Jail time for not attending PTO meetings?

Katherine - posted on 10/22/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Ok so an attorney in my state is trying to get jail time for parents who don't attend PTO meetings at least once a year for problem children. 3 days(in MI) Is this crazy? Or is it valid?

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JuLeah - posted on 10/23/2010

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You can't regulate attitude. It is true that kids perform better in school if their parents are involved. But, it is also true that parents who are involved have a different attitude and approach to school. They likely speak about school in a different way, they likely take an interest in homework, school projects, class trips ..... parents who are forces to attend meetings will just be angry. I think they will send a negative message to their kids and the impact will be the opposite of what the attorney actually wants.

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Maybe if they don't attend any parent/teacher conferences...geez, rolls eyes. PTO meetings have nothing to do with an individual child. Parent/teacher conferences do and, in my experiences, the most troubled children are the ones whose parents never attend those. I would have loved for a court to order some of those parents to have a face to face meeting with me and our principal. It's very frustrating when you are trying to get help for a child, but can't without a parent's signature, and the parent doesn't show up to 5 different scheduled meetings.

Okay, but jail time is for not attending PTO is not necessary. Maybe I'd back a fine for not attending parent/teacher conferences though. Only in very extreme cases.

Jessica - posted on 10/23/2010

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I am don't understand that either. I am apart of the PTA which I assume is the same as PTO and there are not very many parents that ARE apart of it. Also the PTA doesn't do anything about problem children. All we talk about is activities and things that we need to raise money for and like School product sales and what all the money got spent on. We did talk about how the school is trying to cut down the amout of children getting in trouble but not really how they were going to go about that.

Really parents of a "problem child" should have meetins with the principal and the teacher about what should be done about THEIR child's behaviors and "problems"! It shouldn't be a part of a meeting. Also it may not be possible for parents to take the time off work to go to the meetings any way. I am sorry I just don't see the point of jail time! I don't think that every parent should be forced to be involved in their child's education. I think that every parent should WANT to be involved in their child's education but there are SO MANY that really don't care! Why should we force them into doing something they don't want to do. Any honestly the PTA meetings are borign anyway...it really doesn't have much to do with the education aspect of the school ne way! It is so much more about raising money for things that the school needs and I really think the school and the PTA need to step it up ne way b/c I had to buy Dry Erase markers and highlighters and ziploc bags for my son's kindergarten class OH and clorox wipes and hand sanatizer!! All things that I don't see my son using but the school saving money by not having to provide as many cleaning products, less soap, and I am providing the teacher with her dry earse markers and highlighter and OH post it notes!!!! The ziploc bags they have been using to send items home with the students that could not be used if they sent them home STAPLED! I get a stack of papers in a ziploc bag but they stick right out of it and don't even fit ne way

Desiree - posted on 10/23/2010

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I think thats insane, some families are single parents how are these parents supposed to attend all these meetings and tend to their children if they have no one to help. As long as the parent can be contacted by the school or are regularly at school to talk to the teachers they should not have to be forced to PTA meetings.

Jenn - posted on 10/23/2010

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OK weird - I posted a reply and it's not here now. Anyway, yeah, that's really, really stupid! I don't know how it works where you guys are, but here the parent's group is just a small group of people, so that would mean that the majority of parents would be jailed. Some people don't have the time to commit to being a member. Also, I'm not seeing the connection to being on the PTA (or PTO) and this helping your troubled youth. If someone's child is having difficulties then the parents should be called in for a teacher conference not be forced to sit on a committee that decides things like how to raise money for new playground equipment, or whether or not to have pizza days this year.

Serena - posted on 10/22/2010

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I agree with the point that this attorney is trying to make of getting parents more involved. Apparently there has to be no response from the parents part though its not just that don't come in for a meeting.

The main parents targeted are those of at-risk youth who have been getting into a lot of trouble like truancy or on the verge of dropping out.

I honestly don't see anyone ever going to jail for it but I think the point is just to "put that fire" under these parents to get involved.

I think this just goes back to the whole education issue in general about how do we motivate our children?



**edited to add: Thats weird cause I thought it was for parent teacher conferences. Thats how it was presented on CNN when I was watching. So change my statement to yeah that's stupid...**

C. - posted on 10/22/2010

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Jenn.. Parent Teacher Organization.



I think this attorney is nuts. Jail time??? Heck, my parents would have always been in jail. (from what I can remember) My mom was always taking care of my dad when he was sick and my dad was too sick to go anywhere. Would they want jail time for everyone even if they have a valid reason not to go??

Bonnie - posted on 10/22/2010

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I agree that this is taking it a bit too far. Never heard of anything like this before. At the same time, can't really understand why parents wouldn't make it their business to help out.

Becky - posted on 10/22/2010

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That seems pretty extreme to me. I definitely agree that the parents should be involved in the treatment, but I'm not sure what purpose putting them in jail is going to serve. Better to get someone involved to monitor the family and strongly encourage - or coerce, lol - the family to go!

Dana - posted on 10/22/2010

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Wow, that's ridiculous. I can see wanting to really get parents involved but, putting the parent of a troubled child (as it is) in jail...too much.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/22/2010

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I think that is taking it kinda far.,…..Jail time!
Unless you have a VERY abusive out of line child, then I don’t think you should be forced to go…

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