How to sleep in when you have kids...

Jenni - posted on 08/18/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )

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Apparently, this article is causing a huge stir on the COM FB page. I'm not sure I understand why? I really don't see what the big deal with this is. I mean I'm not a big drinker or anything. Yuck. Hangovers. But I wouldn't condemn another mother for doing this once or even twice a year.



"This past weekend, my husband and I came up with the greatest parenting idea in the history of parenting ideas. We had a babysitter come from 7 to 10 a.m. so we could sleep late. Seriously, how have we never thought of this before?



This was our annual weekend of debauchery at the Lollapalooza music festival in Chicago. We see tons of bands over three days and stay out until 3 a.m. at after-parties. There may or may not be adult beverages consumed. And while it’s super fun, it’s also super exhausting. I know, no one feels bad for me because I am living it up in the VIP section drinking free beer and I should just shut my mouth now.



Normally, our parents pitch in for this weekend and watch the kids. But this year, they had just spent a few days with Jack, Emmie and Maeve while we were in Montreal. So we sucked it up and hired a babysitter for Friday, Saturday and Sunday. But we knew getting up at the butt-crack of dawn with our little roosters would be painful. So we asked a different sitter if she could come in the morning. Clearly, the lure of money won out over sleeping in for her and she said yes.



I got the kids out of bed and brought them downstairs as she knocked on the front door. I mumbled something about them watching a video, gestured in the general direction of the cereal and bowls and said I would see her in a few hours. I fell back asleep and woke up thinking it was the best $36 I ever spent.



Even if you’re not spending the wee hours of the morning out dancing and schmoozing, I would highly recommend the a.m. babysitter for the sake of getting some sleep. As all parents of young kids know, sleeping in is a rarity. And while it might seem indulgent, it’s no more indulgent than having a babysitter come so you can go out to dinner for three hours.



The really sad part was Sunday, when my sitter called at 6:30 a.m. to tell me she was running a fever, had a rash and a horrible sore throat. While I felt bad for her, I felt really bad for myself. I was out until 3 a.m. thinking I had plenty of time to sleep! Instead, my husband and I switched off – he got up with the kids at 7, I slept until 9 and then I went downstairs and he went back to bed until noon. It worked, but we were both still exhausted.



Moral of the story? Don’t count your sheep until they’re hatched. Or something like that. I’m still too tired to think clearly."



There has even been suggestions to take this woman's kids away. A wee bit harsh imo.

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Ez - posted on 08/19/2011

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I tend to think these women bitching on the FB page have never had an early riser.

Jodi - posted on 08/18/2011

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The woman is a genius and deserves a medal for coming up with that idea. I wish I'd thought of it when my kids were younger. No need now, because they just get themselves up :P

Lucy - posted on 08/19/2011

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Where's the problem?

Kids are looked after, parents are recovering so they can be reasonable human beings, everyone's happy.

Krista - posted on 08/19/2011

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Oh god, there have been weeks where my kid has constantly gotten up at quarter to five in the frigging morning, and i would have probably paid a hobo off the street to watch him, if only to get another precious hour of shut-eye.

Rosie - posted on 08/18/2011

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aahh, i have visions of this exact thing, lol. my husband and i have been out together drinking probably about FIVE times in my 10 year relationship. every other time we go out, the other one stays home and watches the children, and then wakes up early with the kids in an effort to help the other one "recover".
i just told my husband about this, and he laughed and said "what an awesome idea!!" lol.
people have too much to bitch about. if they went out and slept in leaving their kids to fend for themselves they'd be bitching up a storm too. apparantly nobody is supposed to go out and have fun-pushing a couple kids out your vag apparantly means you cant enjoy yourself with alcohol a few times a year? fuck that.

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Becky - posted on 08/19/2011

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I'm actually pretty lucky. My kids generally sleep until 8ish or later. Well, the youngest wakes up earlier, but I bring him to bed and he nurses and generally goes back to sleep or at least dozes until around 8. And then they'll both crawl in my bed and I turn on Disney Junior and they watch that until 9 while I sleep some more. Some mornings they're not so cooperative - usually mornings where I went to bed far too late the night before, I don't know how they know that, but they seem to! But usually, I can stay in bed until between 8:30 and 9, unless we have somewhere to be.
Now watch, this next one will be up with the sun every morning! :S

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I'm not liking that winters coming to an end. It's starting to get light here around 6am and as soon as it's light they are waking up. Now if they'd stay in their own beds i'd be happier but one by one they come in to my bed and toss and turn while waking up which in turn wakes me up.
During the middle of winter it was just before 7 they'd stay in bed 'til.

