Modeling

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/24/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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What do you think of babies and modeling/acting….do you think its exploitation? Or ok to a certain extent…..

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Amie - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think it's exploitation, no matter their age. Our oldest, (10 yrs.) has asked to try modeling. We said no. When she's older (17 +) and can fully appreciate what that world is like, then she can. Right now, we are the ones who have final say and I will not subject any of my children to that world.

Acting is different because the sole focus is not only on looks. Maybe if she showed an interest in it we'd consider it but not likely at this age either. She has drama and acting in school that she can take part in. That's enough, it's not near the pressure to be perfect either. =/

If others want to do it for their child, I don't really care to a point. The glitz pageants and the parents who push, push, push..I have an issue with. That's taking away their childhood for your own selfish reasons. What was once, perhaps, fun for them is no longer because of you, the parent.

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I guess to amend my earlier post, I should add that I do think acting and singing, performing in general, are a little different and if it's something a child asks to be a part of and really shows an initiative to do I don't see a problem with it as long as the parents are responsible enough to not let anything get out of control. I would imagine that when my son is 5 or 6 if someone approached us about him being in a kid friendly commercial (like Toys R Us or something) I'd probably let him do it, just for the experience. What I can't stand (and refuse to watch) are shows like Toddlers & Tieras. To me, that kind of modeling, pushing of a child to be "perfect"....that is inhumane and wrong on all sorts of levels. Every time I even see a commercial for that show I get ticked off. Most of those little girls just want to be little girls. Most of those parents (moms) are living some dream through their daughters and it's just sick and heartbreaking to watch.

Alahnna - posted on 09/26/2010

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I think that some mothers take it to the extreme and make it very unhealthy and do exploit their children. I would not want it for my children, just because I want my children to value themselves as they people they are and not focus on what they look like. I want them to know it's the person on the inside that is more important, not what they look like outside

Amie - posted on 09/25/2010

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You know this reminds me of something too.



Last year our oldest teachers said something to her. "You're so pretty Nicole, you could be a model or anything you want." We had a talk with her after that.



We don't want the sole focus for any of our children, especially our girls, to be on their looks alone. They have a ton of potential. We do not want it in their heads that using their looks is the way to get ahead in life.

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Yes, I do feel it's exploitation of very small infants and children. Since when does a 6 month old wish and desire to go into modeling? It's ALL the mom's wish and desire. And older child can make a decision whether he or she wants to try for an audition or modeling. It's the same analogy as participating in sports actually. Like Tara above pointed out, some kids may have a natural innate ability to act, sing, dance. These are the kids that WANT to model or try-out. Like sports, some kids are a natural athlete and WANT to play. But I dislike the parents that out their kid out there in every contest and agency when it's clear the kid does not want any part of it.

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If the kid wanted to, I'd let her do it on a local level. We happen to have plenty of opportunity for theater and modeling for magazines within driving distance from where we live.

But I wouldn't move the family for it. Hollywood is full of parents and kids trying to make it big. It's a set up for heartbreak. But when she's old enough be on her own, she can do what she wants.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think it can become exploitation of a child….but when a parent knows when to say enough is enough, or no my child wont be doing that…ect
Then its ok to share your Childs wonderful charm with others..

I too was told a lot “Your son is so cute, he should model…ect….and like most mothers I did think he was Thee cutest thing around…
And then around 3mos I started to think about it more and more, doing research…my son smiles a lot, and he’s a calm baby…one of the key factors in what they look for when accepting a baby ….I told a relative of mine and she was excited saying, “He would be so good…

Well around 5mos I got him a few interviews with agencies….told her and she started with the negative comments…one of them being “your exploiting him,”

Now at 6mos my son is signed with an agency…..
She has not said one thing to be about it….

Tara - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think putting babies into modeling is no biggie, as long as the modeling doesn't interfere with their normal life. And I would say that after age 2 it should be a childs choice.
My 8 year old is begging me to let her go to acting auditions and casting calls for tv and movies. She wants to be an actor/singer/producer. So yes I will take her to an open casting call at an agency. She wants to try it out, I will let her. But I will also be acting as her guardian and will have ultimate say in what and when and why etc.
But I don't think it is exploitation if the child wants to do it and the parents are smart enough to know when enough is enough.
Some kids are born with an innate ability to act and sing etc. my goals is to pay attention to her interests and support her goals within reason, if she wanted to be a table dancer then I would get her into some other form of dancing!
But acting is a respectable career and so is singing.
Actually it's funny you posted cause I'm in the process of gathering 5 snapshots of Riley to send off to an agency in Toronto. We sent his pics in when he was 5 months old, they asked us to send another set in when he is closer to 12 months as they had a baby in the agency who had all the same attributes as him, ie Caucasian, blue eyes etc.
So... not it's not exploitation, could be, but that's up to the parents not the ad agency.

Krista - posted on 09/25/2010

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I would enter him in something like a cute baby contest, where you're just submitting the one photo that you'd already taken anyway. But modeling or acting, where your child is actually being made to WORK? No -- not for me.

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I'm gonna say what a lot of other mothers would say. My son is so cute that I've had people tell me he should be the next Gerber baby. Now that we're all done gagging.......I think child modeling is exploitation period. Not because of anything the parents set out to do. I think most parents set out in that field for their kids because they genuinely think their kids are the "CUTEST THING EVER". But somewhere along the way, even if they are successful, they always turn out like Lindsay Lohan or Brittney Spears. I would never subject my son to that world. If he wants to be a famous model or actor, will I encourage him and do my best to help him succeed? Most certainly. But will I ever compromise anything I believe in to get him there? Hell no.

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