is it alright to put my 8 month into daycare?

Naomi - posted on 08/31/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




i want to get a job but i dont trust people i want to put my kids into daycare one is 4 and the other is 8 months i havent put my 4 year old in yet as it is so expensive but i was thinking if i get a job itl be easier financialy.
can yous please give me advice if it would be alright. i dont want o loose the bond between me n my baby i love it.but i have to get a job to support my family has anyone else been in my situation??


Nikki - posted on 08/31/2010




Im putting my son into daycare now at 15 months because I HAVE to go back to work, its not something I am happy with but it needs to be done, not only for me but for him.......... But the one thing that I should have done is put him in earlier, the longer I waited the stronger his seperation anxiety grew. My son has such severe anxiety around anyone but myself my husband and our immediate family. So I have been trying to ease him in, he has gotten alot better but still cries when I leave. We found an amazing daycare , which I absolutely love and the caregivers are so attentive and go above and beyond I trust them fully as I have spent everyday for the last month there for an hour in the morning with him, from all the other parents and people I have met there they have told me I should have done it earlier, or I should have left him with more people. Its also once he is comfortable going to be extremely benficial for him, he needs more socialization with other children his age, plus he learns so much there, they do so many activities that I wouldnt have even thought of, plus he will pick up so much from the other kids. From talking to other moms they have told me its unbelievable how much quicker there toddlers started talking and learning new things. Just look around go in ask questions spend a day at the daycare find one you are comfortable with and to be honest as much as you dont want to the sooner the better for them. You will still see them every morning every night every weekend and they will be so excited to see you and with the extra money you will be less stressed and be able to have fun and relax and spend time with them not worrying about bills

Lindsay - posted on 08/31/2010




I say do whatever you feel is right for your family, and don't let anyone put you down for your decision either way. Daycare is not evil and it doesn't make you any less of a mother. Do your research and find a place that you trust and feel comfortable with. Not all daycares are created equally so you just have to find the one that suits your style.

Jessica - posted on 08/31/2010




I had this exact problem, my baby girl is only 3 months, but money was tight and I refused to leave her with a stranger, so went hunting and found a job working for a dayhome. This way I can work fulltime and have my daughter with me 24/7 :)

Charlie - posted on 08/31/2010




If you need to do it then go ahead , you can still have a bond with your baby just make sure when you are home you spend quality time with your LO .

Make sure you interview the nursery , ask lots of questions about their policies and ratios ( staff to children ) ask them about their philosophy and day plan including if meals are provided or not .

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I pretty much agree with the others. It's only a decision you can make, and check out all the possible daycare options available before deciding where to put your children. Another thing to think about: if you got a job would it be worth it? What I mean is, how much does the daycare cost vs. what you would be making? If you would only make enough to cover the costs or just have a tiny amount left over after paying daycare, I would think that it's not worth it. Unless you really just want to work.

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Caitlin - posted on 09/02/2010




Nothing wrong with it, I went a slightly different route sadly though. My daughter is 6 months old (my other is 22 months) and I had to go to work, or lose the house so no choice. My husband works 4 days a week full time, so I found a job 3 days a week full time, that way I can leave the girls with someone I trust, and I can pump at work so I can keep feeding her breastmilk. Do what you have to do, this way was easier on us, though it's hard on the realationship, it's what's best for our girls.

Jessica - posted on 09/02/2010




My son was in nursery from 3 months old. Like you I had to return to work in order to feed him. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with putting your 8 month old in nursery.

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Will it be worth it after paying daycare, gas, clothes, etc. Will you come out ahead? Consider the expenses & if it definitely will help then go for it. Your children will be fine. The 8 mo. old will have some separation anxiety at that age, but will be okay after awhile. It's been proven that children don't suffer from going to daycare. It will probably be harder on you.

Sara - posted on 09/01/2010




My daughter has been in daycare since she was three months old, she's now 22 months, and we have a great bond. I do think that you need to find someplace you're comfortable leaving them, or it's not going to be good for you. You have to expect some anxiety for yourself and them, but get references for the place. The state I live in runs a website where you can check on the licensure of daycares, if they've had infractions, etc. You should see if there's something like this available where you live. Good luck!

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You say you want to get a job, not that you HAVE to... in that case, I would wait. If you have to do it then you have to do what you have to do to survive, but personally I would not give up that precious time in the first few years w/ my child unless I had absolutely no other options.

Katherine - posted on 08/31/2010




You have to do what you have to do. I know women who went back at 6 weeks because they HAD to work. Are you working f/t or p/t? Are you a single mom?

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