husband having female friends

Danekkie - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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A woman my texed mt husband asking him to pick her up some cigarettes before he gets to work im pissed. He said its just a co worker if I pulled that s... all hell would brake loose. Is this ok?

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My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex. That said, I know all of his friends and he knows mine. Most of our friends are mutual friends who know us both. We have a mutual trust--I know how much he loves me because he shows me every day, I know I've got nothing to worry about. Likewise, he knows how much I love him. We would notice if either of us were sleeping around because (after this much time in a relationship) an affair is a symptom of a bigger problem. It is usually the result of one partner missing some element of the relationship.

My husband has a very close female friend. They used to sing together in college, and now they occasionally go out to karaoke together. I used to tag a long when our relationship was newer, but now I have no need--sometimes I still go, but I know how they interact, I know their dynamic, and I know I don't need to worry about them.

I also have a very close male friend. I actually spend a lot more time with my male friend than my husband spends with his female friend. I didn't have an active father, and my friend never had kids, so he has taken on that role for me....or I forced him into it cause I thought he'd be a cool father figure, I don't know. Again, my husband may have felt suspicious at first, but after getting to know him, they are great friends too.

I wouldn't be "pissed". Why bother? I would just ask to go out with her and her guy for dinner. Watch the way they interact, become her friend. I think smoking is pretty gross, but maybe she's one of those people who are so addicted they can't function without them and they had something pressing at work that day so she couldn't get away from the office to buy some.

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Cheryl - posted on 09/15/2013

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IF there is nothing more going on then leave it alone. but u try the same thing if he gets mad well then he has some insecurity problem... it is work it is not like he is driving her home every night or spending any '' non working'' hours with her is he?
there is nothing wrong with it is gonna happen it is what u will and won't allow that makes the difference...

Emmy - posted on 08/28/2013

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Seems odd to me that she would ask him to pick up something like that unless they are really close friends. Have you ever heard of him talking about her? Does she buy him things? I think it's strange and kinda rude too. Cigarettes are expensive.

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