IVF - "Snowbabies"

Sarah - posted on 08/25/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )





When you have IVF, a number of embryos are put on "on ice" if you have embryos leftover, you're given 3 options as to what to do with these "snowbabies", donate them to research; donate to an infertile couple; or allow them to perish.

What would you do and why?

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I would donate to research I would never give up a child so I could not donate my embryos to an infertile couple (even though I know exactly how they feel). I could not know there was a child walking about who should be my responsibilty but someone else os raising.

Also if you were to donate them to an infertile couple you have no idea who they are and what kind of parents they will be, they could be abusive or neglectful and I would not be happy with that chance!

@Cathy - people choose to use donor eggs and sperm because they want to experience being pregnant, I know for me when I was told we had very little to no chance of getting pregnant that was what made me most sad that I would not experience growing a baby inside me because I knew we would adopt and so have children (although we didn't need to we proved the drs wrong woohoo).

Jenny - posted on 08/25/2010




Definately donate for research. I wouldn't be participating anyway though as I don't support IVF. At least not until the number of parentless children gets down to zero.

Sarah - posted on 08/25/2010




I think I would donate to research too, would be a good way of helping others, without having a child of mine out there somewhere.

Amie - posted on 08/25/2010




I'd donate for research.

Like Cathy I couldn't stand knowing I had a child out there.

I also agree with Laci, donating to research would be good for the world as opposed to being good for one couple.

LaCi - posted on 08/25/2010




Donate to research. It would do the greatest good. Donating to an infertile couple may be good for that couple, donating to medical research could be good for the world.

Johnny - posted on 08/25/2010




I would first choose to donate to research. The research requiring cells like this is working towards solving serious, debilitating and critical illnesses. If my embryos could make someone's life less painful, for me that would be a wonderful thing.

Sharon - posted on 08/25/2010




Perish - its a cluster of cells with the potential for human life - implanted or not there is a chance they won't make it. I don't fertilise every egg my body produces every friggen month and no one is crying about that. No one is sobbing about the few that were fertilised but didn't even make it past my next period.

perish or science. I won't mind.

C. - posted on 08/25/2010




I would donate to an infertile couple. Haven't done much research on embryonic research, so I can't say much on that. And I don't think they should be allowed to perish b/c they were taken out for a purpose. So.. I would donate to a couple that could not conceive.

Jessica - posted on 08/25/2010




It would depend on how many I had left, I would donate equally to research and infertile couples if I could.

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After having read the article (*sheepish* I posted before I got the chance), I have to say I know very little about IVF and would have to be in a situation where I knew more (ie: after having gone through it) before making a decision. I do have to agree that perhaps the better option is not to create multiple embryos and freeze them, but to create and implant one at a time. Perhaps this is not a satisfactory option for all women undergoing the procedure; depending on maternal age, embryo viability, potential of embryo "taking" and being carried to term etc. But it does eliminate the ethical dilemma of what to do with the "left-over" embryos.

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In order of preference, I would donate for research, allow them to perish, then donate to an infertile couple. I would be more than happy to contribute to medical research that may improve outcomes for people experiencing infertility. The reason I would choose to allow them to perish rather than donate to an infertile couple is that I do not know a huge amount about laws or regulations or requirements regarding children that are products of IVF being made aware or allowed access to information of their biological and genetic background and biological parents being informed of births of children from donated embryos. While I would also be more than happy to help an infertile couple have a child if I was able, I would have to do more research into this before making my decision.

I guess I have concerns and reservations that there may be an increase in numbers of children from a variety of conception circumstances who have no idea who their biological parents really are and therefor who their biological siblings are (or if they exist). This opens all sorts of doors of unknown scenarios regarding possible relationships between siblings. This may be a small and insignificant 'problem' but I wonder whether an increase in adoptive, IVF, surrogate, sperm, egg and embryo donor type situations may result in the scenario type that concerns me (a child possibly becoming sexually involved unknowingly with a genetic sibling) being on the rise. Also I can understand parents being concerned about the possible existence of more of their own children and how they are being raised and what sort of lives they are living, whether they will ever get to meet etc.

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