Just dont know when to leave!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 11/07/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )




Many of us have had guest that just don’t know when to LEAVE…like

Family, Good friend(s), a “New friend” you invite over for coffee or tea….ect

What are some things you say to get them to leave…..

Are you rude/blunt?
Drop hints….

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♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 11/08/2010




I wasn’t so much speaking about people that drop in unannounced, more so about the people that have the invitation to come to your home…..and stay tooo long

Depending on who it is, is how I react towards them….

I can be all of the above….maybe not so much rude, but blunt.

Heather - posted on 11/08/2010




My grandfather used to say, "Company, like fish, go bad after 3 days....and that only depends on how fresh the fish was." I also have a sign in my house that says, "Friends always welcome, Relatives by appointment only."...and I mean it. ;)

Tah - posted on 11/08/2010




if hints don't work, start scratching your ginky and say geez.."did i use that cream the doctor gave me?, i need industrial size gloves to apply it, but girl, it works so well.......more cream for that coffee dear..."

Chrystal - posted on 11/08/2010




I would just act like I had to get a lot done or act like you are getting really tired. Hopefully they should get the hint. Good luck:)

Jodi - posted on 11/08/2010




I'm not a fan of drop ins either, thankfully, those who might drop in refrain from doing so! Although,I have one friend who will make plans to come over and I expect an hour or two...maybe even three hours to sit and chat, grab a bite, the usual you know? Oh no, she'll be here for HOURS, she'll try to spend the night, and there have bee times I have let her just so I can go to sleep too! I drop hints politely at first, "Oh my goodness, I havn't done this yet today, I better get going to do that!" or "My husband will be home soon and we planned on a nice dinner together, I should start getting ready..." even "Are you kidding me? It's mdinight?! I'm usually in bed HOURS ago and I have to get up early!" With this girl I usually have to literally say, "I need you to leave now so I can go to sleep." and head for the door to open for her. It goes against everything I've been taught about how to treat a guest but my goodness, sometimes you have to put your foot down!!!

Dana - posted on 11/08/2010




I drop hints or I politely say they've got to leave for whatever reason there is...I'm leaving, going to bed, etc...

Bonnie - posted on 11/08/2010




I am the type of person who doesn't necessary like drop ins for the most part. So people have to call me and usually have me ready for their company mainly because I don't want to be in my pjs or busy doing things when they stop by. My MIL has stopped by without calling before, but mostly because she was at the store and decided to pick up a bunch of items for us. I am okay with that.

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TBH the people who visit me are people I want around so I don't mind if they hang around, I just get my jobs done with them here. The only person who has visited for more than a day is my little bro (the 6ft odd giant) who stopped with us for a couple of nights when he split with his ex-gf Tammy Tyson the pyscho (she was crackers), but he left of his own accord. I don't think I've ever had to ask anyone to leave because nobody has out-stayed their welcome. So I am going to guess if I did I would just be straight with them because I don't like to drop hints people just don't get them.

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My friends and family always check first if they can come over..so if i say yes i am ready for them and dont mind how long the stay..i understand if you are not expecting someone its hard at times but the good thing is i always say check with me before hand, so i am ready and free to relax with them,& chat and catch up.:-)

My friends etc have never stayed weeks, god love you ladies lol..i have to have my space, only if a friend/family member is over on a holiday, they could stay other than that, no way.

Stifler's - posted on 11/08/2010




I'm like well I better do some stuff... I have to do this today and blah blah blah and they usually get the hint.

Charlie - posted on 11/08/2010




YES !!!

It's usually my brother in law or a male friend who moves in and lives on our couch .

I drop hints for a while then im blunt but im polite .

Like " look i need to be able to walk around in my undies so you need to get off your ass and go home PLEASE "

Some of them have stayed weeks ! Geez do i have free rent on my forehead !

Iris - posted on 11/08/2010




I'm polite about it. I drop hints, if that doesn't work then I tell 'em I need to be somewhere soon. If it's after dinner and the company is boring, I start talking about that I have to get to bed soon "Big day tomorrow and a lot to get done..." People usually get the hint.

But not always...

After we moved over here I had this girl follow me everywhere. No kidding! She was at my house from the moment I got up and she didn't leave until my husband got home. I dropped hints, but if I said that I needed to be somewhere, her answer was: "ok, I'll just come with you." When I told her we were about to have dinner, she said "ok" and just sat there with her kids. Now she has a husband and he's home during dinner..But obviously not a family dinner...So we ended up saying " would you like to join us?"

But then I had enough.... and she is the only person I've been rude to.

When my mom was here she called my friend and asked her where I was (because I didn't answer when she called). My friend told her my mom went to get a haircut and I went with her to some mall (she didn't tell er what mall)... well she found us and was right in front of the hair salon!! That's when I told her to f-off! She had my cell number and there was a reason I didn't answer it!!

So, if you got a freaky stalker n your hand, you got to deal with it! If not, just be polite, normal people will get the hint.

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My family and friends don't have to leave. They could live with me if they wanted to. If it's anyone else, I drop hints and if they don't get it, then I'm pretty blunt. I don't think I"ve ever been rude though.

Sal - posted on 11/07/2010




a bit of them all, start with dropping hints, "is that the time the store closes in an hour" then ask polietly, "sorry i really have to ask you to leave but i have to get millk" (and if it is my motherinlaw who never seems to get going) i dress the kids, put them in the car then kiss her on the cheek and say i have to go see you next time and leave.....but she is special

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I've been blunt or rude before -- "Dude, you gots to go....", on numerous occasions that I can remember. I would say, or at least I'd like to think that I'm normally pretty polite about asking people to leave. "Sorry, we were just on our way out the door...." OR "I'm going to have to ask you to go. I've got tons to accomplish today!"

I very seldom drop hints. I'm not a 'beat-around-the-bush' sorta gal. ;)

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