How do you feel?

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I was listen to a radio show.About Madeline Mccann.People sent there feelings into the show by txt and phone etc.

I was shocked and a little no a lot saddened that many had zero sympathy for the parents.

How do you feel.?

There choice that night was wrong.Although I feel there paying the most heart wrenching punishment for that choice.

How can some not feel for them.

I still pray for that young child.For her family.:-(

I pray for all the missing children, all over the world.

Your Thoughts please..


Kate CP - posted on 05/10/2011




I'm pissed at her parents. I would NEVER leave my kids alone at such a young age. Especially in a city we were visiting. What kind of idiot does that? What has to go through your mind to think "Yea, a 3 year old can handle herself if some one breaks in or if the apartment catches fire or if she falls out of bed or if she has a nightmare or if she wets the bed or if her sisters get sick..." So many things can happen at night when young kids are sleeping...I'm just pissed off these parents were a) that self centered and b) that damn stupid.

Sara - posted on 05/10/2011




Personally, I find it hard to have sympathy for someone who's behavior is reckless and the sad situation that resulted, that I'm supposed to give them sympathy for, was bourne out of that behavior. Sorry...I feel bad for their children and for that little girl, and I'm sorry that she was lost, but it's hard to feel sorry for them when they essentially created the situation themselves.

Tah - posted on 05/10/2011




If I had left my 3 year old alone with my 18 month old twins and went further than my car to retrieve something I'd be under the jail. This is child endangerment at the least, I feel sorry for the children, them..I just can't get it up for..

Rosie - posted on 05/10/2011




i do feel sorry for them. they obviously made a ridiculously stupid decision, but it was a mistake. if they intentionally set out to have their child harmed then i would feel nothing, but i don't believe that they thought she would be harmed.

Jenn - posted on 05/10/2011




It is absolutely heartbreaking...completely irresponsible and ultimately tragic. The parents got selfish and lost all sense of what the hell they were thinking which resulted in the literal loss of their young, defenseless daughter. The anquish the parents live with daily is by far a greater punishment than they could ever be handed from a court or wrath of peoples' judgement. I only pray the child wasn't murdered or by now sold into sex slavery, both of which are very real scenarios. I would NEVER in a million years leave my children of any age in a hotel room alone! Those parents can't undo their stupidity so instead they live with the consequences.


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April - posted on 05/10/2011




I feel bad that they lost their child, but I could have a little more sympathy if I was willing. I just feel that giving them too much sympathy could make them forget that hey...they did something wrong. Maddie would still be here today if they hadn't left her alone. In situations where the outcome could have been's harder to have sympathy. The other thing too is they were consenting, rational adults with full comprehension of what they were doing. It was a decision made in a clear state of mind (assuming they hadn't started drinking until after tucking the kids in). I feel bad for them, yes, but I am not going to write them a letter or announce on national TV that I feel sympathy for them.

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Just to add i believe wholeheartedly they had nothing to do with there daughters disappearance.I know thats a bold statement but i really feel they did not take part in this in no way, shape or form.They made the wrong, foolish, crazy choice to leave there kids but i think it stopped there.

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I really don't no.I was angry at first and i judged the hell out of them.

They know themselves what they did was wrong.We all know that.

I think if anyone is beating themselves up its the parents ladies.

There living without a part of them because of there silly choice.Not knowing what is happen to her.I think thats enough.I think there paying for it.I hurt that there hurting as a parent, all because of there wrong decsion that night.

There living 4years now knowing Maddie could be going through anything or has gone through so much because of them.

So my anger and upset faded and now all i feel is sympathy for them.

I understand we will all have different views and i respect that and thank you all so far for your input.

