Is it selfish if I dont want kids and would rather Travel instead?

Amanda - posted on 01/22/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I havent traveled much. Ive only been to California,Colorado, Ohio,and Mexico. While im greatful for where i have been I need to see more of this country and some of the world. My sister wants me to get married and have kids. Before i even consider having them i need to be married and have most of my 20's & 30's to travel. Am i selfish if i dont ever have kids and do alot of traveling?

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Janice - posted on 01/23/2013

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Its your life, live how you want. Its definitely not selfish. If anything your sister imposing her desires on you is selfish.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/22/2013

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Dude, you gotta be "selfish". You have one life to live. I don't think anyone should take a path they don't want just because it's the norm. Live your life the way you want, be the fun aunt who brings home the cool shit from her travels. I have an aunt with no kids who travels a lot and she is amazing. She even flew all of us nieces and nephews over one at a time to stay with her in the UK and tour us around because you can do that when you haven't had to pay for kids your whole life. Lol. She says she's hoping one of us had a good enough time to want to pay for a quality retirement home one day or something. Hahaha.

Cecilia - posted on 01/22/2013

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My sister doesn't want kids. She is a cop and probably for the best if she doesn't because of her job. not saying cops can't be mothers... I just think that a child worrying if mommy is coming home tonight is a lot on them.

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No, not selfish at all! It is your life, and you only get one chance, so live it the way YOU want to live it!

Besides that, not having a child is not selfish--we are no longer in a place where we need to have kids in order to perpetuate our existence. We're not dying out, and some people actually argue that we are over populated, so you could say you are doing Mother Earth a favor by opting out.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/22/2013

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I guess I'm with Little Miss (Imagine that...)

Its your life. If you are not married, and don't have kids, and feel fulfilled, then by all means, be happy! Ask your sister this: Are YOU happy, sis? Are YOU content with being a parent, being a wife, etc? And if she answers "yes", then ask her why she'd want you to be not happy doing something that you have not chosen for your life.

If she says "no" then tell her to quit wanting to live through you and fix her own life!

Travel. Be happy. If you do meet that "perfect" one, and decide to settle down and have kids later, then so be it!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/22/2013

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Well, it is your life not your sisters. Nuff said.Travel, do what you want. There is always time for a family. My recommendation? Follow your heart, and why be on a moms site for this? If you never want kids, it is your choice and your life. But you will not find your answers in here. Find it out in the world.

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