Monster-in-law!!!!!!!!!

Mother - posted on 01/07/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )

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So, we all have them, some are worse then others. Some are down right heinous. Some are great (at which time I'm completely jealous) Whats your story?? What do we do to cope?? Aside from dreams of an excruciating demise.

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Nichole - posted on 01/08/2011

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My MIL is a monster. We lived with her when we first got married cuz money was tight for me & my husband (trying to pay off a wedding & stay in school), and for her & her husband (he was just laid off). So we decided to live together to help each other out. Well turned out a nightmare. She had an opinion on EVERYTHING. Me and my husband would try to have PRIVATE discussions on how we wanted to do things (money wise etc), and she'd just walk in & butt in her opinion. grrr. So when we found out we were expecting, we moved within 3 months!! :) All was good and we still lived in town. Then we moved out of town for my husbands new job...things were even better! Then she said she didn't see us enough...and had this very convincing plan that we were all going to move to AR and have a family business. It was a FOR SURE deal,, and she checked into everything. So we moved in with her to prepare for the move. Well turns out not a for sure deal AT ALL. Stuck living there for 6 months, in which she & FIL complained all about my parenting, my personality, etc. Then had the nerve to say my husband (her son) should divorce me, cuz I was a horrible wife & mother. she said I belonged in a psyc ward. And that she was going to call SRS on me cuz I wouldn't give my son a paci. Well needless to say I gave my husband and ultimatum. We move ANYWHERE or I will move ANYWHERE with the baby. He said you are right we need to move. So we did. Now things are pretty good, most of the time. Though they watch our son for us while we work, and they don't always follow my wishes, but they are getting better (due to I threatened to find a new babysitter). Ahhh in laws can stink.

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I like my MIL. Eliza adores her! She's fabulous with all her grandkids (5 total). She was invaluable help when Eliza and I came home from the hospital. She's very encouraging about how I parent.

The downside is that she lives across the country. She'll come home every other month for a few weeks at a time. When she's home, she'll take over the kids! She and my FIL own a house here, which is where she stays, and she expects all the grandkids to stay there with her too. She wants to spend as much time as possible with them while she's home.

Which is fine for the most part. They grandkids love to be at Mimi's and with each other. But it's not entirely practical when trying to keep up a schedule and routine. For example: Eliza was potty trained...hadn't had an accident in over three weeks. She stayed with her Mimi and her cousins for several days in a row. She came home un-potty trained. Since then she's had multiple accidents everyday. Today we went *almost* accident free, so we're on our way back to normal! (The un-potty training was a result of trying to keep tabs on 5 children, ages 18m-6years...I found out later that Eliza would end up in pull-ups sometimes during the day for convenience.)

Another example: When Eliza was being breastfed during her first year, MIL would get a little agitated that she couldn't stay more than one night. She asked several times about using formula (other grandkids were formula fed), which husband and I didn't want to do. I did okay with pumping enough for Eliza to stay one night at a time, but I honestly wasn't physically able to pump more than that. Hopefully that issue will be better with our next baby, as we've already been through those issues.

So really, I wish my MIL lived here. That way she could take Eliza for ONE night and send her home. We could go visit her house on a regular basis and vice versa. We'd see each other several times a week at church. That way, she and Eliza could have the relationship they both crave, and our routines wouldn't be disrupted every other month.

Stifler's - posted on 01/08/2011

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i have a really ignorant mother in law. she's fat - yet she has the secret to weight loss and optimum health. she raised sick illiterate children - yet she knows everything about parenting. i can't stand her.

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Its so funny that I was writing to this thread and my MIL calls!!!!!! Now that x-mas is over and decorations are coming down a rift is going to surface again. Since moving into the house I pretty much just stay upstairs. Its completely ours except this ONE room. This one room was suppose to be cleaned out before we moved in....much like the rest of the house but it wasn't. This room was the big bone of contention. This room was a tack or harness room IN THE HOUSE. So if you know what sweaty, dirty old horse harnesses smell like......now you know what the upstairs smelled like. So for months I asked for this room to be cleaned out so we could put my husbands workout weights and our treadmill which was in a horse stable. Yes, a thousand dollar machine was outside while their harnesses which hadn't been used in 30 years were safe inside. So one day I asked again and she said to me.....you'll have to ask permission from Paul(FIL), its always been a harness room. I snapped. I said ask permission?? In my own house?? I think not. So armed with pure anger and stubborness IIIIIIIIIIII started cleaning the room out. Well that started a huge shit storm.

the worst thing was the harnesses were completly COVERED in mold. Yes, mold. No one in their right mind should have been in there but sometimes when angry I don't think rational. LOL

I go the room cleaned out but not before my arms broke out in welts. My husband came home and told me I was an idiot and I should have been wearing gloves and a mask. Under all the harnesses I found an entire colony of mice turds. NIIIIIIIIIICE. So now, my SIL thinks she is going to put everything back in there....WRONG. I told her it can go in the storage shed where all of our stuff went. I can see dinner being interesting.