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I feel bad for the kids. While I'm sure the parents feel like crap (assuming they aren't involved).... who in their right mind leaves 3 toddlers alone so they can go out to dinner? :(

Krista - posted on 05/10/2011




The parents were completely irresponsible, and, unfortunately for them, they learned that the hard way. My son is almost 3, and I can't even fathom going on vacation and leaving him alone in the room, asleep or not, while we go out to eat! I won't even go in the backyard while he's napping unless I've got the baby monitor with me. It's horrible that this little girl is missing and that her parents are suffering, but I hope other parents who may have done the same thing can learn from it.

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That's so friggin sad......unimaginable! Gross!

BUT, sounds fishy to me. Either the parents had something to do with it or someone stole her. A 3 year old doesn't escape and wander off and never be found again.

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Madeleine McCann's parents, Kate and Gerry McCann, have been named official suspects by Portuguese police investigating their daughter's disappearance. (they were cleared since this this was written)

The couple have been in the glare of the public eye since Madeleine vanished from their apartment in Praia da Luz, Portugal, on 3 May.

Thanks to a high-profile campaign run by the McCann family, Madeleine's face has rarely been out of the public consciousness.

But because of the lack of clues, and the Portuguese police's secrecy laws, there are few firm details about what happened the night Madeleine went missing and the subsequent investigation.


Madeleine McCann went missing from her family's holiday apartment at the Ocean Club, in Praia da Luz, on 3 May.

She was holidaying with her parents and her younger twin siblings.

Mrs McCann is understood to have told police that after tucking the children up in bed Madeleine - who was wearing pink pyjamas with the words "Sleepy Eeyore" on them - said: "Mummy, I've had the best day ever. I'm having lots and lots of fun."

It is known Mr and Mrs McCann then went for dinner with a group of friends, at a tapas restaurant 100 yards from the apartment.

Map of locations

Their party included friends and fellow holiday-makers Matthew Oldfield, Rachael Oldfield, Russell O'Brien, and Fiona Payne.

Leaks from the investigation suggest the McCanns arrived for dinner at 2040 local time that evening, according to their friends.

At 2105 Mr McCann went to check on the children, followed by Dr Oldfield at 2130, they said.

Mrs McCann told police that when she went to the apartment at 2200 she found the outside shutter and window to Madeleine's room had been opened and her daughter was missing.

Mrs McCann said police were called within 10 minutes of finding her daughter gone. Guilhermino Encarnacao, director of the judicial police in the Faro region, said officers arrived within 10 minutes of being alerted, and an investigation unit began work within 30 minutes

The manager of the Mark Warner resort in Portugal, John Hill, said about 60 staff and guests at the complex searched until daybreak for the little girl, while police notified border police, Spanish police and airports.

They were joined in their hunt by hundreds of volunteers in the following days.

(She was never found.Shes been missing 4years.)

Tracey - posted on 05/10/2011




The details of this story, several years ago the MCann family went on holiday, left the kids alone while they went out for dinner, sometime during the night Maddie disappeared and hasn't been seen since. There was no sign of break in, no evidence of her being kidnapped or of a stranger being in the room, she may have got up and wandered off.

It was not just a bad choice that night, it was the same choice every night for the previous 2 weeks because they were to lazy or cheap to hire babysitters despite the fact they both earn good salaries and could easily afford them.

The children were younger than 3, Maddie was 3, the twins were 18 months yet they were left alone for hours every night so Mummy & Daddy could go and have dinner with friends without the kids around.

There is suspicion and a little DNA evidence (which is not 100% reliable due to the way it was collected) that the parents were involved in Maddie's death.

I have sympathy for the twins who will never have a normal life and will grow up in the shadow of a sister they won't remember, I hope that if anything bad happened to Maddie it was quick and she didn't suffer, but I have no sympathy for the parents who are entirely responsible for creating the situation in which their child disappeared.

Jenni - posted on 05/10/2011




The children were 3 years old and left alone in their hotel room so the parents could go to a restaurant and eat?
I do feel sorry for their loss at any rate..... but who in their right mind does something like that?
If that's true, I can't help but be completely irrate at the neglect of her parents.

Sorry, I don't know much of the details of this story. I'll have to read more later.

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