how do you say no to your children


Kristi - posted on 01/02/2013




Generally I'm a just say no or a hell no as well. But sometimes you can say no without having to actually say no.

For example, your 14 year old says mom, can Sally and I go see The Hunger Games at 9:30? You can say, I'd be happy to take you to the one at 7:30.

Mom, I want both of these sweaters. You can choose one. Or The Smith's need you to babysit Friday so you'll have plenty of money to pick them up this weekend.

It probably sounds silly but it helps take some negativity out of the picture. Ideally you get the same result but you're putting a positive spin on it. Just an idea.


View replies by

VEENA SACHIN - posted on 01/29/2013




My child is 3years and 7 months old, my husband death before my child born and i am staying with my parents every one love him lot but his behaviour is changing always fight with other kids and throwing the games when he get angry and always doing mischiefs i shout 2 or 3 times and explain him not to do but again and again he is doing and i am getting frustate and bitted to him and all were says all this happen over love and taking much more care of child

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2013




in our home im the disciplinarian type and mu DH is the spoiler..when i say no i mean it..even if she cries for 20 secs or to 1 minute..if its not ok to watch dvd unless she tidy up his toys i will not let her watch..just like yesterday ..she keeps on crying and watch her fav orite dvd..but still her toys are all around the floor..i didnt listen..and after she got tired of crying for just 1 minute..she herseld tidy up his toys..

and yes! i let her watch..and u know what she very good mommy isnt it..look! i tidy up my can i watch and have my milk LOL?!

very funny..she is very proud of herself!...for me sometimes its ok to say no at first until she will listen to what is the reason why i say NO and let our child cry for a bit for them to learn..

dont let them use crying for us to abide every bit they like..hope it helps.. :)

Julie - posted on 01/07/2013




No. N-O spells NO. What part of "no" don't you understand, the N or the O?
That's pretty much what I say. It's in a firm, but humor sort of way...they are 8&11 so they get it, and humor lightens what could possible be a negative mood

I also know how to say, "Yes you may and thank you for asking" :)

Sal - posted on 01/06/2013




Just say it.... "NO" they might fight you at first, but if you stick to your guns they will accept it more easily.... Give an explanation if you need to but just no is enough for many things...

Elfrieda - posted on 01/04/2013




I usually say, "You want (whatever), but I say no. Mommy says no because (insert reason here)." I try to say it in a kind, gentle way because my 3yo is a bit sensitive to abrupt, harsh "NO"s and he will cry. But once I say no that's the end of it. Being kind is not the same as being wishywashy.1

Ashley - posted on 01/03/2013



40 it usually ends up in because i said no...dont like it too bad..go cry in your room...but no is no

Momma - posted on 01/02/2013




Ummmm - I say "No". Nothing less. Sometimes, I give an explanation, all depends. If I am not sure, then I say "Maybe, we will see".


Tracey - posted on 12/30/2012




Say no and don't give in, they will soon get the message. If you give in after 6 why not / it's not fair type comments the kids will learn this and carry on asking.

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2012




I tell them no, if they keep asking I tell them why I said no. Then I ask if they have any questions about it. Normally they don't.

Amy - posted on 12/27/2012




When I say no I mean it so if I think the answer might be yes eventually I don't start with no.

Amanda - posted on 12/27/2012




I have to agree, I just tell them no and stick to it.
No means no in my house.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms