If your SO asked you to submit to a lie detector test, would you?

Katherine - posted on 12/29/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )

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I wouldn't, just to be deviant because he asked. That would piss me off.

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Kelly, off topic, but do you have a Supportive option instead of Helpful? I still have the helpful option.

Some days I have Helpful and no Supportive. Other days Encouraging turns into Supportive, and some days Supportive is gone completely. The only ones I have all the time are Funny and Nice....It seems to be different every day.
Encouraging also always turns into Supportive if I click on it :P

Gina - posted on 12/31/2010

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It would be the last thing my husband asks, trust is a huge thing for me. If he doesn't believe me,he'll be out that door! Plus he knows I feel strongly about lying, if he thinks I'm not honest it will be bye bye!

Lindsay - posted on 12/30/2010

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I would not take one. It has nothing to do with having anything to hide and everything to do with them being flawed. If he had so little trust in me that he felt this was needed, the relationship is gone and no lie detector would restore that trust. Plus, they are set up to make you fail so even going in and being 100% honest doesn't mean those are the results you would get. That's why they aren't permissable in court, because they aren't accurate.

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If he's asking me to take one because he doesn't believe me about something, I'd do it just to prove him wrong. And I'd be an indignant bitch about it the whole time too lol But honestly, I'd probably take one anyhow, just because I've always wanted to take one to see how accurate they are lol

Jackie - posted on 12/30/2010

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If I had done something previously to lose his trust, then I may consider it to try to regain it again.

However, if I had always been honest and he just flat out didn't believe me then I would still take it and shove the results up his ass and leave him.

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2010

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LOL Julianne, your hubby would be very privileged having a couch to sleep on. Mine wouldn't even have a roof over his head ;P The backseat of his car would probably be looking very comfortable!!

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I would take it, but it would piss me off, i would pass it too becaue i dont lie to him. THEN he would be taking the damn test, and sleeping on the couch...

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2010

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Kelly, off topic, but do you have a Supportive option instead of Helpful? I still have the helpful option.

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2010

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On one hand I keep thinking, yeah I'd do it and jam the results up his arse. On the other hand I'm thinking, well, if he has such little trust in me, what is the point in taking the test, I'm booting his arse out anyway. I'd be really pissed about the trust issue.

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To Sharon: Lie detectors are horribly flawed if you're nervous you will fail even if you answer honestly, you can also lie and pass so long as you control your heartrate etc. or convince yourself you believe the lie to be truth. That's why they can't convict someone of a crime based on a lie detector test alone, most of the time they wont even bother to submit results in court because they can be so misleading.

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I'd do the same thing, take the test so he can have proof that I'm not a liar and then leave his ass. I'm lucky my hunni and I are the way we are neither of us would need to subject eachother to such a disgraceful display of distrust. lol that's a mouthful. We are both by far the most incompetant liars known to man lol.

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Nope. I would have nothing to hide, but the fact that he would ask me to do such a thing is evidence enough that he does not trust me, so he'd be out on his ass, because I will not be with a man who does not trust. It just can't work for me.



EDIT: There needs to be an "interesting" button. I liked Holly's answer, but it doesn't really fall into Nice, Encouraging, Supportive, or Funny :P

Sharon - posted on 12/29/2010

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I wouldn't, because I'd fail. I took one for a job and failed. I was sooo utterly shocked. I answered honestly to everything and failed. I asked and asked and asked everyone I could wth that was about. I didn't fail the questions, I answered all of those right - but the lie detector said I lied, I didn't.

It kind of depends on why.... (theroretically I might). but even without my failing - I'd say no.

Jessica - posted on 12/29/2010

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Id do it, just to prove what an ass he was for asking in the first place and then drop him. If he distrusts me THAT much, then we don't have much of a relationship to begin with.

Amanda - posted on 12/29/2010

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Mmmm....no I wouldn't, if my fiance couldn't trust my word and resorted to asking me to take one of them I would smile and simply say FUCK you! lol...opps sorry about my obscene language! :)

~Jennifer - posted on 12/29/2010

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why not?
nothing to hide here.

....but then he's taking one after me.
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Shauna - posted on 12/29/2010

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No, but ive always wanted to take one so i could lie and see if it turns up a lie

Caitlin - posted on 12/29/2010

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Pfft.. part of the reason i'd say hell no is an irregular heart rate which skews the results, the oother reason is without trust, our relationship is worth nothing, so if he can';t trust my word, we're done.. Nothing to hide here..

Charlie - posted on 12/29/2010

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Yes I would and then he would forever feel like a chump for even asking when I passed with flying colours .

Shontae - posted on 12/29/2010

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yes. if it was something he really wanted me to do, I'd probably give in. Dont have anything to hide. And if it was to help put his mind at ease about something, why not?

September - posted on 12/29/2010

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You bet I have nothing to hide. However my husband would never ask me to take one.

Joanna - posted on 12/29/2010

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Nikki's answer is mine pretty much. Yes I'd do it as I have nothing to hide and am always honest, but I'd question why he'd want one.

Lacye - posted on 12/29/2010

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If he asked me to, I would. I have nothing to hide. I tell him everything as it is. When he's being a dick, I let him know in a heart beat, "hey! you are being a dick. STFU!" LOL yeah that may be a little mean but it gets my point across.

LaCi - posted on 12/29/2010

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I would, because I don't lie. However, afterward I may dump him for being an ass and wanting me to do so to begin with.

Jenn - posted on 12/29/2010

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Yes I would, but I would wonder why it got to the point of him wanting me to do that. I have to wonder what some of you have to hide that you would say no LOL!

Nikki - posted on 12/29/2010

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Yep, I have nothing to hide. I would be a little concerned at his lack of trust to need one, but I would do it to prove him wrong. I like being right!

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I think it would depend on what it was about, but no matter what I would be hurt that he didn't take my word. A marriage is built on trust and if you take away even one block of that trust, the foundation is weakened IMO...

I would probably submit to the test, but leave him after it. It would be more if an "I told you so" thing for me...

Hannah - posted on 12/29/2010

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I wouldn't either. My husband and I have had a lot of issues with trust and it got to the point where I wanted to leave. My husband knew that and has cooled off considerably. It was all over facebook, too! If he ever came to me and asked me to submit to a lie detector, he knows I would head for the hills. And, I have nothing to hide either.

Tara - posted on 12/29/2010

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Nope, if my word isn't good enough, than I have no need to justify myself to someone I wouldn't be with anymore.
Trust is the most valuable asset a relationship can have and Steve and I both know that.

Rosie - posted on 12/29/2010

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depends on what it is about, and how he felt about it. most likely no though.

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