How open are you and your spouse/ partner ect..

Donna - posted on 10/05/2011 ( 26 moms have responded )

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Ok so my husband comes home one day and tell me " I love working in the meat department b/c all these girls walk back there and all you see is hard nipples" Another time he come home and tells me "Babe, I flirted with the girl in the deli so i could get a free sandwich" I just listen to him but let it roll off of my shoulders b/c atleast hes honest, w/e it my husband hes always been like that. Is anyone elses hubby like that or do you prefer them to be a bit more reserved. Or maybe you have a hubby that is more reserved that you would like to see being more honest about certain things hehe

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I think that's a little weird. Flirting is normal and I expect my husband to flirt with and notice other women. Would I expect him to TELL me about it? HELL NO. That's just weird. It's almost like he's rubbing it in your face (or trying to make you realize how desireable he is). It's a little strange.

Jenn - posted on 10/06/2011

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I don't see that as being open, I see that as being disrespectful. I really don't need to hear that you were looking at someone's nipples. You shouldn't be looking in the first place, and if you do, please don't tell me.

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Melissa - posted on 03/07/2013

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My husband is a lot like yours, and I'm totally cool with it. There are occasions where I'm feeling a bit down on myself and don't want him to say it out loud, though, so I'll tell him, and he respects that. I know he still notices other women (just like I notice other men), but I think it's totally normal, and there are times when we notice the same person too, even though I'm not attracted to women. I tend to be less vocal about the guys that I find attractive - probably because it doesn't happen that often - but I will always tell him if I notice a guy checking me out, too, and he tells me if he was hit on.

Stifler's - posted on 10/06/2011

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We are always like "check out the rack on that chick!" when we're watching tv. Walking down the street I have to be honest, there aren't that many hot people in real life. We always laugh at people with fake breasts.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/06/2011

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Not a fan of flirting, but neither would he be so that works for us. We do tend to notice when the other one is checking someone out and we will point it out and laugh. I just always know when a woman is going to be his type. Also if I see a nice pair of boobs somewhere and I'm with him, I let him know. I appreciate a nice rack. I am kind of lacking in that area. A couple of times I've had him spitting out a drink because the tatas in question were so huge and/or exposed. Always a good time.

Merry - posted on 10/06/2011

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Oh yeah jenni, that's a good point. If he's talking about someone we know it's not cool. Strangers are fine, but coworkers etc, not cool

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My man secretly loves when others check him out.lol Well i like it also.We just mess over it.We adore each other and we are very open.I think he knows me better than i know myself sometimes.Same for me about him.



We would not express things like your husband those but thats not to say your hubby is wrong.If it does not bother you then its cool.



We are very sensitive towards each others feelings and we always keep that in our minds.Hes not a flirt, shes shy but if i see a woman checking him out which i have a lot lol.I tease him over it."Look at you stud muffin"..he blushes lol.



For us we would find it disrespectful on both sides if we were to speak like that.

September - posted on 10/06/2011

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My husband is super friendly. I use to mistake this as flirting until I got to know him a little better. My husband’s not big on flirting. I guess he's just not a "hey look at her hard nipples" kind of guy. I think some woman do mistake his kindness for flirting though. It's not a big deal imo; I know he loves me and would never do anything to jeopardize our happy, healthy relationship of 17 years.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/06/2011

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We are open, but not like that...lol

If he sees a women that is good looking or ugly and has a fat butt he will voice it...(he is a booty man) I dont mind that..because hell I am looking too...LOL

but he would not tell he if he flirted or likes to see hard nips on women (im sure he does hahaha)

Jenni - posted on 10/06/2011

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As long as you're not hurt by it. I don't see the big deal.

My hubby jokes around about other women, but usually just actresses or singers or pedestrians. But he doesn't check out everything in a skirt. He's pretty picky.

Usually the only women he comments on are the same ones that make my head spin around and go "WOW?!"

So we're both pretty open when we see hot people in public. He'll even point out hot guys to me. So really... it's fun. Neither of us take it too seriously or a slight against how we feel about each other.

Now if either of us were going on about a person we have a relationship with. Like a co-worker, friend, girlfriend/boyfriend of a friend etc. that would be different and definitely hurtful. So yeah... neither of us go there.

