How old is too old to be a daddy?

Tara - posted on 01/22/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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There has been recent activity on the board about how old is too old to become a mother.
What about fathering?
How old is too old for a man to father and raise a child?

Obviously having a baby later in life is going to be different on a physical level as men can not endure the pregnancy and labour, but with that aside, when is it too old for a man to be a daddy?

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Krista - posted on 01/22/2011

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I think once you are in your late 40's, you're starting to push it. Yes, I know there are some 50-something men who are energetic and fit and full of energy, but they tend to be the exception rather than the rule. Plus, I recall reading that even though men are CAPABLE of fathering children when they're older, their sperm quality does decrease.

Yes, people can die at any age, but I think if you're having kids at 60, you've got REALLY high odds of never seeing your grandkids. And that's sad.

Jodi - posted on 01/22/2011

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We all discuss so often about the quality of the woman's egg and the risks of downs syndrome and various other disorders, but no-one seems to consider the sperm quality in men as they age. I think many people believe as long as they aren't shooting blanks, it must be good. However, there are studies to show that the genetic quality of the sperm decreases with age, and this apparently begins in the 30s. Similar to women, the risks increase once men are over 35. So why is it more an acceptable concept for a man to father a child in his 50s, but not a woman, even if that woman is still ovulating (which is entirely possible because the AVERAGE age for menopause is 52, so that means it could be many years either side)?

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Aside from the decreasing quality of the sperm...there are social implications as well.

My husband is 36 and we've pretty much decided that the baby I'm currently pregnant with will be the last. He'll be 54 when this baby has graduated high school, then there's college. So he'll be pushing 60 once we're "done" with our children. We'd like to enjoy retirement and "life after children" and let's face it...most people's health really starts to decrease once they hit their 70's.

So for us, no more newborns after 40. If others want to do it...go for it.

Stifler's - posted on 01/22/2011

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Since I expect the father of my child to do as much parenting as myself, the answer would be the same as what's the maximum age for women.

Katherine - posted on 01/22/2011

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I think that it has to do solely with the spermies. The older a man gets the more risk there is for autism and other disabilities and diseases. The other factor of course is not being there for your child the older you are, the more risks there are too. IE: diseases, heart conditions, physical well being....etc..

Lacye - posted on 01/22/2011

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It's weird because in the old days, 14/15 year old girls were getting pregnant and that was ok and men in their 60s/70s were the ones that were doing the impregnation. LOL. It's disgusting really. Glad we got out of those habits!

But I think any many in their 50s is just too old to become a new father. Even if the child isn't his first child, it's still too old.

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I think anyone is to old to be a parent if they will be unable to keep up with their kids from the age of 0-20 yrs old. If you can't keep up with them or worry that you won't be able to then you are to old.
As for men only? I think any man over the age of 55 is pushing it because men become more set in their ways and a bigger pain in the tush. Sorry but my dad is so set in his way I would be scared to see him raising kids and he is 65.

Amanda - posted on 01/22/2011

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I agree with Krista. Once you hit a point where you physically have a hard time keeping up with, say, a toddler (although, can any of us really? lol) then it's not really fair to the child. If the mother is much younger and capable of keeping up with her kiddos and the baby daddy is on the verge of hip replacement surgery then it's not really fair to the mother either...... at the same time, there are so many "older" people out there doing a great job raising their grandbabies. So perhaps there is no "magic number"......

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