How sympathetic are you?

Sarah - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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How sympathetic are you when your partner/husband is ill?
Not REALLY ill in hospital or anything, but a cold/flu etc.

My husband was ill lately while I was away for the weekend (for the first time ever since the kids were born!) and he was still ill when I got back and is still not 100% now.
I was duly sympathetic when I got back, listened to all moaning (while thinking "yeah, I've had to look after the kids while I've been ill LOADS!") brought him drinks in bed etc etc.

After a few days though, my sympathy waned. I just thought "Ok, get over it now!!"

Now, I'm awful when I'm ill, I moan and whinge, but I just go to bed (when I've taken care of the kids etc) and lie there feeling sorry for myself. He tends to stay up and moan and whinge and shout and make everyone as miserable as he is!!

Anyway, the point of this little rant, other than to just rant! lol is how sympathetic are you when your partner is ill? How long are you sympathetic for? Do you think your partner/husband gets an easier ride when they're ill than you do? Am I a heartless bitch? hahaha! :)

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Ntombi - posted on 09/06/2010

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No my friend you are not a heartless bitch. My son is 13 now but he was a premature beby who had upper respiratory problems up to the age oge of 5. My husband would tell me to move out of our bedroom with a crying baby because he had to go to work the following day. Dah, I was also going to work the following day. I actually ended up not telling him when the baby was sick and go to the emergency rooms at night without telling him. As it is now I don't worry about him when he is sick. I only worry about myself and kids when they are sick. Men or husband believe that we should look after them when they are sick. My husband asks me if I have been to the doctor and expects me to get better as soon as I start taking my meds.

Jacquie - posted on 09/05/2010

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Not very- when I am sick, I'm still expected to do everything. When he is sick, he is useless!

Jessica - posted on 09/05/2010

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I seem to remember reading that women experience pain at a greater level than men. Considering we handle it so much better I have to say to all men out there 'Weaker sex my arse! Suck it bitches!!!'

Rosie - posted on 09/05/2010

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i'm sympathetic to my husbands needs, i always try to help him when he's sick cause i kow how it feels. although i do get bitter cause we sometimes get sick at the same time and i'm the one that always ends up doing stuff around the house. he also works at night, so there goes any type of nap for me during the day- he "needs" to sleep or else he won't get any sleep at all, which i understand and take it up the tailpipe. but it doesn't make me any less pissed at the world that i can't lay down for a bit. right now i'm sick and while it's not that horrible, i do need to take a nap and i can't. i feel frazzled, and just plain icky. if only there was that sweet sweet nap....

Tara - posted on 09/05/2010

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I agree with Cathy, we are superior when it comes to fighting infection as well as for pain tolerance. Although in most cases they are the "mightier" of the two sexes, we are stronger where it counts~~ long term health. We live longer than them too remember.
I am happy to nurture my hubby the same way I nurture my kids, because I know it helps him feel better. He does the same for me. Now if I had to continue with my momly duties while ill I would feel differently I'm sure. But he takes care of everything while I am sick, including laundry and teaching the kids etc.
So we're both lucky that we have someone who is ready to help the other no matter what.

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2010

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And no, I don't consider I am "man bashing". My husband will quite openly tell you he is a total wimp when it comes to pain. He told his doctors that when he had his surgery so they would make sure he had plenty of painkillers and felt nothing afterwards......

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2010

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I just did show my husband. He didn't find it as funny as I did. He did laugh, but not even close to how much I laughed :)

Sarah - posted on 09/05/2010

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BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I wanna watch Cbeebies"
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 09/05/2010

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Last November my son, his father and I all had H1N1. I had the most gut wrenching cough I have ever had, my muscles would respond sluggishly and shakily and II was dizzy pretty much constantly. My son and his father lay in bed watching telly for a week whilst I did the washing up, the laundry, the vacuuming, the dinner, the tidying etc.

Yea, they definitely have an easier time of it. lol.

Nikki - posted on 09/05/2010

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I try to be nice but I find it hard at times, I figure if I have to get on with my life as normal then he should have to as well, I am his wife not his mum, he can rub vicks on his own chest.

Funnily enough the past week he has had the worst kind of man flu known to human kind, and he has just started a new job which is really full on, so I tried to be supportive even though he was driving me mad with his whining. Yesterday I caught his flu, I feel much more sympathetic now, it is the worst flu I have ever had! I feel like shit, so now I feel guilty for not being nicer!

Tara - posted on 09/05/2010

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Very. I am a big suck when I have a cold. I would rather throw up for 3 days straight than have a cold and be stuffed up for a week. Hubby is awesome when I am sick, but I don't whine or moan too much.
So I return the sentiment when he is sick. I know what it's like to have a hard ass around when you're feeling shitty. My ex was a total dick when I was ill. Just acted like I wasn't. So I know how that feels and it's not pleasant and only adds to feeling miserable.
Tara
I believe kindness is medicine and hostility is poison.

Petra - posted on 09/05/2010

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Oh, totally. My partner moans and does the dramatic gasping and neeeeeds needs needs when he's sick or hurt. If its me, I choose not to say much. When I do say something, he asks why I'm complaining. Its lose lose. So now when he's moaning and groaning about something I just tell him to go to bed.

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2010

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You asked at a time when I am SOOOOO over it right now. My hubby had surgery 4 1/2 weeks ago on his foot, and still can't drive. I am driving him to work, picking him up from work, running him around to buy stuff for the business, and now its looking like I even have to run him around to do the shopping for my birthday, LOL. I'd rather not bother, to be honest.....

OVER IT!!!!

Heartless bitch aren't I?

I will say, however, this week he has been up and around a lot more helping with the kids and around the house, and he hasn't complained. But I think he would have struggled big time to be juggling what I am juggling right now to cater to him, so yeah, he gets an easier ride than I would. Actually, I remember when I broke my ribs last year, he didn't really do any more to help me out and I still had to do all the usual stuff, but just suffer it in pain......

Stifler's - posted on 09/05/2010

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He's learned to not be a sook as I don't care. He doesn't molly coddle me when I'm sick (except when I'm pregnant) so I won't do it for him.

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