I just joined COM earler today, I posted..

Jessica - posted on 02/03/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )




I just joined COM earler today, I posted a simple question in the welcome forum about an issue im having with my 8 yr old step daughter and had 3 moms attack me for no reason :(.. is this really what this sites about? im so disappointed :(


Tara - posted on 02/03/2011




I would say this particular community is titled "Debating Moms" so unless you post "not a debate" people on this particular board will see it as a debate.
I also couldn't find your post on the welcome page, if you want some advice from the best moms on COM, you can post your question here and maybe you'll get some better advice, but remember to post not a debate.

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If you want some good stepmom advice, join us in the step moms community here on CoMs! :) There's no judgement there and lots of very smart women with great advice and support :)

Bonnie - posted on 02/03/2011




Most moms are going to be opinionated and when you ask for opinions or advice they are going to give it. It is impossible for everyone to agree. If you don't want to get negative feedback or hear things you won't agree with, i'm sorry but you can't be asking questions on here then.

Isobel - posted on 02/03/2011




It's difficult to know, Jessica, what happened without knowing the details.

To be honest though...if it was people disagreeing with you on the welcome page that upset you...you may have come to the wrong place for support.

We like to argue and disagree around these parts ;)


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Jennifernider - posted on 02/05/2014




I just joined to but can't figure out how to get to my question I posted lol haven't figured it out yet

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I usually skip the welcome forum and go straight here and to a few other forums I like. Like someone said earlier, you just have to find a group that you feel comfortable in. You'll find that Debating Mums is typically a great place for good debate, but I also ask questions that aren't debates from time to time because I respect a lot of the women's opinions here. Sorry they treated you like that on the welcome page!

Becky - posted on 02/03/2011




She said she posted it in the welcome to COM forum. There are some weirdos on there and sometimes discussions can go south in a hurry. Sorry you were attacked on your first post!

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Yea if you posted to the debate forum then it should be expected because people are going to debate what you wrote or what they think is right. But theyre are other forums where that wont be the case if you are genuinely just asking for help different suggestions then there wont be any attacking there. Circle of moms is great!! you just gotta find the right forum for you.

Rosie - posted on 02/03/2011




it does happen unfortunately, but after awhile of being on here you get to "know" a few ladies and find out how really wonderful this site is. stick around, you'll like it. :)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/03/2011




Sorry that happened to you. Hopefully you will learn to enjoy CoM. Just remember, as everyone says...this is a debating communtiy....it can get heated. I know you posted on the original CoM...sorry you got attacked...not cool.

Brandi - posted on 02/03/2011




Yes, unfortunately. I had the same thing happen to me the first time I ever posted. Most of the women on here are rude and obnoxious. I am sorry, some people think it is "cool" to not have manners. They think just because this is a debating site that EVERYTHING has to be a debate.

Bexterwhite - posted on 02/03/2011




If people don't agree with, your point, how you word it,or think your information is invalid, then they can be really nasty on here.
If you like a good argument and are interested in how other people live their lives its quite good fun, but if you need advice or support i would look elsewhere as its hard to get any real understanding through a computer.

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