Keep my job or stay at home

Angela - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm trying to decide what is best for my family. I've worked several years in a business dominated by men. Now I'm running my own office. I make a good salary for a women in the field. 80,000 a year. I now have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. My husband is making enough money that I don't have to work. I have a few medical issues and I'm on medical leave for 30 days. This would be a no brainer stay home but we've had some rough patches in the marriage recently. After being married 12 years I caught him texting other girls. Never actually meeting them but flirting not telling them he was married. We are working through this but I'm worried if I quit my job I'm dependent on him. Keeping my job I can live well with or with out him. He is the love of my life. I've never felt this way for anyone and I was married once before. Am I being stupid for thinking about staying home? I would do it with no second thought if it was not for recently finding those text. He said he needed to feel wanted that I was putting so much into work and I was getting sick again and pulling away from him. So every time I pull away when I get sick do I have to worry he's wondering? I'm lost any advise will help.

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Those events probably are tough but worth it. As long as you stay positive and be around the people who really love and care about you then your life will be fulfilling. Don't forget to pamper yourself every once in awhile and stay strong! I hope everything is what its meant to be. Stay Strong...Best of Luck

Angela - posted on 08/15/2013

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Lol thanks but you only are given what you can handle. I'm no stronger then anyone else you just keep it moving you can't stop and dwell its not worth the headache. I'm able to get up and do what I need to everyday and that's what counts. The tough thing now is my sons football it takes alot out of me just watching him in the Texas heat I give him all the props he's in full pads playing and does great doing it now that is something.

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OMG that sounds rough! Bless your little heart (or big lol). Staying home would be better at least you get the good stress with kids drama and an enormous pile of laundry to do or list of chores. Hang in there. I am sure the transition will be tough but you seem like an extremely strong woman, so I'd say you will bounce back no problem! You are probably like the strongest woman I've ever spoken too! I think I'd be crying all the time and thinking about the worse. Heck I think I've seen you somewhere with a cape on. Oh I remember now... your WONDER WOMAN! Stronger than any man!

Angela - posted on 08/15/2013

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It's not horrible, I had a brain tumor removed last year that they think is growing back, then they found pre malignant breast lesions and I have lupus but just a mild form. The big issue now is they can't figure out why my red blood count is elevated. It's really just alot of little things. Stress seemes to make me sick so being in the position I'm in at work its a very high stress job. But I've always been working so I'm not sure i will adjust well.

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I did not realize that your health was that bad. I totally agree with the choice of spending that time with your kids. I'm sure his drinking issue was because of the stress of your health some people deal in unusual ways. I hope it gets better for you and cherish all the moments you can. Now your story just seems heartbreaking. Hold your kids and smoother them with hugs and kisses. Quality time is priceless. Hope things get better!

Angela - posted on 08/15/2013

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We had a very blunt and open talk and open talk and he decided to stop drinking all together. That seemed to be the rout of all our issues. Since then our relationship has been better then it was even 13 years ago. Another issue we are addressing is my health, its not great. With all the doctors and being sick I'm considering that more quality time with the kids may be worth the risk.

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I would keep my job just in case. It's never a good idea to be totally dependent on someone especially financially because that makes you are STUCK. If your not happy with the relationship and he doesn't respect you then I would say address the problems as adults and go from there. Trust is very important too, you will be home all the time and constantly worried about where or who he's with. You have accomplished so much why just give that up! There is no job security really anymore so its a scary risk! I'd make a list of pros and cons and if your still able to work and you have been doing it, I would keep at it. But I don't know whats best for everything or everyone so this is just a thought you can ponder. Hope it works out!

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