Mom/Dad vs Mike/Mary

Amy - posted on 03/16/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Do you think kids should regularly call parents by first name? Not talking about knowing the parents' names, but little two year old johny saying a name instead of mom or dad. Why or why not?

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Bondlets - posted on 03/16/2011

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I will be "Karen" to countless people in life. I will be "Mama" to only a few (well, maybe more than a few, lol). Mom/Mommy/Mama, etc. are (IMO) terms of endearment and a title - one that my children use with no one else.

I babysat in high school for a couple who had their 3 boys call them by their first names. Their reasoning was that they didn't want a distinction or separation between them and their kids; they wanted to be on equal ground, at an equal level. I'm not an equal with my kid, I'm the parent and I want that distinction even with the name they call me.

Esther - posted on 03/16/2011

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I don't like kids calling their parents by their first name at all. My husband grew up calling his parents by their first name. I find it somewhat disrespectful (although my in-laws are not particularly deserving of respect so I suppose it works out that way), but more importantly, I am only "mom" to one special person in the whole world. I'm Esther to everyone else in the universe. Why wouldn't I want to honor that special relationship with a special title? When I was pregnant I asked my husband about his feelings on this (I would have absolutely overruled him if he had suggested first-name-basis, but thought I'd at least appear to be consulting him on the matter :)) and he immediately said he absolutely did not want to be called anything other than papa/daddy.

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I like that gabby calls me something different than other moms. It makes me feel special. I'm not just anyones mom, im her ommnie :) i think she combined mommy and nomies for milk.

Jodi - posted on 03/16/2011

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Danielle, it is pretty normal for a 2 year old to call any man *dad*. My friend's 2 year old calls my husband dad. It isn't because of disrespect, it is because she is still learning.

Sharon - posted on 03/16/2011

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Nope.

They are my child, I am their parent, not their friend. Mimicking an adult and calling me by my first name is fine, but they will be (and were) gently corrected to call me by my title that no one else can. Mom.

Katherine - posted on 03/16/2011

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Ha ha, my 2yo calls her dad, Matt. I think they should call them mom and dad, but the little ones just repeat what they hear.

Now my older one will do it just to be sassy. Which I DON'T like.

Danielle - posted on 03/16/2011

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Children should not address parents by their first name. It's disrespectful.My brother's girlfriend's daughter who is two does that and I correct her anytime I hear her. Its finally gotten to the point that her mother will correct her, and she has a habit of calling my husband "Dad" (due to being around my kids so much) although it's sweet I think it's disrespectful to her father and I don't allow that either.

Bonnie - posted on 03/16/2011

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I think it is disrespectful for kids to call their parents by name instead of mom or dad.

Nikkole - posted on 03/16/2011

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I still call my mother mom its weird to call her by her name and im 22 :)

Jenn - posted on 03/16/2011

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No, I prefer to be called Mum. It seems odd to me to call your parent by their name.

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After having the cousins over, Eliza called me "Aunt Sara" for a day or two. Thought it was funny.

Jodi - posted on 03/16/2011

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I never get called by my first name except by my step-kids, but our daughter (who is 6) sometimes calls her dad by his first name. We can understand why - our only other child who lives with us full time is my son from a previous marriage, and he calls my husband by his first name. She doesn't do it all the time, only sometimes, but we don't worry about it too much. She isn't doing it out of disrespect. She probably figures if her brother can call him that, she can.

Lady Heather - posted on 03/16/2011

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I would be really sad if my daughter didn't call me Mum. One of the best things about being a mum is getting to hear that word applied to you. Makes me so happy. My stepsister calls her parents by their first names though and they are really close. I don't know why they do that. Maybe it's so they didn't have to choose between French and English. Ha.

Jenni - posted on 03/16/2011

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A name is just a name, really. So I guess it's up to the family to decide what they feel is appropriate.
Being from a blended family my kids sometimes call me Mom and sometimes call me Jen. My SD generally refers to me as Jen, so when she's over my son starts referring to me by my name. My SD occasionally calls me mom.
Really, I have no preference. They know what I am to them.

Johnny - posted on 03/16/2011

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Personal preference. I like being called Mommy, and I think it is a sign of respect to call someone what they wish to be called. I have an acquaintance who has changed his name back and forth between his first and middle names countless times. It's a bit annoying really, but I always try to call him what he wants this week. My daughter prefers Kya to Michaela, so I generally call her that.

If the parent is happy to be called by their given names or prefers it that way, then I think that is what is appropriate. It would not be my choice, but I can see no harm in it.

Amy - posted on 03/16/2011

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Our daughter knows our names, but kids call us mom and dad. Only time I called my mom by her name was when I worked with her. Just felt odd at work and unprofessional to ask "mom....". lol. I was just always told it was a form of respect. I never thought about it until I kept hearing kids call parents by first names.

Nikkole - posted on 03/16/2011

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My 3year old son does it to get our attention and i look at him and say WHAT and then he wills say mommy lol but no i think its just weird to me having my kids call me by my name casually like that i like mommy and daddy!

Alisha - posted on 03/16/2011

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I think kids should call their parent's by mom and dad and variations of that. I don't see a reason why kids would call their parent's by their first names. It seems cold to me. I remember when I would be mad at my mom when i was a teenager and I would call my mom by her first name. So to me it forms a disconnect between child and parent.

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