men can't help but look...

Sal - posted on 01/29/2011 ( 77 moms have responded )

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in the 8 lies we tell our selves thread someone mentioned their man looking at other women, some said they didn't mind, some said they did, and someone stated that her man never looks at other women, and said we should stop lying to ourselves about it. What i want to know is who is fooling themselves, the ladies who admit their men look but are ok with it or those who say their men never check out other girls?? my hubby looks, wouldn't touch but he is open with me about it, but never rude learing perving though..

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Appreciating other people's appearance doesn't make you a pig. It is a natural human reaction and does not do any harm unless someone CHOOSES to take it as a personal slight. For those of us not bothered by it, it isn't disrespectful, rude or in any way a form of cheating. If you and your spouse arrange your relationship in a way that only allows you to have eyes for one another, then that is what you should do, and looking would be wrong. For those of us that are fine with our partners looking, it isn't lecherousness or lewdness, it's simple appreciation of another person's appearance. If my hubby was openly leering at women, I'd probably tell him to develop some manners, but an appreciative but barely noticeable glance does not bother or harm me in the slightest. I know I am his one and only, as he is mine. I don't actually generally find other men attractive just out and about, but there are a few celebrities and others that I like to look at. I'm not planning to run out on my husband and try to get it on with them. But I can enjoy the pleasure of appreciating their appearanc.e. I don't plan to ever be "done looking". I am happy with what I have, I am in no way "looking for perfection" or a replacement for my spouse and I'm definitely done sampling.

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Tonya, just because for your relationship it would be disrespectful for your hubby to comment on attractive people, doesn't mean it is disrespectful for others relationships. It is only disrespectful if one partner isn't comfortable with it and doesn't like it. For me and my husband we joke about it with each other, I feel it is more disrespectful (for us) to hide the fact we are doing it and only do it when the other is not around, we are secure enough in our relationship to know that each of us can look at attractive people and admire without it meaning anything else!

It isn't BS that men, strike that everyone notices other people whether attractive or unattractive, we notice different, we notice what we like, we notice what we don't like that is human nature. What IS BS is that people cannot control how they react to those people, if your (general your) partner is uncomfortable with you looking at other people then it is rude to make comments about it, but it doesn't mean their not noticing.

Tara - posted on 01/29/2011

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Hubby looks, so do I.

I'm A-Okay with it, I like to look at girls too...

And he's never rude or pervish about it, he appreciates the diversity of our species as do I.

Yesterday we were both floored by a gorgeous red head who was about 6 feet, long red curly hair, peaches and cream complexion and a rack that was out of this world!! We both looked and laughed at each other about it.

Women who say their man doesn't look are for the most part lying to themselves, usually because they are too insecure to accept that it is human nature to admire the diversity of our species and genders.

Again, why is it okay for women to drool over Brad Pitt and for guys to get all hot about some super model or actress etc. but when it's a real life person people get their undies all in a knot about it.

It's just looking. Now if your SO is a lech and drools and makes rude comments and says shit like "She's got a great ass, you should ask her where she got it, maybe you can get one too" than yeah you have reason to be pissed....

But for the most part, looking is human nature, for both sexes and shouldn't be a shameful thing.



edited to change grab ass to great ass, although grab ass could work too. lol

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Yeah i'm not lying when i say that my husband will stand next to me and look at hot women. I know when he looks and i don't care. I look and he doesn't care. WHy don't we care? Because we are confidant in our relationship.

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A study showed 70% of men think about sex regularly compared to 34% of women. I think it's agreed that men have a higher sex drive than women.

It is generally the same throughout the animal kingdom, the male is sex-driven, the female is offspring rearing driven.

Now the women who claim their men don't look. Can we define "looking"? A glance in an attractive woman's direction, not looking while his wife is present, turning his neck around 180 to watch her walk by. Men look, men think, women look and women think. We are all sexual beings, we are no different from our animal cousins when it comes to instinct. Everything after that is just a matter of degrees. If you were to tell me the whole time you've been married or with your spouse him or yourself have never once found another person attractive since you took your vows, not in the slightest... you're lying to yourself. Even if you just thought "wow, he has really great eyes".

