How to discipline my son?

Clairepeaceful - posted on 10/04/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is 7 and he has ADHD and autism. I have always been very soft and understanding with him, but I think he may need stronger discipline. He hit a teacher at school last week and he is being so naughty at home. Today is the worse he has ever been . I picked him and his sister (they are twins) up from school and I took them to the park. I brought them an ice cream each, when we were walking out of the park my son dropped his ice cream, I told him "we can't go back and get another one because I don't have any more money." He started swearing at me and kicking me. I eventually got him to stop but then he knocked his sisters ice cream out of her hand. I told him off and said he wouldn't have a snack after dinner tonight. Then he punched his sister and ran across the road. When we got home he wouldn't go to his room and he started screaming and throwing things. When my husband came home I told him and he told my son off. Then my son threw the quiche we were having for dinner on the floor and locked himself in the bathroom and he started banging his head against the door.
What can we do to stop him being violent? My husband and I are at a loss and feel like useless parents. Also, our daughter is losing out because we have to constantly watch our son and we spent all night trying to calm him down. She had to put herself to bed.

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Jodi - posted on 10/07/2013

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My kids get angry when I take away privileges too. It's not supposed to be pleasant. If he is getting angry, then it shows that it has an impact. Clearly, you gave in because he got angry. Can you see that this is rewarding the behaviour/outburst of emotion? So what if he gets angry when you administer discipline he doesn't like? That is the whole point!!

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Jodi - posted on 10/09/2013

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You shouldn't need to continue taking away privileges just because he swears or breaks something. Just calmly stand your ground. Be consistent with it. It will take time, but eventually he will get the message. If he responds negatively, just add another day, then another day, and yep, if it comes down to it, you never let him watch cartoons, never take him to the park, never allow him computer games, whatever it is that you determine is the privilege you have removed. If your son is not responding to this, then you have clearly not figure out what your son's currency is. Everyone has a currency.

I will just add, snacks should not be used for discipline.

Clairepeaceful - posted on 10/09/2013

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I know he isn't supposed to like it, but we take away a privilege and he gets angry and hits out or brakes something or swears. So we take away another privilege and another until there is nothing to take away and he still miss behaves. It just makes him angry it doesn't make him behave or change his behaviour. We didn't give in to him, but what could we do? Never let him watch cartoons, never give him another snack, never take him to the park. Of course after a few days with no privileges we realised it wasn't working.

Clairepeaceful - posted on 10/06/2013

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Thank you I read your post. My husband and I never argue. We try reward charts but he doesn't care, we tried taking away privileges but he just gets angry. Please give me other ideas.

Emma - posted on 10/04/2013

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Omg ur son sounds exactly like my son I've just posted near enough the same thing u have...

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