Is it wrong to force your kid..

Mrs. - posted on 12/03/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )




Santa. Some kids are cool with him, others give the impression his lap is made of razor wire and closet monsters

Example A:

Is it wrong to force your kid to do it? Could it be traumatic?

I find it hilarious but am a bit sad for the kids that freak.


Bonnie - posted on 12/03/2010




I feel it is wrong to force a child to like Santa and sit on his lap. Many children are frightened by the whole thing, they usually get out of it though. We have been taking our boys to see Santa since they were babies, but they get kind of scared and have yet to sit alone with him, so my husband and I usually sit with Santa and them as well or Santa stands behind the chair and we sit with the boys. It really helps out.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/04/2010




My son likes the idea of Santa, but is scared out of his ever loving mind! The child looks like he is gonna pee his pants when Santa tries to come and say hi! Nope, wont force it...although I have tried and learned my lesson!

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Ok Kati, it's time to set up the arranged marriage! Everything Christmas related is HoHo...HoHo lights, HoHo cookies...too funny!

Rosie - posted on 12/04/2010




sara lucas calls him HOHO too! isn't it the cutest damn thing. he also calls the tree a HOHO tree, LMAO!!

anyhoo, i will do it once to see how they react, but i won't force my kids after that. none of my kids like santa, and refuse to see him, lol!

last year we had this thing called christmas in the park in our town. santa is in the train caboose, and you wait in line and get free hot cocoa and popcorn and listen to music while waiting. there's also horse drawn carriage rides. anyhoo last year we waited over an hour and ahalf got right up to the train and vinnie freaked out! it was freezing out, like in the teens, and it was just a horrid horrid time. this year we just went straight to the horses and decided to say screw you santa!

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Well, the funny thing about Eliza...she was so excited about Santa, then terrified when it was her turn to take the pic, then she talked about him the rest of the day. She couldn't wait to tell Daddy that she saw HoHo!

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I wouldn't force my son to do it. In fact, in 2008 he freaked out so bad that we just left (after waiting in line for about 45 minutes). I think it's mean to force a child to sit on Santa's lap if they are really set against it.

Sharon - posted on 12/04/2010




yeah i will. yeah I did. But i was lucky. none of my kids were terrified of santa before sitting on his lap, but long lines made them cranky and there were some uncooperative tears.

But if your kid pitches all out terrified fit, I think you'd better find a different photo op. either sit with santa and hold the kid yourself or find an unassuming elf or use their tree/winter wonderland decorations.

Lady Heather - posted on 12/03/2010




My daughter decided she hates Christmas this year and she screams if you even get her near the guy. We took a picture with him, but I was holding her standing next to him. Could not bring myself to put her in his lap. It's all for me in the end really, so no need to traumatize. They do make rather humourous pictures though. Muahaha.

Anyways, she got her own back because the elf gave her a candy cane and she turned around and threw it at Santa. I'm kind of proud. That's exactly what I want her to do if a stranger tries to offer her candy. Throw it in his face and run away. hehehe.

Jocelyn - posted on 12/03/2010




I have one picture of Conner doing the "arm reach" with a slightly scared expression and I fully admit that I made him sit on Santa's lap for my own selfish reasons lol. But that being said, if he had been screaming bloody murder or having a complete melt down, then no, of course I'm not going to make him sit on Santa's lap! I don't think he was traumatized tho, he was completely fine for Santa the next year :P

Jodi - posted on 12/03/2010




Thankfully, my daughter LOVED Santa this year and just chatted away in her toddler gibberish to him as if she'd known him her whole life! lol But, had she started screaming, crying and clinging to me, we would have foregon the experience. I can't stand to see my daughter terrified, I will try to help her through bad dreams or being scared of loud noises, but I certainly don't purposefully make her sit through a terrifying experience. I don't fault parents for doing it to their kids, I don't understand it...but I don't think that the kids are traumatized or anything.