Ez - posted on 08/19/2011

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Emma, I hear ya. I have the same conversation with Milla every single night at bedtime.
Me - 'What does it mean if you wake up and it's still dark outside?'
Her - 'I roll over and go back to sleep because it's still night time'
Me - 'and when can you get up and come in to Mummy?'
Her - 'when I can see the sun'

And what happens in the morning? She comes in a 5 in the pitch black darkness :-/

Stifler's - posted on 08/19/2011

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I am sick of getting up in the dark. Like FFS kid... I don't mind if the sun's up BUT NOT BEFORE THE SUN IS UP.

Lacye - posted on 08/19/2011

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Ok. So the woman and her husband are bad parents because they hired a babysitter to watch their kids in the morning while they got a little bit of extra sleep? Wow. What horrible people!

Seriously, I'm just jealous I didn't think of this first.

Sarah - posted on 08/19/2011

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Meh, if they have the money to hire a babysitter for a lie in, why not?!

If I'm going for a night out, then I either ask if a family member can have them overnight, share the task with my husband ie. I'll get up with them first, and then when he gets up I'll go to bed, or I just have a "dvd morning" with them.......I put on a load of dvd's, and I snooze on the couch while they cuddle up with me and watch them!

Luckily, my kids are more of an age now where they kinda entertain themselves. Plus, the earliest they'll get up is 7am.....they know not to come in until then ;)

Krista - posted on 08/19/2011

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Yeah, when 6am is sleeping in, you know how far you've fallen. ;)

This is how bad it was -- we have to leave the house at 7, I drop him off at daycare at 7:45, and then usually go to work at 8. (My workday only starts at 8:30, but I like getting a jump-start on things). It was so bad during that time when he was getting up early, that after I dropped him off at daycare, I would pull into the gas station two doors down from my office, pull in behind the gas station, set the alarm on my cell phone for 8:23am, recline the seat, and nap.

One day I forgot to set my alarm, and only woke up at 8:50am. I flew to work and flew in the door and my boss is standing there. Poor man had no idea what to think when I told him that i'd been sleeping behind the gas station...

Jenni - posted on 08/19/2011

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*groan* my son is an early riser too Krista! He went through a spell of 3 months where he was waking up at 5am on the dot. Made 6am look like sleeping in!



Lately he hasn't been up too early, probably because he crawls in bed with me now. Which means it's totally possible that some mornings he sleeps until 7am! Yesssss!



My daughter sleeps until 8am. :P



But yesterday I got to sleep in until 8am! yahh. I was suppose to get my wisdom teeth out but they rescheduled me. We had told my son he'd be spending the night at Nana's. So we all felt a little guilty having to renege on him, so he got to go anyways. Which means, me and my daughter slept in! :))



The only reason I wouldn't do this is my inlaws or mom usually watch the kids on the rare occasion we do have a date night. They (the kids) usually spend the night.

And dude, I get massive hangovers. 4-5 drinks and I'm pooped for the next 24 hours. My inlaws/mom better not be dropping off the kids until 3pm the next day! :S

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My kids want warm milk or milo in the mornings during winter but i can usually tell them to grab and apple and a drink of water and turn the tv on which keeps them happy for about an hour. The oldest being nearly 5 helps because she wants to look after the other 2 but the 3yr old wants to as well which usually turns into a fight which is when i get up.

Stifler's - posted on 08/18/2011

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I don't understand why people would be against this. Unless they're jelliz. I leave Logan's door open so he can get out of bed and come into our room but he hasn't figured out how to turn the tv on yet. Sometimes he plays with my phone or something while I sleep when Damo is at work.

Jenn - posted on 08/18/2011

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Oh how I would have paid big bucks when my girls were smaller for this!!! Now they sleep in on weekends till about 9am and we LoVE it!! Sleep is just as important for parents as it is for the children!

