Brittany - posted on 10/17/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )




From time to time I am sure we have all been asked the question

"Who do you love more your husband or your children?"

-or- some variation of chosing who we care for more our husbands or our children.

I was asked this not to long ago and my response is this:

The love I have for my husband and the love I have for my children is not the same love. I do not love my husband the way I love my children. I most certainly do not love my children they way I love my husband. I do not have a bond with my husband the same way I have a bond with my children. I do not bond with my children the same way I bond with my husband. So therefore I do not love one more then the other becuase, they are not in the same "love" category.

What about you ladies? Do you love your children more then your husband or your husband more then your children?


Charlie - posted on 10/17/2011




Love more ? Neither I love them differently but I do get where you are coming from.

While our children are our priority Jamie comes first in a sesne because I chose him, If it were not for him our children would not be here , and in the end when we have raised our gorgeous children we will only have each other which is why I put effort into our relationship, why I respect our love and not "give it all" to the children ( By that I mean be a mother whos world revolves around the kids at the expense of their relationship)
Together we raise and love our children I think there is more love for the children when they grow up in a home where the parents respect their relationship as a couple.

I hope for our boys to respect and love their partners as equally when they are grown adults.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/17/2011




Nope, I love them differently, and there is no comparison in the eyes of unconditional love. If I never met my husband and fell in love with him, we would not have created our children for either of us to love.

If my kids ever ask if I love one of them more than the other, the answer is no. My love for my family is not comparable to one another.


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Different kinds of love.

If I were in a Sophie's Choice kind of situation, I'm 100% sure my husband would want me to save our son. I would give my life to save him too.

Stifler's - posted on 10/17/2011




They're not in the same category. I love him as a partner and best friend and I love them as my children.

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the love i have for both is different, but if it came down to choosing and i could only have one of them i would definitely choose my son.

Merry - posted on 10/17/2011




In some ways I love my husband more since I carefully chose him and expect to spend the rest of my life with him.
But in some ways I love my kids more because they are part of me, my body created and grew them.
My kids get more of my attention and affection while they're young because they NEED it but my husband needs it too so he's never ignored but kids are priority.

So my kids I intend on them growing up and finding their own spouses who they will love more then they love me so in that aspect I love my husband more since he's not going to grow up and leave me but if my husband committed serious and horrendous crimes etc, I could fall out of love with him and if I divorced him I assume I would cease to love him. But I think no matter what my kids did, crimes or whatever, I'd still love them. I don't think anything could make me stop loving my kids so while I hope to love them all forever, I think my children have a more refi ate permanent type of love since they are part of me more so then my husband is.

Krista - posted on 10/17/2011




You're right. You just can't compare. If you want to haul Greek philosophy into it, you could say that our love for our children is Agape love, whereas our love for our spouses is a mixture of Agape, Eros and Philia. Neither is necessarily stronger than the other -- they're just different.

Chelsey - posted on 10/17/2011




Your answer would be my answer. Its the same with the kids. I don't love one more than the other because they are different people so I can't compare. However I do 'like' either my husband or my kids better than the other from time to time...but that also changes by the minute/hour/day and its more about not liking their actions/attitudes rather than not liking them lol

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