life after c-section, on top of that, stretch marks :/

Kerry-ann - posted on 05/09/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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So after my c-section as u all know, there's a scar left, I don't necessarily hate mine, because it reminds me that, that's how Mikhail was born but I wish I didn't have that reminder because it looks so ugly and it feels funny, around the scar is still numb after a year, much expected, I did my research. On top of that I have stretch marks, well I've always had stretch marks on my hips when I was growing up so I guess my skin is prone to it blah, I just miss the body I'm used to a bit, but every time I look at my son and see that little cute face, even after running after him through the house and taking my stuff out the toilet, I start to appreciate it and my hubby doesn't mind them at allllll, he still finds me sexy, gladly!!!....is there anyone who can relate?

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Kerry-ann - posted on 05/17/2014

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First of all he should not be arguing with u about getting your body back, especially if a year has not even passed yet, you neeeed to take that into to serious consideration and maybemaybe you both should go see a counsellor. He's the one who knocked u up and SHOULD be more considerate and understanding, you just had a baby, and got a c-section on top of that, that's a serious surgery! As for the stretch marks they might fade over time I guess, but its not a must no matter how much coco butter you use, I've been hearing about a product called Bio oil, maybe you should try it instead of coco butter, I live in Jamaica and we don't have it here so I can't try it. For the scar, there will always be a bit of numbness around it, I've heard ladies say even after 5 years they still have that feeling my son is 17mths and I'm still numb and sometimes it itches like crazy, but your body will tighten up even before a year, but with constant exercise it'll be even better but don't expect it to come back like it was before. Don't worry about it though, you'll be fine.

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Kerry-ann - posted on 05/23/2014

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Yeah the belt may help, but I didn't use one, hmm maybe I should have :/.
Being depressed doesn't help at all it just make u feel worse, even though sometimes its hard not to get depressed so its easier said than done for some people. I've researched a little bit about the belt and people say it works, some people say its a bit uncomfortable butnu can try it for yourself and see how well it works for u :)

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2014

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Yea I think sometimes ur body being so different plays a part into the depression after birth. It sure doesn't help anything thats for sure. Did u use a postpartum belt? Do u know if they help in the long run?

Kerry-ann - posted on 05/21/2014

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It will, just don't stress about it too much. Tell your husband to keep calm, you'll be back in shape before he knows it, even before u know it. At this time u need comfort and support, because at this time some first time mothers like myself got a bit depressed after labour, I thought my body would have bounced right back in a week or two lol, but it didnt, it takes time, u have to heal first, then u can get to exercising but remember to consult your doctor prior to doing so and if you're breastfeeding, make sure u eat properly during the day, baby needs the nutrients .

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2014

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Thank u! I guess half the problem is things r being rushed with the weight. Moives r terrible with putting it in womens heads thatb ubhave before baby body when u leave the hospital. Hollywood can br so sickening sometimes n they make both men n women think ur suppose to look certain ways. I just really need to learn to ignore the hubby he says he just wants me healthy n yea he wants me to lose the weight byt we argue about how I feel hes rushing me! Ill have to tell him about the 6 montha n a year before real change happens, I hope the time will just fly by lol.

Kerry-ann - posted on 05/20/2014

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Oh, as for the flab, it will start to tighten in maybe about 6mths after giving birth, i dont remember exctly how long mine took. I haven't worked on mine that much though, but I did an exercise boot camp 3 times per week for a month and a half and I really saw results, but I stopped, it really kicked my ass, buuut I really saw a lot of results, can just imagine if I continued. Still my tummy got tighter, this was a year or a little more after Mikhail was born, I didn't even realize a year had passed. Don't rush things though, remember u had serious surgery done, don't start exercising until u consult your doctor first, I'm sure u wouldn't want to go back under the knife again, so soon. U will be fine girl

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2014

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Wow its amazing how long the can stay uncomfortable! Kinda scary too, makes ya wonder why even after years ur scar could still itch! Ill definitely try that oil I mean the stretch marks aren't the worst thing (especially if I have another baby) but the lose flabby stomach is what iv been wpl ring hard on tighting up! N yea iv brought up to him a couple times going to a couples therapist (were working on actually going).

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2014

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Yea we fight a bit about it. Wow u said it's been over a yr n ur scar is still bothersome? N even if I use the coco butter n stuff will that help the stretch marks? I exercise, well I try being a new mom sure doesn't leave me with enough enegry to truly do the work out well. Did u get that extra hang of flab on ur stomach? If so how long does that take to tighten n go away?

Kerry-ann - posted on 05/16/2014

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Yeah he does sound more worried than u are about your body, but he needs to appreciating u more, u brought his child into the world and accept those stretch marks because they aren't going anywhere! But this doesn't mean thatnu should let yourself go, u should try to keep in shape not only for him but also for yourself, it will help with your self-confidence.

Michelle - posted on 05/15/2014

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I had to have a c section n Idk if that makes a difference between a vaginal birth or not but I definitely know what ur saying. I still have the exrta flab of skin that hangs over my scar n my strechmarks drive me crazy. My hubby gets on my nerves tho always asking when will my stretch marks fo away n gets on me about getting my body back. He says hes just saying things casue he knows im unhappy with my body but having him always say something makes me more unhappy. I feel like hes more worried about my weight then I am.

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