It all depends on the individual couple what they are comfortable with and what they find to be disrespectful. On one end of the spectrum you have swingers who are comfortable with engaging in their sexual desires. On the other end you have couples who are not even comfortable with their partner 'thinking' about anyone else but them. I think it comes down to sexual confidence and trust.

As for myself, I don't mind most of the time when my husband looks as long as he isn't making it obvious to the woman or anyone else around. I don't mind if we're driving and a girl in a short skirt with amazing legs is walking down the side walk and my husband says something to that effect. Hell, most of the time I'm looking too! Or at an equally attractive male. I think we're both comfortable with an 'occasional' look or comment as long as it's not excessive or too descriptive ;)

One time we were in the car and omg I think the most beautiful woman I ever seen in real life was walking. Blonde, tall, beautiful face, long legs, huge ta tas. I stared like mad and so did he. We both said at the same time: "OMG! Did you see that?" and laughed. That's what I mean by occasionally, not staring at every single thing in a skirt because he lacks standards.

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Meredith - posted on 06/16/2012

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They look and we look too so I guess it's all fair..but wea re just better at not getting caught lol

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It doesnt say anything about them except for they have eyes and good eyesight. pfft like i said before im guilty of the occasional glance and i kno my fiance is too. Im fine with it like ANGELA said i kno im one fine hot sexy woman!! lol so why get bothered if he notices somethin or some one. Just like my man is super hot and sexy and perfect! I may notice another guy but there aint nothin to it. At the end of the day i kno everyone notices me hahaha :D

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I would find it insulting if someone told me I was lying to myself. I wouldn't be embarassed to say if I was looking or he was but that is certainly not the case here because I don't look. I have never once looked at another man since we have been married. Why because I don't have any eyes for any man but for my husband. And if you consider me lying, that's your opinion.

But I certainly don't need to defend myself about it either. Has my hubby ever looked at another woman,I'm not sure because I don't pay attention. Why should I worry about something like that? He married me because he loved me and we have a fantastic relationship and I know he would never cheat on me.





There is however nothing wrong for anyone else to look I don't think so long as they don't touch but really what does that say about your feelings towards your SO if your looking at someone else hmmm?



Have a little respect.

Angela - posted on 02/09/2011

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I disagree Brandi.
Im not lying at all or even a little,I absolutley respect your opinion,However I think what it really comes down to is how secure and confident you are about yourself as a person will determine how comfortable you are with your significant other looking at another woman.
Im very confident and secure about myself and well, to put it quite frankly without sounding conceited,I know im pretty, So My boyfriend or significant other looking at other women really doesent bother me,Ive even said aloud to my boyfriend wow that girl is pretty, or wow that girl is hot, and not in a sexual way either.

Brandi - posted on 02/09/2011

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I didn't mean like celebrities... yeah I agree, talking about celebrities being hot is totally fine, lol. But, if my man EVER started talking about how hot a girl was in front of me, it would be a bad day... unless I say, "hey she's pretty" first. If he thinks the girl is hot, he better just keep it to himself. Duh, I know he looks, along with EVERY other man in the world. I am not worried about him cheating on me either. But, especially when you are having a bad hair day, or bad complexion day, or a fat or skinny day, I would be really pissed if my man started talking about another girl, I already feel ugly, don't rub it in!!!

Sharon - posted on 02/09/2011

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I think everyone with a sexual drive LOOKS.

Hell I look when a stacked, attractive woman walks by and even worse when a hunky guy comes into the store and I just happen to be nearly in the mood - I can go into overdrive just looking.

Does it mean I want to have sex with that person? nope. I just wish I were clocking out sooner, so I could get home faster.