Nikkole - posted on 12/03/2010




last year my son was almost 2 when he had santa pics done the first 2 were ok then in the third one he was screaming! This year he sat next to him not on him and his sister was on santas lap and she was trying to eat the furry sleeve and my sons smile kinda looked like help me but no crying!

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Nope, didn't force her. Years 1 and 2 were pretty great pictures. We went this year and built up the event with a lot of excitement. We read her Santa Claus book, watched a Santa movie and talked about it for days. She was so excited to go see "HoHo". When she saw him she started jumping up and down, "Mama! It's HoHo!" She waved and blew him sugars, and he waved back. BUT as soon as it was our turn to take the picture she freaked out. She screamed and clung to me for dear life. Having a Santa picture is NOT worth making my child do something she doesn't want to do.

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Last year was the 1st yr we really did a santa photo. Yes we made our children sit with him. They were terrified. It was so freakin' funny! But i wont be doing it this year because i don't want them to be scared of santa i want them to have good memories about christmas and if we pass one in a mall or somewhere and they ask to then i would but until they ask it wont be happening again.

They did ask to see him though it's not like i went and took them to him and made them.I really couldn't care less for sanata pics but they wanted to.

Amanda - posted on 12/03/2010




How could you even WANT to force your child to sit on Santa's lap?! If they're scared than don't put them through that! I know I wouldn't want a picture displaying of my child with a horrified face in a frame somewhere to show people! I was lucky and none of my kids were ever scared of him. But I don't think parents should force their children to sit on his lap. It seems mean!

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Totally wrong. I only did a Santa pic w/ the girls one year (they were almost 3 and we only did it cuz it was at a playgroup since we don't do Santa). Kylie did freak out, but she didn't freak til after she was on his lap a few seconds. Pic was snapped right away and she was taken right off. It's a cute pic though, but I always feel bad for her when I look at it.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 12/03/2010




I would NOT force my son.. at almost 8years old he would do just to make me happy :-)

Nikki - posted on 12/03/2010




I think they are cruel. I would never make my daughter unless she wanted too, I wouldn't wan't to sit on some fat old man's knee.

Jodi - posted on 12/03/2010




Definitely wrong to force them. I have some years where I don't have pictures of my kids with Santa because they were scared. No big deal. Parents only force their kids for their own selfish reasons, not for the sake of the kids.

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I think it's a shame that a parent would subject their child to a picture with Santa when the child is clearly upset. There's a huge difference in FORCING your child to get through vaccinations or even endure a first plane ride with take-off, but to force a child to sit on a stranger's lap? A bit too much IMO.

C. - posted on 12/03/2010




Hahaha.. One doesn't even look like the kids are that upset, but the Santa looked REALLY creepy!

And I agree with A N.. Some of those pictures were kind of funny :)

C. - posted on 12/03/2010




I definitely think it's wrong to force them to do it. If something about Santa creeps them out, then yes I think forcing them to sit on his lap could be a traumatic experience.

A - posted on 12/03/2010




I think its wrong for you to force your kid to do anything, unless if they didn't it could jeopardize their health (mental, emotional, physical, etc).

If your kid is kicking and screaming the whole time, whats the point anyway?? The picture isn't going to be good. No one is going to be happy....

The ONLY reason I could see forcing it is to teach the kid a lesson- like if they had begged and begged for weeks to go see Santa, you drag them down there, wait in line, and then they freak at the last minute. Then I might say- screw it- you're going whether you want to or not! LOL

April - posted on 12/03/2010




yes it's wrong to force your kid to sit in santa's lap. if they're not ready, they're not ready. there's always next year. or maybe there's some sort of middle ground and the kid would be willing to pose with an elf or mrs. claus if possible ;)

Lacye - posted on 12/03/2010




No. I won't force my child to sit in Santa's lap. I have a feeling she will scream at him though. She screams when my brother in law picks her up and he has a beard too. i don't know though. she seems to be ok with my dad's beard. lol

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