Kids On Facebook

Isobel - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




I just got a friend request...from my children's half sibling. I don't know about the rest of you but I think it's creepy to be "friends" with children and I don't think an 8-year-old should be encouraged to use social networking sites.

This little girl also has her own blackberry (upgraded from her previous cell phone), and apparently is getting a laptop for Christmas. I try to remain impartial, as her mother clearly has different ideals than I do..

I understand that I could limit what she sees on my profile, but really...if she can't see what I'm doing (which clearly she wouldn't)...why be my "friend"?

Am I just being a bitch cause her mother slept with my husband...or is this completely over the top?


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C'mon moms, what is wrong with you, honestly?? Allowing your kids to have FB pages when they are under 13 is BREAKING THE RULES! When you allow them to break the rules, then don't get upset with them when they decide that YOUR rules are made to be broken as well. My mama taught me that "rules is rules" and I taught my kids the same thing.

~Jennifer - posted on 11/24/2009




I would make a second facebook for myself, and then have the kids as friends there.

That way, you know the content of what they see, and they don't feel like you're hiding things from them, and the rest of the 'family' can connest through that 'circle' on facebook as well.

Krista - posted on 11/24/2009




I have a few of my cousins and my husband's cousins as friends on Facebook and they're between 10 and 14, and they are pretty irresponsible with their accounts. One of the boys invited me to join a group that he created called "[kid's name] is a dumb ass." It was basically a place for a bunch of kids to get together and write horrible things about some poor kid behind his back. My 11 year old cousin even posted a quiz on her page that determined her favorite sex position. All of the photos that she posts are of her and her friends posing in short shorts on the hoods of cars, in bikinis in the bath tub, and a variety of other outfits and poses that border on kiddie porn. I'm definitely going to be the hard-ass mom who won't let my kids on Facebook until they're in their teens at least, and only then if they've proved that they can be responsible in what they post online.

Heidi - posted on 11/25/2009




My son who is 10 1/2 is on facebook and has been for quite some time. He has school friends,and family on his friend list. When he gets a new request to add someone he will only add them if he knows them. He loves chatting with his friends, and playing the games. Only recently did is sm send him a request. He asked me what he should do since she, sent him a email saying for him not to contact or send her anything anymore. I told him it was up to him what he should because she is a part of his life(occassionaly) and its his half sisters mother. So he took it upon himself to add her. She sent in the request that it was because he sent her a family tree request or something,but my son told me he doesn't even have that application. So whatever the reason, I give her credit for breaking the ice with him and I give my son credit for accepting.

Isobel - posted on 11/24/2009




my thing is this..really...I'm going to add her with limited access, but what if I didn't think of that? My kids love their uncle Jay but I wouldn't want them reading what his college buddies post on his wall...if you know what I mean.

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Kylie - posted on 11/24/2009




I set a face book account up for my 4 year old because she was playing on my farmville and cafeworld and asked for her own farm. It's against facebook policy for anyone under 12 to have an account so i didn't put her birth date in or any other info. A couple of my friends kids have accounts they are 3 and 5 and so i accepted ther e friend requests but aside for that my daughters only friends on her list are close family. She likes to go on and see everyone's farm and that's as far as the social networking goes. She knows how to log in (the password is saved) the apps and do everything in the games...i think it's good shes learning about computers. I think i will feel differently when she is in primary school if she wants to use it to post pics and chat with her friends...i don't think that's appropriate. I do want to teach my kids about the dangers of the net and everything they post with be there forever even if they delete it and we will always have the computer in the family room so it's closely monitored.
If her mother is on her friends list and knows her daughters password and is watching what she is doing then i wouldn't worry too the laptop for the 8 year old?! ..that's a should not be left alone with access to the internet.

Jaime - posted on 11/24/2009




My SS who is 10 has his own facebook page, turned nasty for awhile only because I think his mom (key words "I THINK") checked it and in turned checked whatever my status had to say. Just recently I have added him as a friend again only because he sent a request for some family application and in order to accept we had to become friends??? not sure about it. But I am willing to try and be fb friends. Anything I post in my status updates or on any applications or anything on here (which I don't think he should be reading) doesn't mean I love him any less or enjoy doing things as a family without him, so lets hope it doesn't come back to bite me in the ass once again..

?? - posted on 11/24/2009




I think it depends on the kid, and the use. The facebook pages that annoy the shit outta me are the ones for babies that moms make in order to have a facebook for their newborn babies - I've denied 4 of my friends "kids" pages (the babies are all under 1) and I've asked why they made another facebook and they say its for the kids pictures... but they put the same pictures on THEIR facebook so I don't see the point of a facebook for babies.

Or the pets. They have the dogbook application on facebook - if your dog needs a facebook check out the dogbook application.

Charlie - posted on 11/24/2009




my 8 year old cousin has facebook she is completely responsible only has family as friends , she has set rules for facebook use only uses it in certain times and in a high traffic area of the house , she only really uses it to play the games and i have complete access to her account ( her parents are not around ) we all fully trust her she has never given us a reason not too so she continues to use facebook and so far its been going great , she plays her games for an hour leaves messages for her aunty who lives far away and pops in to say hi to me when im online an thats it , if i ever feel she is abusing her use of facebook i can log into her profile and check up .

Sharon - posted on 11/24/2009




Nope - there are no kids as my "friends" on facebook and no pets either.

Jodi - posted on 11/24/2009




8 is definitely too young.....but my 12 year old has a facebook page. However, he's not allowed to ask anyone to be a friend unless I do it for him. And he doesn't have his password - I am the only one that can log him in so I can supervise it. The only reason I let him have it is because he stays in contact with my family (his grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc) who all live in different states, and also he likes to play Scrabble sometimes.

Esther - posted on 11/24/2009




I agree, as a mom, I would not let my son at 8 years old join any social networking site. That being said, I would accept the friend request. At least that way you can kind of keep an eye on what she is doing online as well and I wouldn't want to unnecessarily hurt or offend her. But I agree she has no business being on there to begin with but unfortunately that's her mother's call (maybe your husband can talk to the mother and tell her to get her off Facebook?).

Cassie - posted on 11/24/2009




I completely agree. I used to coach competitive cheerleading and over the past few months, so of my younger girls have begun adding me as friends. At first, I would ignore the request because I think it is inappropriate for them to be on facebook. After many questions from them as to why I hadn't added them, I added them but with limited access. I think it is completely inappropriate for children to be on social networking sites. They should be out making friends in safe ways rather than "hanging out" with friends and adults on facebook.

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