Intentions or agenda when communicating with others

Vanessa - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have been in a position to evaluate a few different situations in my life and create a "why". No not the kind of why that asks in passing judgment on others the "why" that asks myself - why do I do what I do, say what I say, believe what I believe and strive with dedication to accomplish it all.
I just completed a quick little activity, which I have done before but at another stage of my life. Today this is what I got out of the simple little exercise. *I believe that having a home that I love will grow roots in my family to impact the world financially* That is why I do what I do.
I was questioned on my intentions to help another mother by offering some encouraging words to her and showing her that she can look at the positive in her situation rather than the negative parts. Why would I do that, I must be trying to get something out of her, I must want to sell her something, it must be a scam. WHAT???? I was in such disbelief! Since when is it a scam to help people, fellow moms who are struggling and ask for help.
I know and am confident in my heart that if we as moms grow strong ROOTS in our kids and teach them to look outside themselves, to help others, our world will be a greater place. And in that, I believe, that as we strengthen our foundation material things will have less meaning to ourselves personally - not saying having nice things is bad! I'm saying we would rather buy a struggling man lunch than another app to be downloaded on our iphone.
As we give to others, I believe, we will be blessed greater in return. I believe when we give financially to those who do good works around us we will be rewarded.

So again I go back to what my why is. I feel it is an intention to live a better life, teach better to my kids and influence others with positive actions. Does that mean my intentions or agenda is to benefit me personally? I guess that all depends on personal opinion. Is it selfish to want to live in a better world?

What are your intentions in your family, work, personal life etc. What is your "why".

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Jodi - posted on 03/15/2014

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Vanessa, your intentions in this situation did not matter. It was the fact that you promoted your Facebook group. No-one accused you of a scam - I'm not sure what gave you that impression. However, a solicitation is a solicitation is a solicitation, no matter what the intention. We have people asking for donations, we have people offering free baby gear, we have people looking for a nanny, all these people have wonderful intentions....but it is still against the site guidelines. You can debate it all you like. It isn't going to change the fact that it was a form of solicitation.

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Vanessa - posted on 03/13/2014

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Well thank you for your clear warning! I appreciate you distinctly sharing your intentions.

Let me be a little less muddled in asking anyone/everyone. When you raise your children what do you do or teach the about give back to the community, school or maybe even the elderly? Or maybe you don't do this - I would love to hear your thoughts.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2014

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It is quite obvious what your post was pertaining to. It was just a muddled post that could only be interpreted if the reader was on the previous thread. Quite frankly I don't care what your job is or what you are attempting to solicit. Please keep all solicitations in the appropriate work from home groups. You had very specific questions at the tail end of your long winded speech, and I was addressing that.

Your personal attack calling me "simple minded" because I unveiled your true reason for your thread is not even worth addressing.

I will warn you, and please take this as my official warning on this thread, the next personal attack you display, you will be banned from this page for 24 hours. Any solicitations, you will be banned from this page all together. Same for any other groups that I moderate.

~DM MoD LiTtLe MiSs~

Vanessa - posted on 03/13/2014

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I find it really sad that the only thing you pulled out of my post was judging me for what you observe as soliciting. Try looking at the bigger picture of life and evaluate the big picture, not your narrow vision. As a moderator I would go back and review your policies because I feel your are borderline to speaking harassing words.

Is this not a group to have a great debate on topics?

Little Miss I would like to ask you, since you seem to know so much about me, what exactly is my job? What profile are you referring to that is "littered with solicitation" and what are you accusing me of soliciting now? If you don't like my post - Move On!!! It is obviously above your simple minded thinking.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2014

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My intentions???? My intentions are to keep this site clean from solicitors. Unfortunately I am not a mod of all the groups in here, but my INTENTIONS are to moderate the ones I admin and mod. Why? Because solicitors clog up our news feeds and bother the members.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2014

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Are you serious? Is this still about your post that was recently deleted? Why is your question? The big why of WHY you would help someone? Dude, just go look at your profile and it is littered with solicitations. You are helping yourself first. That is your agenda, just like anyone else with a job. Seriously, this needs to stop.

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