!!!LYING IS...OK!!!!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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“You should lie…when you need to,”

“Lying is never ok,”

“You can lie as often as you like…. If you need to or not,”


Which one of these is how you feel about LYING…and why?

Me: “You should lie…when you need to,”

I do indeed lie when I need to; I feel that having a “Lying Social Filter” helps in many a situation. For example: your child ask “Mommy is my picture pretty or cool,” your first thought maybe…no not really, but are you going to say that…maybe yes or most mothers will say “Oh yes it is honey, its thee coolest/most pretty,”

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Jodi - posted on 07/22/2010

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I think anyone who says they don't ever lie is full of shit.....



I was watching a program just last week where they discussed the need to lie. There are many occasions that call for a "little white lie".



I can't see that small lies, where the truth has the potential to truly be hurtful or even harmful, are a bad thing. It is actually "manners" sometimes to lie.



I guess that's a part of growing up.....learning when it is okay to lie and when it isn't. Think about it. A 3 year old can't lie to save themselves. Heck, they'll call out the fat person standing in the queue at the top of their voice. Then, they start school and start socialising and they realise lying is actually pretty cool because it can get you out of heaps of trouble....



Then they begin to mature, and slowly learn the social niceties, and what constitutes a good lie or a bad one......More often than not, it comes down to consideration of others.



And then there are Santa, Easter Bunny and the tooth fairy.......

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LaCi - posted on 07/23/2010

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I'm not really into lying. Not even little white lies. I don't see a point. However, if put in a situation in which I needed to lie to save my own ass or someone I care about's ass, no problem. So I guess I fall into the "lie when you need to" category.

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There are occasions when small 'white lies' make things easier and keep people happy - I'm sure we've all considered telling our bosses that we just can't be bothered to do extra work for them but in reality most of us make up an excuse (or just do it).

Then theres the lies such as Santa and the Tooth Fairy - I think its such a shame that people do not want to 'lie' to their children and so remove the magic that these characters bring because this is harmless fun (as long as you are not 18 and still believing in them).

So in summary I lie when I need to but as Sarah has said I could not do big lies because it would just confuse me and I would be telling everyone a different story lol.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 07/23/2010

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LOL....that is so meeee!
my forgetfulness would get me caught up real quick!

Sarah - posted on 07/23/2010

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I think there's a difference between a "little white lie" and an outright lie.
Yes, I tell little white lies, I don't think they do any harm in certain situations.

Telling great big lies though, not worth it. You end up telling more lies to cover the first lie etc etc. Plus, with my terrible memory, I'd forget what I'd said the first time and get busted! lol.

There's that saying : Oh! what a tangled web we weave
When first we practise to deceive!

Sums it up for me! :)

Coley - posted on 07/22/2010

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There are varying degrees of "lying."



There's the They-Won't-Know-The-Difference lie:

Such as to customers. Let's say there's something in the backroom that isn't in the system, and therefore can't be sold to them, but they're asking for the item, and you say, "no sorry, we don't have any". If you say, "yes, we have some, but I can't give it to you", then they'll freak out on you, and you'll never be able to explain it to them because they don't understand how the system works, and demand you let them have it simply because its in the building. THAT is perfectly fine... I've actually had to use this one when I worked in the backroom in a retail store.



Just-Be-Honest-But-Not-Rude:

If your friend is trying on clothes at the shop and says "does this dress make me look hot?" but they actually look like a hooker, you aren't supposed to say, "oh, yeah! Very sexy!" Then let them buy it. That's messed up. (Unless you don't really like them...) You at least need to help them find something that looks good on them.



Don't-Lie-Just-Avoid-The-Full-Truth:

If your 4 year old brings you a picture and says "look what I made for you! Do you like it?" You can't say "I can't tell what it is, and I don't like the colors you used" You can just say "I'm so proud of you! I always love it when you draw pictures for me." ...Otherwise you'll probably crush them and make them have zero self esteem.







My parent's never tried to convince us of the existence of Santa, or any of his imaginary friends, lol. We knew our parent's were the ones working hard to buy us gifts and treats, and we put our lost teeth under our pillows at night, knowing we had to be asleep before our mum would swap it for a quarter.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2010

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Teresa, when I say 2 or 3 year olds can't lie to save themselves, I mean that they are no good at it, and are more likely to blurt out the truth :)

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2 and 3 year olds lie all the time.... Ever ask a toddler if he/she pooped/peed their pants/diaper? ;)

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Lying is never ok.

That's not saying I'm perfect and have never lied, but it is definitely a behavior I don't agree w/.... There is such a thing as telling the truth w/ tact that pretty much eliminates the 'need' to ever tell a lie.

Lindsay - posted on 07/22/2010

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I'd expand but then I'd just be repeating everything Jodi has already said perfectly!

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