Charlie - posted on 08/18/2011

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I have an enclosed verandah off my bedroom I set the table up with an activity and their bottles of milk inthe fridge which Cooper can grab , so the boys wake up and play until I am ready to drag myself out of bed ( on any regular day not because Im hungover LOL ) gives me a good 30 minutes to an hour !

Becky - posted on 08/18/2011

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Yeah, I don't know why anyone would get upset over this! It's better than leaving your toddlers to fend for themselves while you sleep in! It's not something I'd do every weekend - who has the money?! But a couple times a year (or even once a month) for a late night out, sure, why not? Mind you, at this point, unless it was the grandparents, it probably wouldn't work for us either, the kids would want to be with me if I were home. The only way I can sleep in is to ship them off to Grandma and Grandpa's or go to a hotel for the night!

Mary - posted on 08/18/2011

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Jodi, I think that your daughter would LOVE a week or so of being a big sister to an American toddler - she could teacher all kinds of big-girl stuff, starting at 5 am. Come to think of it, Molly and Milla really need to get together, and I think your home would be PERFECT for this little get-together =)

Charlie - posted on 08/18/2011

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I used to do overnight babysitting for couples who would go away for the weekend , sometimes for a retreat , sometimes for a function doesnt matter either way because I knew them all and saw them daily with their children who were all very loved by their parents .

Some of the women on there are fucking nuts.

Jenni - posted on 08/18/2011

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I thought it was really funny that some people got so pissy over this... and ironically, the article says that the babysitter came down with a flu and cancelled on her last minute. Her and her husband had to wake up with the kids anyways! lol

Charlie - posted on 08/18/2011

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Pffft she is genius god some women really like to get their panties in a wad on the FB page dont they.

Ez - posted on 08/18/2011

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Yeah... shut your pie hole Jodi :-p

I can't wait until Milla will do that. She is up by 6 every single day of her life, no matter how late she goes to bed. Some mornings I would kill for someone else to get up with her.

Jodi - posted on 08/18/2011

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I sleep in a lot on weekends - it is so nice once your kids reach that age they can get themselves up, turn the TV on themselves and get their own breakfast :P

I'll stop gloating now :D

Stifler's - posted on 08/18/2011

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I would do it. HAHA. I've thought of getting a baby sitter to sleep over and get up to the kids but never done it unless you count my parents and mother in law who always let us both sleep in/have morning sex when they're up.



We take turns getting up to the kids every weekend anyway and the other is allowed to sleep in until whenever they want and do whatever they want the whole day/night before within reason.

Jenni - posted on 08/18/2011

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lol the women are always soooo.... fiesty on the FB page. Love it! It's great for a laugh in an... ummm.... Jerry Springer kinda way.

Ez - posted on 08/18/2011

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I saw that thread on the FB page. Those women are nuts!! It's not like the author does this every weekend. It is once a year!! Jesus.

That said, it wouldn't work for us because there's no way my daughter would stay out of my room and let me sleep.

Lady Heather - posted on 08/18/2011

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Take her kids away? I think this is brilliant. ha. Not much difference between that and shipping them off to Grandma's house.

Jurnee - posted on 08/18/2011

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I think this is a great idea. Seems to me that the parents were being responsible in making sure that their kids were taken care of when they knew they would be tired/hungover. I see no difference in hiring a babsittter for the weekend or in leaving the kids at family or friends for the weekend. If Im going out,and I know I'll be home late or drinnking I will leave my son overnite with family. Most people I know do this. If you can afford to hire a sitter to come to your home, whats the difference. And for that matter, what about those with full time nannies who get up with the kids on a regular basis, should those parents have their kids taken away as well. This is much ado about nothing, imo

Caitlin - posted on 08/18/2011

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Harsh. Everyone needs their sleep, it's a good idea in my opinion! I'm not so fond of the idea of coming home palstered and being responsible for the kids while intoxicated (what if something serious happens?) but for the sake of sleep, why are parents not allowed to indulge in some extra shut eye once in a while? Are we held to a higher standard? I know plenty of working professionals who occasionally get the "monday flu" and call in sick to work, that doesn't mean they should lose their jobs! Judgemental people drive me nuts...

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