How many kids?

Sarah - posted on 08/19/2010 ( 39 moms have responded )

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How many kids do you think is the perfect amount for you?
I'm perfectly happy with 2.
My sister has just had her third, and I was jokingly saying that you shouldn't have 3 because it's an odd number. Her husband would like a fourth, but my sister appears to be putting her foot down (we'll see huh! lol)

So, what's the "perfect" amount and what's the right ratio of boys to girls etc.

For me I always wanted two girls and that's what I got! Lucky me ;)

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Anastasia - posted on 08/23/2010

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I always knew that I wanted more then one, being an only child was very lonely and I often hung around my friends houses's because mine was too quite and isolated. Don't get me wrong I love and respect my mother and step-dad very much. I have one boy and one girl so far and I am 22, so I have while yet. I would like another boy ideally but I am happy with what I have now. I wanted an older brother when i was younger so I am over the moon that my daughter will have someone that will look after her and protect her. She will probably will never get the chance to have a boyfriend though, but oh well there is always books and cats to have.

Lacrecia - posted on 08/22/2010

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i have a daughter and my fiance has a daughter so where gonna try for two more hopefully boys i think i can handle four i love even numbers and ive always wanted more than two

Rebecca - posted on 08/22/2010

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For us, we always wanted 3 close in age and then once they were 10-14 we would have 1 or 2 more. We have our 2, who are close in age and i am done. I have had too many medical problems for me to continue to have kids like we wished but we are looking in to adoption to at least fulfill 2 more spots. Just because they are not our DNA will not make them not ours, and we will love them as such. We are however still young so we will be adopting when my husband is closer to retirement when he is 37...so maybe in 8 years we will adopt our first one.

LaCi - posted on 08/21/2010

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I'm very happy with one, and happy it's a boy ;) I could be happy with 2, if I had been out of school when I started and such. By the time I'm out he'll be in school and I'm sure I won't feel like starting over with another baby. So, in my situation, one is plenty. Two would have been ideal under other circumstances, no preference on sexes.

Rosie - posted on 08/21/2010

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i always wanted 3, i was one of 3. and i got 3. but i did want a girl in there somewhere, lol!! i personally always wanted an older brother, so i wanted a boy first, and got my wish. then i wanted a girl to be in the middle, and i wouldn't care what the last child was boy or girl. ended up with 3 boys. wouldnt' change them for anything, but i do still long for a girl. not willing to do it though, either is hubby thank god!! 3 is definitely enough! knowing my luck, i'd end up with another boy, hehe!

Jessica - posted on 08/21/2010

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DH has always said he wants 8 :) I told him no way in hell lol. I am still thinking 3. I just can't imagine ever thinking that I'll be done for good. But I don't think I'd want a very large family. I also don't think I want to stop at just 2. But we will see. I am on my second pregnancy now- my son is 14 months and this LO will be due in January. I'm honestly scared about the adjustment from 1-2 kids! Going from 2-3 seems even scarier lol, because then you're outnumbered. But I grew up primarily with two siblings, and it always worked out great. My brother is 18 months younger than me and we were always close (not so much now, but that's a different story). I am 5 years older than my sister, and yes we picked on her when we were little but now she and I are also really close. I have another little brother and sister- they are 11 and 9 but from my mom's second marriage- so I was a good bit older when they were born.

But the bottom line is, we'll see how we feel after 2. Either way there's going to be a bigger gap between this one and the third ;)

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I wanted 5 hubby wanted 3 so we decided in 4.
We have just had our 3rd and when he is about 2 if we want another then thats when we will try.
I love my babies and don't care what i get but i always knew i would have a girl then a boy but after that it's all up to chance.
1girl 2 boys now so i would love to have another girl but we will wait and see.

Jacquie - posted on 08/21/2010

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Well, I wanted six, and I wanted the first to be a boy. I got a girl. Then that first girl was diagnosed with autism. Then I wanted 2. Then I got pregnant again. I wanted a boy. I got a girl. So now we are back to wanting three....

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Just kidding. I'd like at least 2. Devon says only 2. He's a boy though, boys don't know what they want until us women tell them, so he'll want 3 when I want 3 hehehehehehe

(I'm just kidding again, we both just want 2... for now, until I change my mind HAHA)

Johnny - posted on 08/20/2010

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I think 2 is the right number for us. I used to want just 1, but now that I have her, I know I'd like to do it again. It's been great. I will definitely not go past 2, I am strongly opposed to having more than replacement #'s for environmental reasons. If I wasn't the only person from my entire extended family on both my mom & dad's side to have a child in my generation, I'd feel guilty about having more than 1. But the way it is, we've narrowed it down from 11 to just 1, lol.