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My SO is open with me and his other 2 wives. HOWEVER, there are 3 of us and he has no need or desire to look elsewhere. That isn't to say he doesn't make the odd comment or appreciate women and their bodies. It just means he is happy and busy with us 3. :)

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Tara - posted on 10/06/2011

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Since we are an open couple who could be classified as swingers, who have yet to swing, lol no biggie to me if he looks and talks, so do I. We normally check out couples together, and when he sees a woman who he thinks is attractive, he points her out, as do I.
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Merry - posted on 10/06/2011

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Matt and I both think similar women are hot so we point out to eachlther hot women. He's not into men and I know he's self conscious Bout his weight so I don't talk about hot men I see. I don't flirt and neither does he. We never learned how!
I wouldn't like him to flirt and I'm sure he wouldn't like me doing it either. Especially since we've never flirted to eachother.

Isobel - posted on 10/06/2011

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we used to have a couple crush on Jude Law and Sienna Miller...once when they came to Toronto for Tiff we joked that we should go downtown and stalk them together ;P

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We've got a joke going in our family about me and my crush on a real estate agent we keep bumping into when we inspect houses. I actually think it is healthy to talk about it and laugh about it, so long as my husband doesn't feel bad (he doesn't) and nobody says anything embarassing in front of the guy himself. The kids get to feel OK about the idea of having crushes on people, which is something I wish I could have talked about in front of my parents when I was a kid. It's a normal thing.

So, I suppose if my husband was open about a crush he was having, I'd have to go along with the joke too. So far he hasn't divulged any secrets, but he's probably too shy to tell.

Becky - posted on 10/06/2011

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My husband will comment that an actor or singer is attractive, but he doesn't do that about women we just see on the street. I don't know if it's that he thinks it would upset me or that he really doesn't notice. He's not a flirty-type person, so it probably would bother me if I felt he was flirting with someone, just because it's not how he normally is. Unless he was just doing it to get a favor out of them!

He seems to get a bit bothered when I comment on how hot I think someone is, so I generally don't do it. I am quite friendly and like to tease, which I guess could be interpretted as flirting, but I'm also shy, so I'm only that way with close friends, who dh knows I wouldn't be flirting with, not with strangers.

Stifler's - posted on 10/05/2011

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I wouldn't be ok with him flirting either. the only reason I ever used to flirt with anyone was to a) get free drinks b) let them know I like them.

Kylie - posted on 10/05/2011

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um yeah no way do i want to hear about my husband checking out other womens hard nipples (unless he was at a strip club, thats different). When we were younger we used to check out girls together, we'd make comments like oh did you see her? she had nice legs etc. He's friends with one of the sports teachers at his work, apparently she pretty and has a hot body, i have no problem with them being friends but if he were to tell me hes flirting with her i would be super pissed. I think as I'm getting older i feel more defensive about that stuff, i cant compete with young hotties, so i dont like the thought that hes thinking about or flirting with them, it makes me feel insecure. He's mine and mine only.

Isobel - posted on 10/05/2011

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but flirting doesn't bother me...I've known my "husband-type" for almost 20 years, I've seen him date countless women...and I know he's mine to keep now ;)

Stifler's - posted on 10/05/2011

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We always check other people out and make fun of the other for it.

Isobel - posted on 10/05/2011

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I'm sure that the women on "Sister Wives" thought Cody was more than happy with the three he had...just sayin

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My SO is open with me and his other 2 wives. HOWEVER, there are 3 of us and he has no need or desire to look elsewhere. That isn't to say he doesn't make the odd comment or appreciate women and their bodies. It just means he is happy and busy with us 3. :)

Donna - posted on 10/05/2011

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i totally agree. he knows better than to go beyond that point. been there done that. its the past and we don't touch that topic

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Flirting is fun and a non-issue with us. After 18 years, we are secure in our relationship. We share when we flirt, or hubby seems to be proud when someone flirts or oogles at me. However, what's NOT ok is to act upon your flirting. Eyeballing, sexual inuendo jokes, flirtiness is fine- taking it a step beyond; not so fine.

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