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Hey I'm completely devoted to my favourite pair of heels...doesn't mean I can't look at other ones and admire their beauty lol I also don't go around just trying other pairs on though so it's all good. My hunni and I are both open about where our gaze travels but we both trust eachother completely and there is no worry that it will lead to anything more. If some little blonde thing is prancing past the two of us in a barely-there tank top and her thong sticking out of her holding-on-for-dear-life hiphuggers we both look, lol half the time he's the one catching me. It's only natural to look when something beautiful or outrageous draws your attention, I wouldn't smack him for looking at a nude painting in an art gallery any different than he would if I happened to glance at Mr.Muscley construction guy. At the same time though I do feel there is a line and neither of us are profaine or rude about our wandering eyes. Also we're both comfortable with ourselves so it doesn't cause concern I know that if I threw on an ity bity tank top and jean shorts he'd be giving a hell of a lot more to me than just the look that little miss blondie received, he also knows that attraction to me is more than just appearance and he's got his own sneaky techniques to get my heart pounding. We are both faithful and would never do anything past a casual glance but we also know that neither of us would want to, if that is a worry for someone else then there is a bigger issue at play than some girl in skimpy clothes catching your man's eye and that would be cause for concern.

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Yea I agree with TONI im compltely comfortable with it but ill be honest when im in a mood and we go to the mall or something and i may catch him in a slight glimpse or even when we are at home and a chick on tv that is perfect comes on ill start a case but thats me on my off days!!! lol but yea really im fine. now if he's like oh wow i like her breasts!! then of course not on a good day that would not fly and we would not be together!! lol its about respect and your right if i ask then i want to kno if i dont then i dont. Usually we are just vocal about famous people like i kno my man likes Sammie from jersey shore and Jennifer Aniston he knows i like Pauly D from Jersey shore and Johnny Depp ( to name a few for us haha) just like i know my dad always like Wynona Ryder and my mom likes Mathew Machonnay ( sorry im sure i butchered his name) but yea i think its normal and fine but we both know there is a line that you dont cross :D

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Brandi, I'm not lying when I say I have no problem with my hubby looking at and finding other women attractive. I know he would never cheat on me and I know that he comes home with me because he loves me, I have nothing to worry about, I am confident in myself and his love for me!

Brandi - posted on 02/08/2011

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yes, we all look. But, I think MOST people would rather not hear if you think the person is hot or attractive, especially if they are nothing like what you are.

I think anyone who says they are fine with it is lying just a little, I am pretty sure if you think they person that your husband is looking at is hotter than you, then you won't want him to say she is hot. Well, that is my opinion. Maybe he is wishing you looked like her. But, yes, we all do it. Maybe we should just keep it to ourselves though...

Angela - posted on 02/08/2011

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Its human nature to look at the opposite sex whether your involved or married or what not...woman look too.
My boyfriend looks,but he doesent have his toungue hanging out of his mouth or stares blatantly,thats just dis-respectful and he's not like that and I wouldnt put up with it if he did...looking is healthy. I would start to get extremley nervous if he didnt.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/01/2011

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Ok, wait...this one time did piss me off. We were in vegas with his whole family...we were actually getting gas to leave town. At the gas pump directly lateral to us was what I can only assume was a stripper? She had a wicked tight top on, like a tight ass white tank...with NO bra,...and some good size c-d cup...very high heeled shoes, and a skirt...no more like a hankercheif around her wais...so short...omg...we saw ALL of her business...She had the string and I mean DENTAL FLOSS g-string...and of course she was bending over in front of me, my husband, brother in law, father in law, mother in law...The men could not look away....yeah...I was not happy about that one...but who COULD look away??? LOL

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/01/2011

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I am the one poitning out the hotties to him...LOL...I am fine if he looks...stares...not such a cool thing..never does that though.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/01/2011

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Usually I am the one pointing out the beautiful people to him. he and I have different tastes in what makes a women beautiful, but I will definately comliment another women,..and he can too. He is fairly oblivious to most people as it is. He will notice people who are dressed with super tight clothes that shouldn't bve..or are showing to much...and just say "wow.." More as a "did you look in the mirror before leaving this morning"

Bonnie - posted on 01/31/2011

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I agree Emma. For some 'cheater' is written all over their face, but really for the average person it is normal to look.

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Just because they appreciate another's appearance doesn't mean they're going to run off with them.

Amber - posted on 01/31/2011

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it has nothing to do with me or how i feel, really. not with us personally. he & i both think it's disrespectful for other people to do it, because we both know that others do...for my husband, he just doesn't WANT to look at other women. doesn't feel the urge. so therefore it doesn't really apply to us. we just don't look, end of story. we're to preoccupied with each other. and the movie thing? he's too busy trying to get into my pants to even watch half the time. he would SEE the naked lady but he wouldn't be thinking 'damn thems some sweet titties'. it's a difference in thought proccess.

