how many kids do you have

Sal - posted on 01/20/2011 ( 33 moms have responded )

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after reading the home alone thread i thought it would be interseting (to get some perception) to see how many kids you have?, how old they are? if you have a few have you got more relaxed with what you are comfortable with or with more have you got a little more cautious? i remember ( a long time ago) having one litte baby and the thought of leaving him alone in a room was appalling to me now i feel i was a little over the top, and from experience the time my kids have hurt them selves i was on hand but still couldn't stop it.

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Jodi - posted on 01/20/2011

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A stepdaughter (18 and just about to start University!!), a step-son (11), my son from a previous marriage (13) and a daughter from my current marriage (almost 6).

I don't think my parenting style has changed. Of course it changes over time because your kids get older, so you tend to view some things differently (like when they are 2 you can't imagine allowing them to walk to school on their own, but once they reach that age, YOU are ready for it, once they start going out on their own or on a date, YOU are ready for it too). I don't know how to explain it. It's not like relaxing your rules, it is a kind of *growing with them*.

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I have 5. Christopher I had to bury since he was born to early & 4 daughters ages 14, 7, 4, & 3. I have always been vigilant but more make me more relaxed at home and even more cautious when out and about.

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@tara, i do not use chemical cleaners. Everything i use is all natural. So i didn't have those things to move. I have my shampoos/razors and whatnot out of reach. Hence the taking precautions to not leave dangerous items lying around comment :) I didn't get a single baby proofing item aside from my baby gate. which is only so she doesn't get too far away from me. I need to be able to hear her. I didn't lock anything up, put latches on cupboards, or stuff in my outlets though.

Kate CP - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have one 4 (almost 5) year old daughter and one son in utero...and I don't think he's ever coming out. :P

Nicole - posted on 01/20/2011

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I do baby proof but we don't spend a lot of time at home right now. We arrive home, eat, bathe and the kids go to bed.



When I move into my nicer place I will spend more time around the house.

Sharon - posted on 01/20/2011

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how many kids you have?,
3

how old they are?
B-15 yrs, B-11, yrs, G-8 yrs

if you have a few have you got more relaxed with what you are comfortable with or with more have you got a little more cautious?

I was never that uptight of a mom to begin with. And I relaxed with each kid.

Our home was pretty well babyproofed. Barring throwing all the furniture out and padding the walls - it was baby proofed. so no, I didn't spazz out when I left a toddler alone in a room to go to the bathroom or stir something on the stove or change over the laundry.

Joanna - posted on 01/20/2011

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I sort of have 3...my first i adopted out, but is still a part of my life, she turned 9 yesterday!



I have 2 girls with my husband, they are 3 years, and 3 months. I'm not crazy watchful, I never have been. I'm cautious but am okay with not being in the same room constantly, as long as they are safe (like baby in a playpen, baby gates up, etc).

Charlie - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have two boys Cooper 2 and 2 months and Harry 6 months .

Breastfeeding was much easier and much more relaxed , Ive always been pretty free range , I don't feel that has changed .

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2011

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I didnt need to baby proof over the top either Julianne some kids are better then others and the locks on cupboards just got annoying to take off every time.

In answer to the OP I have a nearly 3 year old girl and 6 month old girl planning at least 2 more

Tara - posted on 01/20/2011

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@Julianne,
When you say you don't baby proof, do you mean you DON'T baby proof, or you just don't do some things.
I'm going to assume you put things like chemicals, cleaners, laundry soap, shampoo etc. out of reach?

Stifler's - posted on 01/20/2011

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I think I'll be more laid back on things like burping the baby with the second. We seriously used to force burps out of Logan by patting him instead of just waiting for him to burp, it probably made things worse. I think I'll know more of what to do and what not to worry about with the second.

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1 daughter, she is 13 months. Working on #2. I did not baby proof, i do take precautions not to leave dangerous things lying around though. I'm more laid back than other moms i know. I have a good grasp on what she can handle and what she cant. When i was taking care of my brother, we needed to baby-proof, every child is different.

Tara - posted on 01/20/2011

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six kids, ages 1, 5, 8, 10, 14 and 17.

I have always been a pretty relaxed parent. My little ones were always very independent (read the co-sleeping thread lol) and were always off doing stuff on their own from the time they could walk. But I always had a baby proofed home, completely proofed. Even if it meant all the kitchen chairs were on the table so they couldn't climb on them when I was switching the laundry etc.

But I will say that I am more relaxed than I thought I would be with my older kids.... but I think that has more to do with the fact I didn't know my kids would be so mature and responsible. So I could also say because they were independent as little ones, and I allowed that independence from the get go, they have grown to be responsibly independent both in their actions and their thoughts. :)



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That's awful about your friends baby Emma. So sad.