Caitlin - posted on 08/20/2010

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I originally wanted 2 and my husband wanted 2. Now that I have 2 I want a third, and he's not thrilled. Im trying to convince him, but I doubt it will work *sigh*

Charlie - posted on 08/20/2010

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I wanted two boys i got two boys so im done , i have given Jamie 4 years to decide if he wants one more and then im getting my tubes tied .

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I always wanted 2, my hubby wanted 5 (he is the youngest of 5) so we settled on 3. However, now I'm not sure if we can have 3 or not (fertility issues) so we will play it by ear and see what we end up with. I would love to have at least 1 boy (got him) and 1 girl and then with the 3rd what ever we get, but if I get all boys I will love them all the same (and I can hope my friends have a little girl for me to be girly with gqtm).

Ez - posted on 08/20/2010

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I always saw myself having boys, but from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I knew it was a girl. I'm a single Mumma, but am still young enough that if I were to find myself in another relationship in a few years I would happily have a couple more kids. I only have one brother, and I always wished there were more of us. So, in my perfect world, I'd like to have at least two more. But that really depends on how my life plays out lol.

Stifler's - posted on 08/19/2010

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2. I am too lazy and selfish to have more than that. I want to finish uni this century.

Abby - posted on 08/19/2010

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haha that's not surprising! Emalee watches and plays with her cousins often. The oldest girl is 6, the boy is 5 and the youngest girl is 4. She can get her little brother to dress up and play princess, go and get her drinks and snacks, jump at every command but she can't get her little sister to listen to her, ever. So Em thinks having a brother will be easier hehe although I'm sure when the youngest gets a lil older she might be more commanding of the boy than the older girl. They're both pretty bossy hehe

Jodi - posted on 08/19/2010

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@ Abby, your daughter is probably right, LOL. My youngest daughter has her 2 older brothers (7 1/2 and 6 years older than her) totally figured out and wrapped around her little finger!!

Jodi - posted on 08/19/2010

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I never really ever thought about how many kids I wanted. But what I have now is just fine, and we have NO plans for more (fixed that with a vasectomy). I have one from my previous marriage, I have 2 step-schildren, and my husband and I have one together. I think that is enought to juggle.

Abby - posted on 08/19/2010

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I want 3, my partner wants 2. We're currently trying for our second. Our daughter wants a brother cause she thinks that he'll be easier to control haha

Tana - posted on 08/19/2010

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Before I got pregnant, or even thought about having kids, I only wanted one child - a boy. I got him :) About 10 months after my son was born I changed my mind. Growing up with a sibling was awesome and couldnt imagine my son not having the same. So with that, I was pregnant a couple weeks after since my husband always wanted more than one child. I didnt care the sex of my 2nd just 'cause if I had a girl than she would have a big brother to protect her and if I had a boy than he would have a brother to play with.
I ended up with 2 boys - the perfect amount for me :)

Lindsay - posted on 08/19/2010

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I always wanted a big family. Until I actually started having kids of my own, I said I'd like 5. There were 3 kids in my family, and I always wished for a few more siblings. I have 2 now, a boy and a girl, and we are done....unless we hit the lottery! I did have my tubes tied last summer and am 99.9% sure that it will be our family of 4 and no more. We did leave it where if on that .01% that we decide for more, we have a good chance of having it reversed and are able to have more. I'll never say never but I'm pretty sure we are set.

Thejordan_family - posted on 08/19/2010

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if I had the money I would of had 12. A great big family with lots of money for extra curricular stuff and a big car/van and a maid to help out with teh cleaning and cooking..... hmmm... life didnt really turn out that way.
We are having our 3rd right now. I am pretty happy with that. I grew up in a 2 kid household and felt there was always someone missing. I hope 3 is good for my kids.

Shelley - posted on 08/19/2010

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I have 2 lovely girls and if i think logically everyone fits in the house and the car and i can carry 2 if i need to we take one each ect. But then there is this part of me that loves babies and i would love just one more. i had 2 c-sections and i feel really riped off and i would like to have 1 natural birth to proove to myself that i can do it.

Fiona - posted on 08/19/2010

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@ Tara lol, I'm half asleep and thought you'd written rampaging instead of ranging.

i'd quite like to have two kids, preferably with the second being a girl, however if my husbands boyfriend doesnt think he can cope with having another kid around, i think i'll just get a cat, as i don't want to break the family dynamic we have. any decisions on this won't be made until after my son is toilet trained.