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Idk i guess to me its not a big deal when we are walking in a mall i can tell ( imo) who is ugly and who i think is better looking girls/guys. just like im sure my man can tell the difference. Im not saying he looks to check out (maybe sometimes) but like me he notices. Im not gonna walk with my hands over his eyes just so he cant see anyone. i dont think its rude behavior and i dont think its them not controlling themselves. Same thing if we are watching a movie and chick pops up half naked what am i supposed to do?? tell him to close his eyes?? yea right. Am i gonna sit there and think he really didnt notice?? no lets be real. I think there is an inappropriate way and a normal way. We are with each other and we love each other, I mean their is always gonna be someone prettier than me but at the end of the day im the prettiest person in the world to him. so thats that. Im not insecure where i feel like his eyes have to be blind to the world cuz i know his heart is.



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Amber - posted on 01/31/2011

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i don't really think that was the question though? i'm pretty ure it was directed at looking in a SEXUAL way, as in 'checking out' another person of the opposite sex? if i'm wrong correct me but i'm pretty sure that's not the issue. the issue is, do all people in relationships have wandering eyes? and we do not.you don't have to believe it, feel free not to, but i can 100 % say that my hubby & i have eyes for only each other. he told me once, when we first got together and i asked him if he looked at other people still. 'if i wanted to look at other women, i would have stayed single. the only reason i ever looked before was because i was wagering if i'd like to date her. which is how i found you and why i chased you down, because i was looking at your cute butt & your pretty face. so now, i've found you, and i'm done looking. it's not that i don't look because i think you won't like it or that it will make you angry, i just don't find other women attractive at all. so don't worry, i'm not looking, because i've got you to look at. why would i need anything else? why would i look at the girl across the rooms butt or boobs or legs when i have you, right next to me, looking fabulous?' yes, i remember it, because i was like okay....at this moment, i know that i am marrying this man no matter what. i also realize that not all men are like him. it's not that he's enver noticed another human being, he's just not checking out her goodies. not the same thing at all.

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Without reading all the other replies there are times when I will point out a woman to my husband. When we're walking through a store and see some one I'll say "Isn't she beautiful" There is nothing wrong with appreciating beauty.

Tia Melissa - posted on 01/31/2011

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Yes, men look. They're visual in nature. It's how they're hardwired. However, it's not OK, imo, to do so once they reach the level of maturity to control themselves. Just like it's not OK to hit, lie, steal, manipulate, take advantage of, etc. The thing I always come back to is that we are more than our physical natures and have the ability to turn away from the urges to do what is inappropriate or plain wrong.



Why do we teach our children to be considerate of others and then turn a blind eye to men looking at another woman lecherously? Which, incidentally, is not only inconsiderate of the woman you are with but completely dismissive of the woman - as a whole person - being viewed with lecherous intent. I think that we've been gradually desensitized to it. When my 4 year old son, looking at a gigantic poster of an airbrushed, posed, and sexualized woman in a bra & thong while walking by Victoria's Secret, asks me "Mommy, why is that lady in her underwear in public?", then you have to know something is amiss.



We're human and we aren't perfect - We need to try to do right but I often feel like we've stopped trying in this area. I also think that we've made it easier for men to look - and have unrealistic expectations of the physicality of women - through media, social mores and lifestyle. If you are committed, you are committed, No looking with longing at what you don't have. Men or women. Be happy with the person you've chosen. Life, age and injury happen. We (global) have become so youth and perfection obsessed that there are some men and women who no longer value a person not in their physical prime. Consider the common actions of a middle aged man who "trades up" for a woman half his age.

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So pretty much you guys are both blind right?? lol jk. but how do you not see people? even right there you man was lookin at another man ( of course not in an attracted way) same thing it was just something he didnt like. you dont think he's seen another women he thought was ugly or acting stupid? youve never noticed another human being?? im not hating cuz i simply just dont believe it.