Nikkole - posted on 01/20/2011

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My son is 3yrs old and my daughter is 6months! From going through things with my first im more laid back with my second

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I have 3 beautiful littel girls, ages 8, 3 and (almost) 2. I'm pretty relaxed in my parenting style, but I do worry about some little things (like when my 3 year-old had her accident prone stage and used to fall down in the kitchen a lot - the kitchen with the really hard stone floor... we went and bought a bunch of rugs for the floor), but I'm mostly relaxed. I let my kids eat dirt, I don't force them to stop climbing on the couch (I tell them not to, but they usually have to fall off at least once to learn their lesson and stop doing it), stuff like that. If my hubby isn't home, my 8 year-old will sometimes watch her sisters while I take a shower (and I always turn on Dora, so she doesn't really have to do anything).

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I have one 6 year old boy. Since I only have one, I can't really compare weather or not I would be less cautious with the second, but I can say that I am getting less and less cautious the older he gets....well, maybe not "less cautious" but cautious about different things and more lax on some of the things I used to be crazy about.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/20/2011

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Just the one - Freja, 19 months old. Currently working on number two. Totally thought we had it last month. Tricky uterus.

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emma, why not teach him how to hold his breath underwater, its still awesome to be cautious about water around babies, but it might make you feel better.

Lindsay - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have 2 kids. My daughter will be 6 in a few weeks (cry!) and my son is 4. My parenting style hasn't changed too much. I've always been pretty laid back but veered on the side of caution. With every stage there's a new worry and new challenges but we adjust and continue on. :)

Stifler's - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have one who is 1 on the 28th and another one due on the 18th May. When I had him I was like ahh baby proofing he'll be right. I've gotten more cautious since experiencing and hearing about all the mischief kids can get into and since accidentally leaving the toilet door open to find him banging the lid and shoving things in. He could have fell in and drowned. I used to leave the water in the tub after bath time but since he's gotten mobile I NEVER leave water lying around in the bath or in buckets on the floor or anything. My friend's kid drowned on New Years in their bath so I'm even more paranoid about it now, I might calm down one day but for now no.

Shelley - posted on 01/20/2011

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My girls are 1 and 3 and no i would not leave them alone. I am mor relaxed with my seccond but i think i was way too fixated on making my first perfect but i think that came with th pressure of being a young mum.

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I have 3.
4y old girl who tests me daily.
2.5yr old boy who copies his sister daily.
6mth old boy.
I am fairly free range with my kids. The older 2 go outside to play alone. I hang washing out when they are inside watching TV or colouring or busy.
My 4 yr old can't keep her hands off the 6mth old and i trust her inside with him while i hang the washing out run out to the car or the letterbox. I have left them in the car while i have run inside when we were ready to go somewhere and i have forgotten something. doesn't happen very often but it has. I trust that i know my children and what they are capable of.

Laura - posted on 01/20/2011

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I will have 3 in a few weeks, 4.5 yr old, 2 year old, and due with 3rd in 3 weeks, all boys. I find I'm about the same for them. I let my 4 year old go out side and play by himself but would not my other, I will take a shower when my 2 year old is sleep and let the older one play. It just depends on their maturity level. I am not at all a hoverer but semi cautious.

Cyndel - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have one and a half. My son is 3 and my second child will be born in mid may. I have cared for many kids and babies long before i became a mother, so there are a lot of things I was already relaxed and comfortable with that probably would have taken me a few months to get over.

Sherri - posted on 01/20/2011

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I personally have 3. 14, 12 & 4 but typically I have 8 here everyday. I have 2yr old twins(10hrs a day), 6yr old twins(5 1/2hrs a day), another 6yr old(3 hrs a day) and then my 3. In the summer I typically have about 10 here everyday.

Sal - posted on 01/20/2011

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i forgot to add my kiddies, a 15 yr od son and a 3 and a 4 yr old daughters,

Bonnie - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have 2 boys, ages 2.5 and 4. I do find I am more relaxed than I was when I just had one child and I think that is mainly because I know they have eachother. I still won't take a shower when I am alone with them, but the odd time I will sneak in a bath. I use to step outside for a couple of minutes before to bring out recycling or garbage, etc., but I find I am even a bit more at ease with that now as long as I take my key with me. There was one time when my oldest was almost 2.5 and my younger son was a few months. I just stepped out for a minute and my 2.5 year old locked me out. Of course I didn't have my key with me that time, but now I bring it ALL the time.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have two boys….
One is also most 8 and the other is 10months…

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I have one son who is 16 months and another on the way in June. So I can't really answer your question yet, I am quite a relaxed parent though so I would imagine I will go with the flow for my second like I have with my son (I let my son set his own routines by allowing him to settle into his own patterns - obviously guided slightly by me and his daddy, he wants to eat when we do and sleep when we do etc).

Rosie - posted on 01/20/2011

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i have 3 boys ages (almost) 11, 6 and 3.



i was a single mother with my first so i had to do what i had to do to get stuff done, so i've pretty much always been the same way.

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I hve a 20 month old girl, and a 4 and a half year old step-son who i raise as my own =) I have been the same with them, coz in a way they were both my first!

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3. My twin girls are 9 and my son will be 3 at the end of March. I 'think' I've been right around the same w/ all of them. My circumstances have changed though. When the girls were little I could shower while my husband was home and all 4 of us could go shopping, etc.... Now that it's just me.... it's gotta get done regardless of how I have to do it.

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