Is it possible or not to SPOIL your BABY(s)

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 03/01/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Yes or no
Many other mothers that I know think you can, where did that come from, how do you know your spoling your baby?

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Danielle - posted on 03/02/2011

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A child under 6 mnths no, and I don't think loving on a child too much can spoil them. If they're over 6 mnths and get EVERYTHING they want, whether its toys or their way or anything thing else then yeah you're on the road to a spoiled child. When I think of a spoiled child I always think about the cartoon Rugrats and the little girl Angelica lol.

Katherine - posted on 03/01/2011

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spoil (spoil)
v. spoiled or spoilt (spoilt), spoil·ing, spoils
v.tr.
1.
a. To impair the value or quality of.
b. To damage irreparably; ruin.
2. To impair the completeness, perfection, or unity of; flaw grievously: spoiled the party.
3. To do harm to the character, nature, or attitude of by oversolicitude, overindulgence, or excessive praise. See Synonyms at pamper.
4. Archaic
a. To plunder; despoil.
b. To take by force.


b. To damage irreparably; ruin.


How can you do THAT? IF you were referring to a child. I think you can spoil an older one for sure. Too many toys, being too lenient etc....

Minnie - posted on 03/01/2011

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Nah. Humans are born underdeveloped. When our babies are about 9 months old their developmental level is about the same as the newborns of the higher primates. Necessity due to bipedalism.

As such, they are extremely needy- and near constant contact with their mothers has been the norm for as long as humans have existed.

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Meghan - posted on 03/02/2011

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Young babies? No. Older babies? Yes. I think up until a year they do need you to respond to every beckon call. But after that they learn to assess and manipulate situations, and that's when you gradually cut back, and guide them towards independence.

Bondlets - posted on 03/02/2011

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Spoil? No (up to a certain point/age). Establish patterns/routines that may not be best for baby and may have to be untrained later? Yes (IMO, of course). I love holding my babies and give them all the loving they will tolerate yet I also try to establish patterns that I can continue as they get older rather than having to change things later.

Rosie - posted on 03/02/2011

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i feel under 6 months no, you cannot. i don't feel a child can manipulate you purposefully when they are 6 months or older, i just know that they become accustomed to things and don't know how to function without that "thing". like if you pick up the child all the time, that is going to become the norm, and soon you won't be able to put them down without them freaking out.

Bonnie - posted on 03/02/2011

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I think anything younger then 12-18 months cannot be spoiled. They need to be held and they need to have attention. Not to mention that most babies and toddlers under 18 months go through separation anxiety.

I think a lot of these mothers get it from their mothers. My mom use to tell me the same thing, "oh you can't keep picking them up or giving them what they want. You will spoil them." The funny thing is, she hated when they cried.

Jenn - posted on 03/01/2011

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To me the word spoil is like spoiled meat - or rotten. So no - you can not spoil a baby. You can, however, spoil an older child.

Stifler's - posted on 03/01/2011

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No. There's no such thing as "spoiling with love" as in having 'too many' cuddles and too much attention, only getting whatever toys and food they like and never being told no. People lectured me about how I'd "spoil" my 2 week old baby and to let him "self soothe" instead of walking around with him all day and breastfeeding him whenever he wanted... pfffft. I ended up bottle feeding and hating my life and being more concerned about housework than being a parent. I wish I could go back in time and slap them and enjoy my life more.

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Ditto Sara B.

My girls did get 'spoiled' at 4ish months when my ex's family was visiting since they hardly ever got put down. They were just getting what I think every baby needs, but since it wasn't something I was capable of keeping up w/.... they had to relearn to be ok being put down a lot.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 03/01/2011

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He has been inside of you for almost 10 months, technically he is the only person that has been that close to you!
So he needs that closeness and is use to it, expects it..., and nothing less =)

~that is what i told her~

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