Amber - posted on 01/31/2011

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my husband doesn't look at ther women, i think it's the way he was raised, his father is the same way. i don't think ALL men look at other women, and i can honestly say i don't look at other men, with or without my husband. he's all i need to look at, and i know he feels the same about me :) we've only been married two years so we're still pretty ga-ga about each other too...could be it. but i don't think he will ever change. he finds it disrespectful, as i do, and we both don't see any reason to look elsewhere because we've found the only person we want to look at. we've discussed it many times. my husband will even blatantly express his disgust in other men who he sees looking at another girl with his SO there at his side...he is very aware that most other men are pigs and that he is a rare breed :) we also don't fight either...we're freaky. feel free to hate on me :p

Johnny - posted on 01/30/2011

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I'd feel weird if my husband didn't do that when I was around and vice versa. He's not just my lover, he's my friend and we joke about stuff like that. I guess I'd feel like he was "faking it" or hiding a part of himself from me if he pretended not to notice a beautiful woman. I was with a man for 3 years who told me he thought it was disrespectful to comment on another woman (or man in my case), yet he ended up cheating on me. I truly prefer absolute openness and honesty, I do not feel that it shows less respect for me in the slightest.

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Tonya we are the same way, we avoid looking when with each other so we dont insult each other. :P I don't need to look when hes around, got all my eye candy right there lol

Mabel - posted on 01/30/2011

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hey thats ok I understand and I even got a laugh over it from my husband.I enjoyed getting the reasons out there and being able to see how others feel in that situation.
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Charlie - posted on 01/30/2011

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Our eye's roam but our hearts belong to each other so I really do not give a shit because at the end of the day we love each other we can't help that we are human .

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Oh nope im sorry i just read your original post and then commented Sorry bout that!! yes i agree with you on that

Mabel - posted on 01/30/2011

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But did you read the rest of my post? I am trying to clarify that the difference to me is, if he is with or without me and how I take the situation as a whole or whether I can sit and pick at it until I come away feeling like a victim of a mans need to look.When I am out and I see someone I make a comment to my husband but it is never anything that he would be offended by .I can look all I want but I have the respect for my husband not to.

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Are you serious?? I Guarantee you your man has noticed a female here or there whether its her eyes, her legs or her butt, And its not because of your weight its because its normal. Are you gonna sit there and tell me youve never ever never EVER noticed another man?? Not that your having sexual thoughts or getting turned on but maybe you like his hair cut or something. You've never notcied a good looking celeb on t.v.?? Yea right. I do call BULLSHIT and its to what you just wrote.

Mabel - posted on 01/30/2011

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O k Ladies # 1 please stop lying to yourselves that the men can't help themselves when they look at other women.BullShit!!! I am around 250lbs and my man is a good looking guy who does not look at other women.Have some respect for yourselves and smack your men upside the damn head when he miss behaves!Why do we as women feel like we have to be subjected to a mans base needs?We all came from animals but why are we the ones that have to suffer because men still act like the animal and we don't???



I can honestly say that when my husband is with me he doesn't look at others because he feels like it is an insult to me and our relationship.Now when he is without me I don't know or care if he looks.He can come home to me and tell me or not.I can and do trust him enough to not worry about it,so in essence I don't think I am lying about this issue.Just to clarify.

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Marylea: you know what i once dated a guy who liked the same thing way darker then me curvier ( altho i have some dang straight lol) and im like uh hello why are you with me if im nothing the girls you go for normally. and he said that it is exactly im different and a breath of fresh air so take it with a compliment!! lol

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I don't care if my hubby looks from time to time cause after all I'm the one he's with. What I always find funny is he says I'm perfect (as if) but when he checks out other women or points out hot celebrities they never look like me. I'm tall and skinny and pale. He always seems to find tan short curvy girls to the be hottest. I just think its kind of weird. The guys I find attractive usually look alot like him, tan, dark hair, brown eyes.

I think I probably check out girls more than guys. Girls are just for the most part pretty to look at lol.

Marylea~

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To EMMA and KRISTA: me and my guy have celebrity crushes too and we always pick on each other bout it in a fun way. Like the show Jersey Shore I think Pauly D is super hot and he think Sammie is super hot so whenever the show comes on im like oh shit there goes my man and when Sammie comes on he's like oh shit look at my girl lol.

