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Veronique - posted on 04/15/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )




I was wondering the other day and i ask this question to my husband but him not being a mommy and a women he really couldn't give me an answer. So i decided that my curiosity needed to ask if anyone else have had this happen.

I know a girls who from the first day she met me hated my guts. I was always super nice to her and she was always down right mean to me. So ok, i let things be. My husband tells me that he likes hanging out with her boyfriend and would like to keep hanging out with him but his girlfriend hates me and does want her boyfriend to hang out with my husband. So i try and be even nicer telling her that i don't know what i did but can i make things better. Well she looks at me like i have a second head growing. So i'm like screw this, i tell mu husband well you'll just have to find another friend cause i'm done trying with that moron. Ok, so in Feb 2008 she gives birth and i was due to give birth in June 2008 so we had something in common and maybe now that she had a baby she would have grown a heart or something. So i reach out the her again and again it's like i was speaking another language then her or something. So at this point i'm done trying but it still bugs me to know that someone hates me that much for no valide reason. I even ask her boyfriend what i did and he tells me "oh no she likes you, i really don't know what you're talking about " yeah ok bubby, i'm doing this for my husband and your friendship. But really she's got a chip on her shoulder that she needs professional help.......
Ok so has anyone have this happen?????
P.S Sorry for the romance novel lol


Kate CP - posted on 04/15/2011




Some women are crazier than others. What I mean by that is that we are all insane but some just need a higher dose of crazy pills than the rest of us. ;)

Carolyn - posted on 04/15/2011




i bet her boyfriend said something about how awesome you were, or talked about you. Some women get wicked jealous if their boyfriends even so much as breath the name of another woman, mention the lady from work or happen to look in the same direction as woman happens to be walking while he is driving LOL.

im willing to put money on the fact that its her own issue about her own insecurity/self image and just tells the boyfriend she likes you to make you seem delusional.

chicks can be whack sometimes ;)


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Veronique - posted on 04/18/2011




Ah thanks girls :) Yeah she really needs and extra dose of the crazy pill this chick, to give you an idea. She was dating this guy this for like 7years but when she found out that her current bf broke up with his gf well she dump her bf and started stalking her current bf. Yeah freaky, it gets worse. He found an appart and she follewed him home one day. And evey night she would go knocking on his door and just walk in. When he moved in she help him, she cleaned all his appart and even painted for him.He told her he wasn't looking for a serious relationship and she was like "sure sure whatever " So she started staying there everynight and finally move in with him without him even asking. Finally the moved together in a condo and he said he doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids and if she trick him in to having kids that she had 2 options or she gets an abortion or she raises the child alone. So what do you think happened......Yep she get pregnant and he stayed and now she lives in this gorgeous house and she made him by her a BMW X3 so the kid could be very comfy and safe and she made him take her car a Honda Civic. Yep a real caractere this girl. Anyway maybe she's afraid to loose all that with him but seriously i have my husband that i love and we have 2 little girls and i'm not at all interested in her bf but whatever she has major jelousy issues in life.

Johnny - posted on 04/16/2011




I go through this with my husband's best friend, a MAN! Some people are just insecure and weird. Whenever his friends get serious with a girl, this guy treats the "other woman" like shit. It's probably good that none of them are gay or it might actually come down to fisticuffs.

It's been a long 10 years dealing with him & his drama. Now he will not come to our home because apparently I give off an unwelcoming vibe. I used to try to make peace, I'd made so many offerings and invitations that you'd have thought I was trying to woo him. After around 8 years, I threw in the towel. Now I like to talk trash about him. I don't talk trash about anyone usually, but he's earned it and my husband actually finds it funny.

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My cousin's wife is rude with everyone... She's always ready to pounce with a mean comment which she spews out with a look of disgust on her face... Last time, I tried to be nice and small talk as I hadn't seen her in 5 years.. same old shit... So, I just plainly said: "You know, I didn't remember why I didn't like you but with one sentence you reminded me, thanks for that." and walked away. Now I just act as if she does not exist at all.

No sense wasting time or energy!

Jenni - posted on 04/16/2011




Meah... take it as a compliment. Usually when women hate another woman straight off the bat or for no decernable reason it's because they're jealous.

