Keep my job or stay at home

Angela - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm trying to decide what is best for my family. I've worked several years in a business dominated by men. Now I'm running my own office. I make a good salary for a women in the field. 80,000 a year. I now have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. My husband is making enough money that I don't have to work. I have a few medical issues and I'm on medical leave for 30 days. This would be a no brainer stay home but we've had some rough patches in the marriage recently. After being married 12 years I caught him texting other girls. Never actually meeting them but flirting not telling them he was married. We are working through this but I'm worried if I quit my job I'm dependent on him. Keeping my job I can live well with or with out him. He is the love of my life. I've never felt this way for anyone and I was married once before. Am I being stupid for thinking about staying home? I would do it with no second thought if it was not for recently finding those text. He said he needed to feel wanted that I was putting so much into work and I was getting sick again and pulling away from him. So every time I pull away when I get sick do I have to worry he's wondering? I'm lost any advise will help.

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Chet - posted on 08/14/2013

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A lot of good can come from focusing on your family. I have never regretted my own choice to stay home. The way you describe your situation, it does sound like having more time to put into your relationship with your husband could help a lot. As well, it is ideal for you and your partner face life's trials together. If you're struggling with your health it's a time for you and your husband to come together not for you to pull away. I think you need to both decide that you want to work on your relationship and to grow stronger as a family. From there you can decide if continuing to work will forward that goal or work against it. Quitting your job isn't likely to magically fix a relationship with weak spots though. You need to decide that you both want to actively work on this.

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