However we did have discussion one time cuz this girl was drunk and kissing another girl and he straight up told me that no matter what gender cheating is the same and i respect that cuz if he kissed a guy id be gone plain and simple.

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Uh duh they look its normal. we see people everyday it would be hard not to notice. I mean just like he can notice ugly girls he can notice pretty girls too. to be honest id be lying if i said i didnt do the same thing. i honestly dont have a problem with it as long as he's not making it obvious and hootin or hollerin lol. but it gives me a good idea of the kind of girl he likes and doesnt and what he really likes about me. When i see a pretty girl i ask him if he thinks the same. we're open but respectful.

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My DH looks, he can flirt and does on rare occasion, however, I honestly don't mind that he does all of this. I am his wife. He married me. We have a wonderful family, 3 wonderful girls, and are very open with each other. We have rules that we follow and we have never crossed them. How do I know? Because he is always at work or at home. He has a cell and answers every time unless he is working on a car with one of his friends. He also tells me where he is going when he leaves and when he will be back. I do the same when I don't have the kids with me and most of the time I do it when I have kids with me. So no I don't mind if he looks, flirts, gets numbers, or even wants to bring them home. He doesn't ever do anything with anyone without me knowing it first and vice versa. :) I do understand that we are not what most people expect or want in their relationships but this is OUR relationship and it works for us. We have been together for over 11 yrs and are still going strong. :)

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My hubby looks, and as long as he's not doing a double take right there in front of me, I don't mind. Hell, sometimes I'm the one to point out the hot girls to him lol! If he didn't look, I'd be worried. I look. We're human beings and I think it's a good thing to notice the beauty around us.
As for your question? I think any woman (or man) who thinks their mate doesn't notice other attractive women (or men) is fooling themselves.

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Krista, that is so funny that you said that because when my husband says some girl is hot, I'm usually like "Is he smoking crack? The girl next to her is hotter!" And then when I look back at the girl he says is hot, I realize she resembles me and I find it all the more flattering. lol

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Well, at least it's flattering, because she looks a little like me. :)

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Krista, i'm laughing at that because as soon as I read that I thought, I know who that is! LOL

Krista - posted on 01/30/2011

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I think it's normal to look, as long as it's looking and not leering.

And we both joke about our celebrity crushes. (My husband also thinks that Bobs from the kids' music duo Bobs & Lolo is really hot. LOL!)

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my husband and i have decided that affairs with the same sex don't count. like if i make out with a chick it's not cheating and if he turns gay for someone it's not cheating.

Mary Renee - posted on 01/30/2011

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Hahaha, I live in Hawaii and I totally check out the tanned surfer guys with their shirts off and their swimmer's muscles!!!! I don't care if I'm pushing a baby stroller while I do it, there's nothing wrong with appreciating the human form!



My boyfriend gets more upset when I think other girls are hot because he knows I hooked up with a girl in college and the other women he's been with in the past were "so against that" (I was the first white girl he ever had a relationship with, he thinks that's why, I think he belongs in the 1950s)



It's really hard NOT to look when you live in a place where people are in their bathing suits all the time and "brazillian" cut swim bottoms are the "in" thing here for women. I'll wear one proudly but sometimes I see other women in them and I'm like "DAMN!!!!! How did they get that ass!?" I mean they look so good, it's half admiration/half total jealousy. And I have to really work hard not to stare sometimes, especially when I catch my boyfriend looking too!

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2011

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My man is stupid, he only looks if i point out a good looking girl LOL. Hes one of those guys who just doesnt notice others around him.

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I am the first one to point out a better looking chick. If you are confident and know your partner cares about you, it shouldn't be a big deal

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Its hard not to look at other people...i would have to keep my eyes closed all the time..theres people everywhere.

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We both look. I'd actually be suspicious and uncomfortable if my husband told me that he never noticed other women. You can an incredibly beautiful and attractive person, but that wouldn't mean that others aren't appealing in their own way. There is so much diversity of attractiveness out there, I can not imagine one person being ALL that is attractive to another. I don't think it is in any way unfaithful or not being true. It's reality. I'd rather acknowledge it and enjoy it than hide from it.

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I always tell my hubby that it's like window shopping. You can look, but you can't touch - and you probably can't afford it anyway! lol

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