Kodak Moment

Jackie - posted on 09/20/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I would like an opinion cause I'm not sure if I was out line or not. It's kind of a long story so bare with me...

I was in a wedding this weekend for 2 of my best friends... Well, at least used to be until I had a baby and all that jazz. Tim, the groom has been close to me for many years and Kristen, the bride, I met when her and Tim got together and we became pretty close.

I grew up with everybody in the wedding party. I'm not sure any of this is relevant in the story but I wanted to give some background. Like I said I used to know everybody pretty well but you how things go. You have a kids and jobs and homes to take care of, you tend to lose touch with some people...

Anyways, after the wedding, the whole party piled in to a limo on the way to the reception including the 3yo ring barer, which was one of the grooms men sons. We were all drinking champagne and when one of the bottles were empty, Cory, the grooms brother, held up a bottle to the 3 yo's mouth and sad to take a picture.

Well, of course, I just had to open my big mouth and say something. I was like, nooo... that's not funny, don't do that. Somebody else said,yeah it is, it's empty. "Well, I know it's empty but I don't think that's funny."

Tim, the groom, pretty much bit my head off and said " Well, Jackie doesn't think its funny so it must not be funny"

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Tracey - posted on 09/21/2010

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What happens when a photo of a 3 year old apparently drinking alcohol ends up in the wrong hands and the parents get reported some child related offence? They will wish they had listened to you then.

Krista - posted on 09/20/2010

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If they had been actually GIVING the three-year-old champagne, then yes, I would have said something. But the bottle was empty, so was it actually harming the child? No, not really.

So no, I wouldn't have said anything. If the dad had objected, I would have backed him up. But I wouldn't have initiated the protests. It's not my type of humour, but no actual harm was being done to the child, so I don't understand what the big deal was.

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My daughter grabbed an empty beer can when she was a little over a year old and at the time I thought it was hilarious and took a picture. Now I would have just taken the can and not the picture. I probably would have said something too but 6 years ago I would have been telling you to lighten up.

Morgan - posted on 09/21/2010

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Its gross, whos to say theres not a few drops in that bottle or even all the sticky dried up shit on the top or side of the bottle, I think its the same as an un lit joint or a bong.......Its wrong and its gross, this is a 3 year old, what happens now if theres an open bottle somewhere will he think its ok to take a sip??
I would have said somthing too.

Lindsay - posted on 09/21/2010

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yes there would be a difference. If it was a joint, the kid would more than likely be consuming weed. They aren't consuming anything out of an empty bottle.

Jackie - posted on 09/21/2010

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Would you all feel differently about a joint hanging out of his mouth for a staged photo op? Would that be funny? Even if i wasn't lit? Most people would NOT find that humorous at all but what would be the difference? If you really think about it, there would be no difference, right?



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I really didn't intend to start an argument. I really probably should have kept my mouth shut but that's not how it played out. I was just curious to see what everybody thought.



Thanks for the feedback

Krista - posted on 09/21/2010

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Funny, Lindsay, because that actually WOULD raise alarm bells for me -- what if there was a hairline crack in the bottle? Babies' gums can exert a hell of a lot of pressure.

But holding up a champagne bottle to a 3-year old's mouth for a staged photo? A little tacky and trashy, yes. But not dangerous. And not worth getting in a big argument over, if it's not your kid.

Lindsay - posted on 09/21/2010

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So maybe it's not in the best taste, but I wouldn't have said anything. Like many others have said, if the father had an issue I would have backed him up. It was not hurting the child.

I know many people that have used empty beer bottles to let their babies chew on while teething. I've seen it in pictures and it never raised alarm bells.

Krista - posted on 09/21/2010

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I have a picture of me when i was a baby, sitting in an empty Labatt's box. Good times.

Tara - posted on 09/21/2010

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Well.... I agree with some of the others to a degree, but the bottle was empty and it was for a picture. (which is stupid in this day and age of facebook etc.) but if it was simply a gag than I would have stayed quiet unless the parent objected, than I would have agreed with them.

My 10 month old loves to gum an unopened and clean cold can of beer. No biggie to me. he likes the cool bottom edge on his gums.
But I wouldn't be dumb enough to take pictures of it!

Jessica - posted on 09/21/2010

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Dude, I would have been shouting and screaming at them. Telling them 'you think its funny to encourage alcoholic drinking to a 3 year old? Why is this kid even here if all you want to do is get drunk and do stupid things.' I then would have proceeded to suggest if they couldn't be responsible with this child that maybe child services should be called and even the police. Then, at the top of my voice, I would chant 'CHAVS, CHAVS, YOUR ALL A BUNCH OF CHAVS' till I got kicked out of the limo and I wouldn't go quietly.

Anyone can say, 'but its empty'. BUT IT'S NOT THOUGH, there is always going to be some residual at the bottom and if it happens continually throughout the night (which is most likely when idiots like that are around) then it CAN be damaging to the child. Not to mention your are endorsing alcohol to a 3 year old and teaching them that it's alright to be a drunken idiot and not look after their children properly. I would have given the groom a large piece of my mind for embarrassing me like that let alone allowing it to happen at his wedding. Grrrrr...

DON'T apologise, you did NOTHING wrong.

Isobel - posted on 09/20/2010

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I don't know if apologize is the word I would choose (cause you didn't do anything wrong)...maybe just explain where you were coming from so they know you weren't calling them asshats (in a sense)?

Jackie - posted on 09/20/2010

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Well, I do feel kind of bad but it's not like it was planned out in my head before it all happened. I should have let it go after the first protest. BUT, this is something that I do fell strongly about. I do not think it's funny or cute in least. To Me... it's almost as if a little tiny piece of innocents gets taken away when stupid adults pull shit like that.

I appreciate the feedback. Maybe I should apologize?

Sharon - posted on 09/20/2010

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it was the dads' call.

I would have said "thats not really funny." and let it go when someone else piped up and said "yeah but its empty." I would have just giggled and shrugged my shoulders and taken a small drink myself. IF the father had spoken up I would have backed him up strongly. but because he didn't say anything - you should have let it go.

People have been doing this moronic thing with babies & toddlers with empty beer bottles, bongs, etc and they aren't going to stop because they just aren't bright.

Had it been a simple night out on the town or a party at someones' house, I would have been REALLY strongly voiced. But you were outnumbered in a wedding party, in a small enclosed space. In a different situation I would have argued and then left, then called the police about a group of drunks in charge of a toddler doing inappropriate things. Let them handle it.

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