Chrystal - posted on 08/19/2010

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I would like 2. I have a little girl, and I would like a boy. But I had a delivery scare and nearly lost my life, so I don't even want to think about having another kid right now.

Tara - posted on 08/19/2010

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When I was a little girl of 7 I told my grandma I wanted to have 3 boys and 3 girls when I grew up.
Well I have 3 boys and 3 girls, but... I had 5 with my ex, 3 girls and 2 boys. Thought I was done having babies. They were planned, except for my first. My ex had a vasectomy after our last girl. I divorced him, went on birth control, used a condom with my current partner and voila! boy number 3. So for me, it's just right now. 3 of each ranging in age from 8 months to 17 years. I had my tubes tied in the spring so I'm done. And happy with my larger than average brood.
It's always busy and there's never a dull moment in my house!
:)Tara

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I always wanted 2-5. When I found out the twins were both girls... it changed to 3-5. IF I had been in a good marriage.. and still IN a good marriage... I probably would've liked 4, but now that I'm single 3 is it... even if I were to remarry. I am DONE!

Sara - posted on 08/19/2010

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I'd like to have 3, but I don't know if that will happen. We're going to have to wait another year before we start trying for number 2, so unless I have twins I just might be too damn old (in my own opinion for MYSELF) to have another baby. We'll see. I'd like to have at least 2 though.

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I used to say 4, but since I became a Mom I have thought about it a bit more. I want at least two, hopefully one of each. I would keep trying until we had at least one of each, but I don't like uneven numbers. For example, if I had another girl and then my third was a boy, I would have another to make four. I'm kind of more on the side of seeing how it goes with two, though, lol.

September - posted on 08/19/2010

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I think two would be just perfect however my husband would like 3. We will see how we mange 2 before we decide to have a 3rd. We have a 22 month old boy and we plan to start trying for our 2nd this fall and we hope to have a girl. I've always wanted one of each however of course I'll be happy with whatever we are blessed with. :)

Krista - posted on 08/19/2010

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We've always just wanted two kids. We'd love for our next one to be a girl, but if it's not, we're not going to keep on trying. Two just feels right to us.

Besides, a friend of mine has three, and she has a HELL of a time finding a babysitter. Most people are willing to watch two kids. Three? Not so much.

Jenny - posted on 08/19/2010

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I wanted a girl and a boy and that's what I got. I can keep a smaller house. I can avoid buying a minivan. I could fit them both in the gorcery cart while shopping. They can each go with a parent and get one on one time. I can spank 'em both at the same time. I can hug 'em both at the same time too although I suppose we could squeeze in a couple more. Yep, two's good. Should I go insane and desire another, I'll adopt.

Sharon - posted on 08/19/2010

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I always wanted at least 3 kids. Definitely more than two - no more than 4. I wanted my oldest to be a boy.

I got what I wanted - very fortunate for me. I'm pretty set for kids. The only we will have number 4 is if we win the lottery - lol - maybe not even then.

Sarah - posted on 08/19/2010

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My sister was saying that is was ok to have 3 in her case, because her eldest is a girl and will always be special because she's the oldest. Her middle one is a boy and he's the only boy so he will always be special because of that. The youngest is a girl, and she'll be special as she's the baby. (of course all kids are special, but you get the point. lol)

I still say an even number is better! hahaha. ;)

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I never really put a number on it. I want at least two, but my thought has always been, "have the two and then decide if I want more." As of right now, I don't think we'll have more than 2. Two kids can fit comfortably in our house, we can afford two, and I eventually want to go back to work (which I'll do when my kids are school aged). Two makes sense for our family. If we have a happy little "oops" and we end up with three, I wouldn't be upset.

As far as boys and girls, I don't really care about that either. My husband wanted a first born son, but that didn't happen and now he wouldn't trade our girl for anything. He sheepishly admitted to me that he hopes this next baby will be another girl.

Lyndsay - posted on 08/19/2010

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I used to want 2-3 children, at least one boy and girl. I was willing to go up to 3 to get what I wanted, but if I ended up with 3 of the same sex then I wouldn't try any more. Now that I am actually a mother, I am perfectly happy with my one little boy and don't want any more children at all. I have two nieces and one of them lives in the apartment right across the hall from me, so if I ever need a girly fix thats where I'll go.

Amie - posted on 08/19/2010

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I've always wanted 4 kids. Ideally I wanted 2 of each but I got 3 girls and 1 boy.

I feel for my son though, he's one of the middle kids and he's already slowly tortured each day by his sisters. gqtm

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