Is it just me...

Becky - posted on 06/02/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )




Or does anyone else find this a bit disturbing? (the hands-free feeding system)

It just seems to me like we have so many products designed to make parenting easier and less of an inconvenience for parents - infant soothing centres so we don't have to hold them, little machines that make womb and heartbeat noises to help them sleep on their own, and now a bottle that no one needs to hold? Are children really that much of a burden?


Tara - posted on 06/03/2011




just another way to parent without ever having to touch your kid except to change their diaper and move them from one "containment unit" to another.
It's like those infant seats that go from the car to the stroller to the grocery cart and back into the car. You can go all over town and never have to actually touch your infant!!
Seems like it's more of someone supplying a product and inventing a "need" for it. Marketing to parents who are too busy, whose lives are too packed...
I doubt the inventor of this product saw a real need in parenting circles for this product, more they saw the potential $$$ they could make from this "convenience" product.
I can see it being helpful for babies who have had surgeries and who can't be handled a lot due to incisions, pain, etc. etc. but then it should be marketed as a medical device.

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It's not about us moms feeling like children are a burden. It's about making money. A need can be created for almost anything if we try hard enough, have enough money to market and advertise it etc.

Jenn - posted on 06/02/2011




I see this as a product designed to help moms of multiples. Or lazy ass bitches.

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I can see it being useful in certain situations. But overall I think it's a little ridiculous. Babies NEED to be held to a certain extent. The frequent need to eat ensures that most babies get held often to meet their need for human contact. But in situations that have been mentioned...multiples, long car rides, special needs children...this product could be helpful.


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Kate CP - posted on 06/04/2011




Some nights (like last night) I wish my boobs were detachable so I could just lay him down with one and I could sleep. :P

Sarah - posted on 06/03/2011




@Becky, It didn't bother me what you said, I just thought you were making a comparison to the bottle feeder thing. I do agree that maybe these types of things are overused, but I think, in general, these types of products are perfectly acceptable as long as they are used properly (meaning not all the time, using most of the time to hold and love and cuddle your little ones.) I'm not saying I disagree that overusing is them is bad, I just see the instances where they are useful.

Melissa - posted on 06/03/2011




i find aspects of it disturbing, but at the same time i find it completely acceptable. i think it really depends on each individual and how they utilize the tool. with my son, i barely ever put him down in the beginning, i just loved holding him and cuddling him. when i went back to work, i work for my family, so he came with me. i have a really hard time trusting day cares an strangers, and i didn't have any close, trustworthy friends available for childcare. anyways, sometimes while he was eating i would have to tend to a customer, so i'd have to prop his bottle for him. he was old enough and strong enough to hold his bottle on his own, roll over, lift his head, etc etc, but when he ate he was really lazy and would just let his bottle fall and get milk all over the place lol. i used to get strange looks, but i was right next to him, i knew he wasn't in any danger. i think in that instance a tool like this would have been really useful. but i do agree, i think far too many people are trying to basically take the parenting out of parenting :0/

Sarah - posted on 06/03/2011




Omg the website said it could be used for babies with disabilities. Valid use. Let's not make parents feel bad for using baby car seat/stroller combos.

Amber - posted on 06/02/2011




I wonder about the choking hazard? I know my son would occasionally swallow wrong and start coughing. I would have to take the bottle out, put him on my shoulder, and pat his back/soothe him because of it. When he would have been old enough to sit himself up and cough, he was old enough to hold his bottle on his own.

We regularly did 5 hour (one way) car trips with our son, because that's how far away my in laws live. So, ten hours in the car every 2 months. Whenever our son would get hungry, we'd pull off and take the 10 minutes to feed him and stretch our legs. It didn't take long at all, and I knew there was no risk of him choking.

So, I'm not sure I see the point?

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Yet another way for people to be less attached to their kids. I thank god every day for my kids and every minute they let me hold or snuggle them. People that don't have time for the kids to sit with them while they learn to sit on their own, to watch them instead of leashing them and now these people have been given the ability to feed their kids without actually touching them. That is all truly sad and disturbing. No wonder people can't raise well adjusted kids into adults. If you can't be bothered to hug, snuggle, care for, watch, and teach your children then why in the HELL did you have them to begin with.

Sharon - posted on 06/02/2011




I had one of those for each of the kids. They weren't in full time use and they aren't for use with newborns. But they did come in handy when we drove for 8 hours and the baby was hungry 10 minutes after we left the rest area.

It has an extremely short life for a baby. newborns can't use them and toddlers rip them apart flinging milk everywhere.

They have their uses, but the possibility for abuse is there, like everything else.

Minnie - posted on 06/02/2011




I've got a hands-free feeding system. It involves baby strapped to my chest with a length of fabric and boob popped into mouth. Voila! Two hands to make dinner, get groceries, play with other child.

Ez - posted on 06/02/2011




Becky I agree with you completely. There are so many products that encourage parents to put their wants and needs before their baby's. This is just another. I despise bottle propping. I realise that there are certain circumstances where it becomes a necessity (like the toddler getting into the fridge and smashing a dozen eggs all over the floor while you're feeding the baby), but I think it's awful as a regular event.

This product is stupid and unnecessary. Again, there will be exceptions where it might be helpful (multiples etc) but otherwise I agree that it makes it too easy for a baby's need for touch to be ignored.

Becky - posted on 06/02/2011




I didn't mean to make it sound like swings and stuff are horrible products. Sorry if I did. We have a swing and we definitely use it. I agree, you do have to put your baby down sometimes. I don't know, maybe because I always breastfed, I just don't see the use for this. And I did have children close in age. Not multiples though. I can see the use for something like this in that case. I think what bothers me more is not so much that these products exist, but sometimes how they are marketed, as if they are absolute necessities to parent your children and retain your sanity. It makes it seem (to me) like children are just an inconvenience and burden.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2011




I agree with Rachel, it doesn't bother me to see stuff like this. I don't see why an infant soother and heartbeat machine's are bad either. As long as a parent isn't solely dependent on such things, then its fine. But if your only using those things on occasion Mom's need to know they can put baby down sometimes. If you (general you) can hold your baby 24/7 without becoming overwhelmed, then thats great, but I think most moms need to know they can set baby down. Another point to consider is that some babies can only be soothed by a swing or bouncer at certain times, and that holding doesn't always work. As for that hands-free thingy, I don't think I would have liked using it, but moms with multiple children close in age might find it useful on occasion. The website also said that the product could be used for babies with difficulties or disabilities. I'm studying to be a special education teacher, and I've had classes on infant and early childhood development. I think it it would be great to use for some babies with autism who refuse to be held while eating.

Jane - posted on 06/02/2011




Perhaps Kate, with her eight, and Octomom could use something like that. Personally, I never found feeding my children a burden.

Karen - posted on 06/02/2011




I see it as useful if you have more than one kid. I always held mine as much as I could while doing everything. But everyonce in a while, some people need a little assistance. And when there is no one else around to help provide that few minutes then this is a great thing to have around. It would come in handy if you were to come down with a stomache bug (u don't want to get the baby sick or do the bathroom thing with the baby while it's eating) lol. Or if one of your other children got hurt and needed your attention you could go help. I wouldn't see it fit to use all the time though. They do need held more often than not while feeding. And I would keep the baby within arms reach also.

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I could see it being useful if you drive a lot and need to feed the baby in the car. Mostly though, I think we should hold our babies to feed them.

Rachel - posted on 06/02/2011




This doesnt really bother me i could see if you only have one child to care for and can give them your whole undevided attention you wouldnt need this and i would see the mother being lasy by using it. but for multiples this could be great.

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