers running into traffic or horrible preteen bullies or just ordinary competent 8- or 10-year-olds playing in their yard like regular people ...

Lady Heather - posted on 03/12/2012

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You could talk to her about it.



Or you could pin a bill for babysitting charges to the kid's shirt.

Christina - posted on 03/12/2012

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i would take the child to her mom and calm tone tell her that you think her kids wondered off. you wanted them to make sure they were safe. maybe she will relize shes not paying enough attention to what her kids are doing

Louise - posted on 03/12/2012

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If she is approachable then tell her you dont like having the responsibility of looking after her kids, just because your outside. Tell her that what she is doing makes you feel uncomfortable and that you would appreciate it if she could look after her own and you will attend to your son only.



If she continues then call social services and have a word with them.

Bonnie - posted on 03/12/2012

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How old are her kids? Are they doing anything to bother you and your son? Maybe just bring it up with her. Just tell her that when you are outside with your son and her kids are unsupervised, it makes you feel like you have to keep an eye on them.

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