Interracial Marriages

Amber - posted on 04/27/2011 ( 47 moms have responded )

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I was really surprised in another community when a mother said that she was against interracial marriages.

It's not something that I even think twice about (or even notice to be honest). It's not even on my radar. I thought it was completely normal.

So, I guess I'm wondering how diverse people's thoughts/feelings on this are?

Are you for it? Against it? Don't really care?
And Why?

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♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 04/27/2011

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My Lover Man is Korean and as yall can see Im Black..been together for almost 6years...so yes im for it...



im for anyone being with the person they want...same sex..multi persons...ect ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ is all that matters in the end...



people like that lady have small minds...very tiny

Donna - posted on 04/29/2011

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I think if people love each other they should be together. I love the idea of not just "tolerating" differences, but welcoming and celebrating how God made each of us :)

Constance - posted on 04/27/2011

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I love this saying granted it come from

The Comedian Ralphie May (he openly admits he is so far from being politically correct but it is his way.)



I don't know what the difference is either when it comes to the color of skin. We are all Americans. n Sept 11,2001 we were attacked on our own soil. We fight in countries to protect who we are. They kill us just because we are Americans. They don't care if yo are Black, Whie, Brown, Christians, Buddists, or anything else they are just content to kill us because we are Americans. If they look at us a one group why can't we? Interracial or same sex it doesn't matter because truthfuly who are they hurting?

Merry - posted on 04/27/2011

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I'm mostly German, my husband is mostly Danish so we are interracial. But on the surface we both just look white. Almost everyone is mixed with something these days, specifically in America. Yet no one cares if a German marries a Dane. It's sad, only if the skin looks different do people care. Nigerian and Japanese would cause a stir, but English and French wouldn't cause anyone to think twice.

It's a sad double standerd, pure racism.

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Alexis - posted on 04/29/2011

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I am for it, but at the same time think it shouldn't even be an issue. I am in an inter-racial marriage and my husband is the product of an inter-racial marriage. He is Hispanic, Pima Indian and I am white. Both of us had some issues with our grandparents on the subject but they opened up to us and we havent had issues since. Besides if everyone was to look at what their parents and grand parents were they would find out no one is a pure bred of any race, they just claim to be of one race or another. For example, I am white, but have German, Irish, English and probably others that I am not aware of. My son looks white but is Hispanic, German, Irish, English and Pima Indian. So it really bugs me when people even claim a race unless they are truely pure bred (which is rare) and why deny yourself the possibility of enjoying the love of your life if you won't date someone based on their race? I think you shortchange yourself by being racily driven.

September - posted on 04/29/2011

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I'm from an interracial family that I love very much! I think as long as you love one another who cares about the color of your skin! :) We’re all human regardless!

Janessa - posted on 04/29/2011

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Jodi I agree with you just because someone has white skin does not make them white. My adopted father is a 1/4 native he has olive skin my sister looks my she might be mixed with black but she isn't.My older brother has blond hair and blue eyes and my other brother has blue eyes and brown hair. I have friends whoare 1/2 black and that are 1/4 black that look all white same goes for this girl I just met her great great great grandpa was black but everyone in her family has blond hair and blue eyes so you never know who are actually mixed race just by looking at them. Majority of people hide fact that they are actually not all white but are afraid of racist people to come out and be proud of all there are. Plus aren't majority of white americans are mixed 1/3 white americans have african ancestry and many also have native american ancestry who is actaully white in america I would really like to know.

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My marriage is interracial and I've caught loads of hell for it....but it's worth it, every minute is worth it beyond compare. I love who I love and it's nobody else's business. If you have a problem with it you don't need to be part of my life and you don't need to look at me, my hot husband and my beautiful bronzed children. I don't even see skin color. There is so little love in this world, how could you condemn someone for loving? That's insane.



Whoever made the comments in the other group needs to crawl back under her rock and stay there...probably alone and miserable, too. Happy, loving people don't judge others for being happy and loving.

Cyndel - posted on 04/29/2011

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I'm not surprised, though I am saddened about it. I live in TN and there are people who never notice race...then
there are those who are extremely racist. I've dealt with both. I don't really care what color you are, if you are respectable, manorly, respectful, hard working, kind, then what does it matter what your skin color is. If you are a good husband/wife/parent why should I care what your ancestry is? I don't argue with the racists because they are extremely passionate about it and yelling in circles is a waste of time and energy, all you can do is pray that they learn that race is nothing but 'surface paint'.

