How old does a child have to be before feeding him airplane style is disrespectful?

Elfrieda - posted on 06/22/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )




What do you think?

I was at my sister-in-law's house a while ago, and during lunch the 7-year-old boy that she sometimes babysits didn't want to eat his soup, so she took his spoon and fed it to him! I was shocked and embarrassed for him, especially for this to happen in front of peers, my nieces ages 6 and 7. But he didn't seem fazed, just calmly ate it up. She also does this for her younger daughter if she's just picking at her food.

Is this okay? Would you do it?


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Elfrieda - posted on 06/25/2012




No, I don't mean with airplane noises, I just didn't know how else to explain it. :)

Becky - posted on 06/25/2012




7 would be old for that. When you say airplane style, do you mean with the airplane noises and everything? Because that is definitely odd at 7! My 7 year old niece would look at me like I was nuts if I tried that with her!

We do still feed our almost 3 year old fairly often. The reason though is that he is very underweight and on his own, barely eats enough to sustain himself. And he's very active. So, we basically feed him to keep him from being diagnosed as failure to thrive!

Elfrieda - posted on 06/24/2012




No, I didn't say anything to her. Like someone said, it's not really a big deal, but I didn't think it was something that I would want my child to accept as normal at that age.

Janice - posted on 06/24/2012




I definitely think it is very odd but not necessarily disrespectful. Some times my 2.5 year old will only eat a few bites at dinner so I will feed her 2-3 a few spoon/forkfuls of food just to make sure she eats some veggies, She took over with feeding before she was a year old but now she sees her little brother being spoon fed and enjoys the little bit of extra attention at dinner. I was actually quite shocked the 1st time my husband picked up her fork and she accepted that. I cant imagine doing that to a 7 year old though.

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I certianly wouldn't feed my 7 year old his meal! I think your SIL is overstepping her care taking by spoon feeding a clearly capable, healthy child. (I admit when I saw the title I was thinking of an ill child.) I do think its degrading to spoon feed and force feed a kid as old as 7. Did you say anything to your SIL?

Charlie - posted on 06/23/2012




I don't get why it's an issue if the child obviously wasn't upset let alone bothered at all by it.
who's buisness is it anyway if two people are eating happily reguardless of whether I or anyone else would eat that way ?
Slippery slope? Disrespectful ?
There are far worse things happening to children out there and THIS, a situation where no one is upset is a problem?

Elfrieda - posted on 06/23/2012




Okay, so my thoughts were pretty normal then.

I wonder if it's a bit of a slippery slope... just recently I've started feeding my 2.5 y.o. bites airplane style when he's distracted and forgets to eat, like in a restaurant or if we have his uncle or grandparents over for a meal. He's never (since about 9 months old) allowed me to do this until now, and it works! I'll have to watch that it doesn't become a habit.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 06/23/2012




At age 7? No, this is not right, IMO. My son is 20 months and he will not take any food if I try to give it to him. He says "NO" and shakes his head, if I were to keep trying he would have a conniption! LOL

However, my daughter, at times, still needed a wee bit of encouragement at 20 months. Not often, very rarely and she was OK with it. She lost focus easily and I think forgot that she was to be eating. I would never hand feed my child over the age of 2, unless they just needed a little guidance (rarely and not the entire meal) but never ever would I be feeding a child over the age of 3. If they don't or won't eat, well then they wait until next snack or meal time, simple as that. If that is not until tomorrow morning, I will put their supper away and they can eat it later, otherwise they wait till morning.

Stifler's - posted on 06/23/2012




No. It's not ok to feed your child past like 1.5 years of age if you ask me, unless they're disabled. My 2 year old knows how to use a spoon and if he isn't I assume he's not going to eat.

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Wow! My 7 year old wouldn't do it. If she tried to feed him like a baby, he would probably knock the spoon out of her hand on it's way to his mouth!

It is not good to force children to eat. If they do not want to eat, they should not have to. They know when they are hungry and when they are full. Forcing them to eat when their bodies are telling them they do not need to messes with their ability to listen to their bodies and is one of the leading causes of childhood obesity today. If they don't want to eat, just tell them they can eat at the next meal.

Amanda - posted on 06/22/2012




I think at 7 he is more than capable of feeding himself.

I still have to occassionally help my 4 yr old with little bits here and there but there's no way I will sit there and feed him his whole because because he won't eat it, and I certainly won't be doing it when he's 7

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