I know it's tough because your SO's hang out. But just keep on being your sweet self and don't let her moodiness get to you. ;)

Bonnie - posted on 04/16/2011




Some women are just jealous no matter what, even if her boyfriend didn't say anything. Some women just think they are better then everyone else. That could be her issue. Maybe she is just naturally a snob towards other women.

Mel - posted on 04/16/2011




wow interesting. Dont waste your time. She sounds like a fucking idiot. If people dont like you thats their problem. You know youve done nothing wrong.

Toni - posted on 04/16/2011




@Amber - can't wait to hear how it all goes *evil grin*

@Veronique - if this is how its been from day 1 she's probably a nutcase and her bf probably said oh and you'll really like his wife, she's awesome so she decided to hate you. :(

Sneaky - posted on 04/15/2011




Life is too short to put up with that kind of negativity - I'd just be really glad that I never had to see her ever again!

Amber - if there was an 'evil' button I would have been pushing it! You go girl!

April - posted on 04/15/2011




That's exactly what i was thinking when i read your post. Her bf must of talked about you to her and thats where the crazy began LOL She feels threatened maybe, hence the fact she doesn't want her bf to be friends with your hubby because it means he'll be near you. That's just my opinion though. I've had a woman hate my guts for no apparent reason until i realized i was close friends with her boyfriend. She only became nice to me when they broke up.

Merry - posted on 04/15/2011




Sounds jealous to me. Maybe her bf mentioned something nice about you and now she thinks you are trying to steal her man. Some ladies have an extra dose of crazy when it comes to their man thinking about, talking about, or looking at another woman......

Tah - posted on 04/15/2011



400 neighbor is like that...she walks right past as if I'm not there..I have tried. My treadmill on my upstairs balcony faces hers and will let her dog out and not even look up. That's how you know someone knows you are there, when they hear noise and don't even look that Her husband loves to talk and if she sees or hears him talk me she runs out like her tails on fire and jumps in the So last time she did that I ignored her as well. When my husband sees her she will look away really quickly or pretend she's Checking her phone..we laugh..some people are like that, and who knows, maybe he was checking you out one day or said something nice about you and she's insecure. Ignore her and keep it moving..

Veronique - posted on 04/15/2011




The only reason i've spoken to her boyfriend is because we bump in to each other a few times at the grocery store and he was saying how come we don't see you guys anymore and i said well ask your girlfriend, she's the one that has an issue with me or just issues in life lol

Laura - posted on 04/15/2011




I know the feeling, my husband's old college roommate hated me for no reason too. (it's a guy so a little different but still...) My hubby even asked him why he hated me and he said "I don't know why I just can't stand her" It is annoying but sometimes you just gotta say whatever and let the relationship go.

Amber - posted on 04/15/2011




Ahhhh...I see. I assumed that since you had talked to her boyfriend, that he was still around. That's why I was saying don't take her seriously. I just meant ignore it if it didn't change things.

I feel for you! That's why I've decided to see how grandma will handle it if she thinks it will affect whether or not we move closer :) haha.

Veronique - posted on 04/15/2011




Thanks Cathy :)

Amber that's just the thing they don't hang out at all anymore since he started dating this girl almost 7 years ago.

I don't take her serious it's just really annoying to be hated that much

Amber - posted on 04/15/2011




My SO's sister-in-law is like this with me. She isn't technically married to his brother, but after 10 years it's close enough.
She's never even attempted to be nice to me. She talks over the top of me, walks past me as if I'm not there, looks right through me if I've talked to her, and has nothing to do with me.

After 5 years, I've just come to terms with it for the most part. Chad's brother is great fun and we get along really well, so I don't care if she has a stick up her ass. I'm so overly sweet to her when family and friends are around that she looks like a complete ass for the way she is acting. Of course, they don't know that I'm just doing it to be evil at this point though!

Luckily for me, I live 5 hours away from them. But we're considering moving closer to his family...and I'm thinking I'm going to let it slip to Chad's mom that I'm holding out because Dawn's so rude.....Let's see how fast grandma kicks into action when she finds out it's going to effect her proximity to our son :)

And her boyfriend is crazy if he drops good friends because his girlfriend is living in an alternate universe inside her mind :) It sounds like he doesn't take her too seriously if he's still around your husband, maybe you shouldn't either.

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