Intelligender slammed over 'insensitive' photo

Ez - posted on 10/25/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Some women in the YouTube mummy vlog community have spoken out against this photo posted on the Intelligender FB page:

http://img0.etsystatic.com/il_570xN.8607...

Some TTCers were offended and hurt, one saying:

I look at it and I think "Well not me"... That's not something a picture a company posts should make me feel. And yes it may be for pregnant people and I may not be pregnant, but one day I hope to be and one day I had hoped to use their product, now I'm just a tad upset about it.

Intelligender took down the photo, along with all the dissenting comments, but did not apologist as far as I know. They are now being accused of censorship and having poor customer relations.

So what does everyone think? Are these women overreacting? It is a product for pregnant women after all.

Or do these women struggling with infertility have the right to an apology? Do you think Intelligender should have had the foresight to prevent this?

Thoughts?

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Krista - posted on 10/25/2011

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No kidding. What's next? Banning the use of any pregnant women or infants in ANY advertising, because it makes infertile women sad? I'm not unsympathetic to their plight. I imagine it must be horrible and heartbreaking.

But as the wise man said..."It's not all about you."

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No, they don't. Anymore than they have a right to an apology because their sister, co-worker, friend, etc. is pregnant. Having struggled with infertility for four years before our first set of twins arrived, I get the pain of seeing everyone else "easily" (or so it seems) getting pregnant when your own body is failing you. However, that doesn't mean everyone else should be prohibited from celebrating because of your personal situation.

Kate CP - posted on 10/27/2011

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"...Take the shoulder pads off, get your panties out of your crack, remove the corn cob and stop celebrating being a woman!"

I'm sorry, but I don't know what this means? :/

Jen - posted on 10/26/2011

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I struggled with infertility, trying Clomid, IUI, and IVF over a period of about 6 years. So I can identify with the feeling of being a failure in not being able to accomplish something that your body was supposedly made to do.
I am no longer ttc, hubby and I adopted a wonderful baby boy 3 years ago, and are waiting to be placed with a second baby. At THIS POINT in my life, I don't think there's any reason the ad should have been pulled. At that point in my life, yes, it would have upset me had I seen it, but not to the point of faulting the company for making it. Being upset is one thing, expecting everyone else to tiptoe around you is another. I probably wouldn't have believed the ad needed to be pulled, even at that point in my life.

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Honestly? I think the objectors need serious serious mental health intervention. Should we ignore that the vast majority of human females can give birth because some have problems getting pregnant?

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I dont get why its offensive. I think the women are over reacting. I love this pic though, it is now my profile pic on facebook :P

Jessica - posted on 10/27/2011

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Haha I saw this pic before I knew it was for pregnancy products, I love it! Think it is super cute! :)

Brittany - posted on 10/26/2011

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Some women want to piss and moan about not having any rights and then when someone asserts the rights we have, like being able to celebrate the fact that we bring children into this world, they get pissed.

Take the shoulder pads off, get your panties out of your crack, remove the corn cob and stop celebrating being a woman!

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I think the picture is funny.. and the women are overreacting.

Yes, it sucks that they're having a hard time conceiving... and I can understand that it's hard for them seeing everyone else getting pregnant and having babies when they can't but that is LIFE. It's a stupid thing to get upset over.

Kate CP - posted on 10/26/2011

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I had secondary infertility and after a year and a round of clomid I finally conceived. I remember hearing about friends' pregnancies and their ease (or accidental) of conception and I was both excited for them and depressed for me. But this picture? Why is this offensive? I think some women would get offended if you tell them the sky is blue. :P

Starfish - posted on 10/26/2011

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I did struggle with infertility, and it broke my heart. I even had to hide newsfeeds from my pregnant friends on Facebook.

But this photo? I don't find it offensive. Not at all, actually. Posting it on an infertility support group page? THAT'D be offensive. But on a page for people who ARE pregnant? Please.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/26/2011

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DUDE! I have seen that so many times, and I LOVE IT! People are so bored they just LOOK for things to get pissed about. I think it is a great message. I love it.

Becky - posted on 10/25/2011

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Yeah, I agree with everyone else. It is a product for pregnant women. If you don't want to see pictures of pregnant women, don't look at websites designed to sell to them!

Carolee - posted on 10/25/2011

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Those people just want something to bitch about. It wasn't offensive.

Denikka - posted on 10/25/2011

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If it's for products for PREGNANT women, what do people expect?!?! That's like getting upset about using babies in diaper ads! Or cats and dogs in pet food commercials.
I don't think I can roll my eyes hard enough at the thought of people getting offended and up in arms by this.
Sigh. . . .the world. . . .

Medic - posted on 10/25/2011

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I think that is redonkulous!!! I mean seriously people get their panties in a wad over anything. Go cry me a river.

Stifler's - posted on 10/25/2011

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That is ridiculous. I agree with krista... next they will be banning Huggies ads, Nivea ads with pregnant women, Elevit ads...

JuLeah - posted on 10/25/2011

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If you wanna be offended by something you sure can be, everywhere you look in fact.

I don't think this phot would offend most people

Ez - posted on 10/25/2011

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I agree Krista. I have never struggled with infertility so I don't pretend to know what that feels like. But it seems like these women must be looking for things to be offended by if this was top of their list.

Kellie - posted on 10/25/2011

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You know what? I'm tired of people overreacting and over thinking/analyzing everything.

It's an ad for pregnant women, why does this company need to apologize to women who are struggling to get pregnant or who can't get pregnant? Its not the company's fault some people have fertility issues (there is no one to assign blame to).

Krista - posted on 10/25/2011

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I think they were absolutely overreacting. I'm TTC right now, and some of my friends have had that pic as their FB profile pictures, and I certainly didn't think anything of it, let alone get all butthurt about their "insensitivity".

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