Veronique - posted on 04/29/2011

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I think that interacial marriages is just like any other marriage. as long as you love each other then it shouldn't matter. I do think that it's harder for an older generation to understand that. They grew up with a different thinking so of course you'll have an old lady say something negative or an old man for that matter. Like the same goes Love id blind ;)

OhJessie - posted on 04/29/2011

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I honestly don't see a problem with interracial marriages and don't know why anyone does. We all come from the same place.

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For me it is a non-issue... Love is love! But I also have a biased opinion... I am the product of an interracial marriage and wouldn't be here if my mom and dad hadn't stuck it out... Back in their day it wasn't as accepted as it is now. I don't really know my dads family because the didn't have much to do with him after he went against their wishes and married my mom. It is just silly to me to cause so much hurt and pain over something that doesn't matter.... We are all human.

For my children as long as they are happy and their partner loves and respects them and vice versa I will be happy

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Unfortunately, that kind of thinking is still out there, even though we're supposedly in the 21st century. Personally, I'm all for it, since I'm half Japanese and half Finnish and married to a British descended Aussie.

Tawny - posted on 04/28/2011

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The color of skin is not a big deal as long as you love the person it is no ones business but there own.... I also think interracial babies like the darker skin with the light blue eyes or green eyes are just gorgeous !!

Mrs. - posted on 04/28/2011

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To be honest, in my city, my fiance and I think it is likely my daughter will be in the minority looking just white. Everyone is having babies with everyone and nowadays it is odd when you are identified as just one race. I think it will really change for our kids and I'm glad.

Like many of you who's family goes back in the States since its first settlers, my father's great grandmother was American Indian. So many of us come from that kind of background and are just not aware of it. I wasn't until recently my grandmother "came out" about it. It was the family secret until now and the only way you could tell was that most of us have smaller, asian looking eyes and high cheekbones (and we tan well in the summer).

Things, they are a changin'.

Jane - posted on 04/28/2011

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People are people. You love who you love. Skin color is nothing more than that....skin color. I'm not sure I ever notice, to be honest.

Daniellecherees - posted on 04/28/2011

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i love my husband jonathan, he is a wonderful man of God and everything i asked God for! everyone is different in whom their eye and heart longs for. from one blood God made all the nations, so there really is no need for people to look at someone different based on a simple color. as basic as this is,: we are all the same.
it is such a beautiful colorfol, world we live in, and its funny when someone is against to the black or white race, and yet there dog is white or dark brown. =)

My children are so beautiful, and i love the fact that we are a walking testimony to the unconditional love of what we are made to represent for mankind.

people may look at me a certain way, or judge us, but at the end of the day, im happy and have a housefull of love. plus, iam not trying to impress anyone, just live a life just like everyone else.

love danielle

Schyla - posted on 04/28/2011

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We all put our pants on one leg at a time and we all bleed the same color when cut so to me we're all of the HUMAN RACE and why should it matter?

Johnny - posted on 04/28/2011

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I was really surprised when I read that too Amber. I thought that the only people who still held those sorts of thoughts were Neo Nazis or at least 65 years old.

I agree with Teresa's comment that race doesn't matter, as long as it's the human race. But I'm wondering if we will change that when the aliens come? Interspecies dating is wrong on your own planet, but with extraterrestrials? What are the rules?

Jennifer - posted on 04/28/2011

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This is a non-issue for me as well. I don't even see the "color" of my eldest daughter; I just see a wonderful little person.

BTW, according to the US Census Bureau, "the number of Americans who identified themselves as being of more than one race in 2010 grew about 32% over the last decade. The number of people who identified as both white and black jumped an astounding 134%. And nearly 50% more children were identified as multiracial on this census, making that category the fastest-growing youth demographic in the country."

source: http://www.calendarlive.com/la-oe-rodrig...,0,7661994.column

Ez - posted on 04/28/2011

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Total non-issue for me. And I will echo what Krista said... mixed raise babies are divine :)

Becky - posted on 04/28/2011

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In adoption, we define race as being your skin color - Caucasian, Black, Hispanic, Asian, etc. Your nationality/cultural background is your ethnicity. So, a Caucasian with French background married to a caucasian with Russian background would not be an interracial marriage, but you could call it interethnic or intercultural, if you wanted to. :)
As far as interracial marriages, nope, no problem with them whatsoever. I almost married a Nigerien man, actually. (and his race has nothing whatsoever to do with why I didn't.) My sister is in an interracial marriage- her husband is Haitian, (black) and their daughter is absolutely gorgeious!

Jenni - posted on 04/27/2011

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Amber, I was a bit shocked as well. I didn't realize it was 1960?

