"If You Really Knew Me"

Jackie - posted on 11/29/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




Stemming from the bullying thread...

Jocks, nerds, burnouts and stoners: The names may vary, but students at almost every high school know the labels.

A new show on MTV attempts to help students look past such stereotypes. The network hypes "If You Really Knew Me" as a real-life version of "The Breakfast Club."

Each episode focuses on a different school, where students go through a program called Challenge Day. They share experiences with each other in exercises designed to cut down on bullying and gossiping.

The cameras follow five students before, during and after the program. One self-professed jokester realizes how much his words hurt when he picks on an overweight student. Classmates are surprised when they hear a popular cheerleader talk about how she doesn't feel pretty or cool enough.

Leikin Poppino, 18, attended Challenge Day last year at Freedom High School in Oakley, Calif., and said it works.

"It was such a positive experience," said Poppino. "It changed people for the better."

But a big question is whether the change lasts.

Freedom High had a "miraculous change" for about a week after the program, Poppino said. After that, the responsibility fell on those kids who took part to keep the momentum going.

"There would be moments when somebody would say something in class and it would be the kid who went through Challenge Day to say, 'Hey, you shouldn't say that or do that.'"

Students are surprisingly in touch with their emotions, said Sela Gaglia, who has worked for Challenge Day for 11 years.

Even when students are resistant, once they understand that the Challenge Day leaders are genuinely concerned, "the walls come down," Gaglia said.

Gaglia is optimistic about the impact the show could have on viewers and believes it will give hope to students who "really do believe that they're alone."

Read more: http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2010/07...


If You Really Knew Me is an American reality television series currently airing on MTV that focuses on youth subculture and different cliques in high schools. Students from each clique participate in Challenge Day[1], which is a program designed to breakdown stereotypes and unite students in schools. At Challenge Day, students from all walks of life gather together in one room. Then each student is assigned to a group where they must reveal something personal about themselves. It's at this point where each student begins their dialog with the words "If you really knew me..." The goal of Challenge Day is to demonstrate to students the possibility of love and connection through the celebration of diversity, truth, and full expression.[1] The show will focus on Challenge Day in various high schools. The series premiered on July 20, 2010 on MTV.



I've seen this show once or twice and I have to admit, I think it's a great tactic. On the show they assign groups and oen up to each other about themselves to people they would likely never even speak to. The fat kid, the cheerleader, the one with acne...It can teach what compassion is all about. What do you think? Should this be something that is practiced nationwide at every school? If it was, do you think it would help?


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I think this is a great idea and that it should be implemented in schools everywhere. More kids need to realize that everyone is different and that perhaps what their parents or peers have taught them isn't the right way to go about doing things. A lot of adults need this sort of thing, too.

Jodi - posted on 11/29/2010




I've caught bits and pieces of this show and it's interesting. But, like other's have mentioned, once the cameras turn off and a few weeks go by...what then? I think it's worth a shot for any school who wants to, it certainly can't hurt right? But, I think it would take more than one Challenge Day to make it work, perhaps a monthly workshop of some sort would keep the ball rolling and the line of communication between students (and teachers too, let's face it, adults are mean to each other too!) a bit more open for longer times. But, that's probably not realistic for most schools to try to incorporate.

Tah - posted on 11/29/2010




i have seen this show and i think it would help alot with the bullying, suicides and those children being bullied that go into dad's cabinet grab his gun and come kill kids and teachers, i thought it was a positive experience

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Iris - posted on 12/01/2010




I think it's a great way to get teens to recognize differences in one another and the struggles they go through. And that even going through different struggles, they are not so different.
Like Rebecca said, it is a bandaid. But if High schools would take a week out of their schedule and do this for all the students. I'd think we might be better off than we are today.

Jackie - posted on 11/30/2010




Rebecca - I'm not really saying that MTV needs to be in any way involved or a stupid reality series. I just think that if children are given the opportunity to connect on a different level, maybe just maybe it would make a bully think twice before belittling somebody if he/she knew that person on a personal level. I agree that there would probably need to be more than one workshop though

Mrs. - posted on 11/29/2010




Yes if only Columbine High had a visit from MTV in the form of a reality show, the massacre could have been avoided. Come on, while I agree it can't hurt, I don't think it makes any long lasting change with kids so entrenched in high school dogma and roles. I know MTV paints an attractive package that makes you want to believe it works but like I said before-Band Aid.

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Haven't seen the show but I'm gonna try and watch it...

By the title of this thread, I thought you were asking us to finish the sentence, "If you really knew me...."
That would be an interesting thread.

Mrs. - posted on 11/29/2010




Having watched it several times, I think it is a PC bandaid. I think the moment those cameras leave it starts to slide back to the status quo.

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I think in theory it is a great idea but I also think that if schools were to do it, it should be required for ALL of the students to participate. Not all of them are going to get it though. In the end, some kids are the product of parents who don't get it either and that's probably going to outweigh a short term experiment. It's a nice idea though, and hey, it can't hurt. Even if it only truly impacts a small percentage of the students then I think it's worth it.

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