I guess I just come from a rather contemporary and accepting social group. To be completely honest.... I don't think I've even heard anyone refer to any couple as being 'interracial' in maybe.... 10 or 15 years? I just don't make the distinguishment and I haven't really heard of anyone else making the distinguishment in some time now.



Shoot... I'm Canadian and my husband is Zambian. Does that make us interracial? ;)

Charlie - posted on 04/27/2011

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Then that lady should drag herself back to her cave where she came from and only reproduce with neanderthal man .



I am a Tongan , Samoan , Irish , German Australian born my fiance is Scottish , English Australian born and our kids are stunning even if I do say so myself .

Amber - posted on 04/27/2011

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I actually wasn't thinking about what "race" meant when I asked the question...quite frankly because I've really never thought about it that much. I was in a bit of shock while writing it.

I know that we've all come from different backgrounds, but I've never thought of that as a constraint or a defining line in the sand. Because of that, I never really had to define it.

So, I guess technically I'm in an interracial relationship because I have 3 backgrounds (Irish, German, and Polish) and Chad isn't all three of those :)

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I can't believe people actually still have a problem with interracial marriages/relationships....Thats crazy.

Lacye - posted on 04/27/2011

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I don't really care if two people from different races get married but personally, it's just not for me. It's not because I'm a racist or anything, I'm just not attracted to guys from a different race.

Krista - posted on 04/27/2011

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Teresa said it perfectly. Race doesn't matter, as long as the love is there.

Plus (and I hope this isn't taken the wrong way), but I find that mixed-race babies are usually just GORGEOUS. I love the whole "new" category of beauty that we're seeing, where we can't tell a person's ethnicity just by looking at them, but they've got this incredible, original beauty to them.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 04/27/2011

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BTW we have a son and he is f-ing Beautiful..LOL

Rosie - posted on 04/27/2011

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dont' give a shit, and don't understand why anybody would have a problem with it? why do people care that other people love each other and they happen to be 2 different races? i dont' get it.

Jane - posted on 04/27/2011

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My husband and I were of two different races and our children are blended with a third. If interracial marriage were wrong I couldn't have married the love of my life.

Anyone who is against interracial marriage "has some serious 'splainin' to do," to quote Rickie Ricardo, husband of Lucille Ball, in what was at the time considered to be an interracial marriage.

Merry - posted on 04/27/2011

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I think you're right marina, but I'm saying it's hypocritical because unless you are the same origins as your partner, it's interracial. Yet only if it's visible in skin color do people make a fuss. So it's not anything more then skin color. It's not really about mixing races, they just care about mixing colors. Which is stupid and cruel!

JuLeah - posted on 04/27/2011

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Well, I am Dutch, French, German, English, and Native (American) so, I guess that unless I hook up with someone who is the same % Dutch, the same % German, English, French, and Native ... I am in an interracial marriage



And I do know that Dutch is not a 'race' but I am attempting to make a point. If you go back, and not that far, into the genetic history of everyone (white, brown, or black) you will find white, brown, and black.



We are ALL already in interraical partnerships, so I don't get the fuss ... we all have 'Muggle' in our family line, so I am not sure what the 'pure bloods' are all up in arms about

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/27/2011

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I think, and I could be wrong...it is about blacks marrying whites, or asians marrying hispanics, or puertirican with native americans. I think it is very "breed specific" if you will.

Merry - posted on 04/27/2011

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We are both in the human race.....does that count! Lol. I'm pretty sure different nationalities is the same as different races.......let's say a native American marries a German ancestry American citizen. Is that the same race? Or two American citizens, one originating from Egypt, one originating from France. Both are American. But both are different origins. Is that the same race?
It's confusing. I'm confused :P

Or I believe aboriginal Australians are dark skinned, what if they marry a white skinned Australian......very confusing!

Jodi - posted on 04/27/2011

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Oh, I just realised I didn't answer the question. I have absolutely no issue with it at all. I can't understand why someone would have such issue with it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/27/2011

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I am in an interracial marriage, so I better be good with it!

Jodi - posted on 04/27/2011

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Well, that's an interesting question actually, what defines a different "race"? I just did my head in thinking about it. Why is it that we assume all those with white skin are the same race? I've never thought about that before (because really, it makes little or no difference to me WHAT race someone is).

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Laura, you being German and your husband being Danish makes you two different nationalities, not two different races. Not that it matters. It shouldn't matter about either.

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It's not my business who marries who as long as they're consenting adults. I"m also fully ok with gay marriage and polygamy (again, as long as all are fully consenting ADULTS).

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