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Sharon, my MIL was great when she lived 4 hours away too!!! LOLOLOLOL

Wow Ladies.....ok....my MIL is not like any of those stories. Hmmm.....maybe I'm a whiner. LOL She knows better then to try to yell at me....she's sneakier then that.

We moved to the farm to stop it from foreclosing, left everything we know to jump into the unknown. We think everything is great and once here we find out that there is a second mortgage on the house that's in default 9 months AFTER we just got the other mortgage in the good. So no matter if we did everything right, they could still lose the house. MORONS. Things are better since that last blow up. she realized I was no fragile little flower who would take her BS. My SIL says no one in her entire life ever stood up to her Mother and she says her Mom isn't use to me.

I just don't like liars and so far they have lied about EVERYTHING to get us here and now we're stuck. Putting my immediate family in jeopardy. I mean, we've sunk everything we own into fixin the house, paying the bills, repairing the grounds, paying the one mortgage, bought livestock, put roofs on barns....you name it, for it all to be taken away. So ya, I'm bitter.

C. - posted on 01/07/2011

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Oh man.. I have a doozie..



I love my MIL, I really do.. But there are times..



For instance.. Buying EVERYTHING as far as household goods to be sent out to us at hubby's first duty station. Yeah, it was a nice gesture b/c she and my FIL had to struggle when he first joined the military, so I understand she wanted to take care of us. HOWEVER, she would get mad if she found out that I didn't like something she had bought.. I wasn't the one that complained to her, hubby actually told her when she asked. Hey.. She asked.



When we stay at their house for a VISIT, she goes in our room, moves things around, goes through our things.. Complete invasion of privacy. One time, fairly recent (within the last year) we were there while hubby was visiting from deployment. We usually straightened up our room so she wouldn't complain b/c we knew she would go in there. However, this particular night, we had to run to my mom's house to grab some clothes out of the dryer (my mom lives about 10-15 min. away). Clothes weren't quite dry, so I set them on for about 20 more minutes. We were almost to my in-law's house when we get a phone call from dear MIL. She wouldn't even talk to my husband, she just started yelling about how the room was a F****** mess and kept going on about it. We get to the driveway and another call.. Same thing, yelling that the room is a F****** mess. We go into the house and she's in there THROWING our stuff around cursing like a freakin' sailor. Then she has the nerve to get in MY face when she's throwing MY things around the damn room?? Don't think so. Got in her face right back and was yelling at her just the same. Hubby put our son in the playpen in our room. MIL was still in there yelling at both of us. She stepped out of the room and kept yelling right there at the door, my son started screaming b/c she was scaring him to death, so I went to shut the door and she puts her foot there to stop it and starts yelling at me telling me not to shut the door in her face. Told her she was scaring my son and if I feel it's necessary to shut the door so he's not scared, I'll do it. Also told her she was invading my privacy by going through my belongings. Her reply? "It's not an invasion of privacy, this is my house!"



Look, I don't give an ugly rat's behind whose house it is, if you have a guest staying there, you don't go through their stuff!!! Sends me into a damn panic attack, hubby takes our son out for a walk (and yes he did try to stop his mom from yelling at me- it was def. a few failed attempts, but he did try.) So when she sees me hyperventilating, she's trying to calm me down 'Come here, sweetie, come here'.. Uh, no thanks. So I went for a walk myself, for about a half hour. I walk around the corner onto their street and see her getting into her car. She was coming to find me and apologize. No doubt only b/c she saw how upset my husband was and she'll do anything to mend fences with him. Anyway, so we apologized and put that behind us.. Just really grates my nerves. She's done the same thing to my husband's grandmother (my FIL's mom). She treats her like doodoo, too! She'll see Nanny wiping the kitchen counters down and walk away, come back later and say 'WHO THE **** WIPED THESE COUNTERS?!?!?!?!?!' and redo it all.. WHILE Nanny is sitting right there! She made a mess, she was kind enough to clean up after herself.. My God!



Oh, we moved home while my husband was deployed, right? So there were MANY times when my son wouldn't go to sleep until late, or would wake up several times.. Always asking for Daddy. So naturally, when my son took a nap during the day, I would nap and regardless of me setting my alarm, I still wouldn't wake up b/c I was just that tired. She would get POd at me b/c I fell asleep when I'm pretty much the only one taking care of my son.. Um, Ok.. *EDITED TO ADD: She would get POd if she wanted to come pick my son up and I slept through her call AND my alarm.. But then she would go a couple weeks w/o seeing him b/c she wanted to go on some bike trip (motorcycle). So whose fault that she didn't get to see him as often?? Not ALL my fault, it was partly hers as well*



Oh.. And she gets involved in our finances.. She once asked my husband if we had received our income tax return and he said yes but not to tell me shit b/c he didn't want me to find out (had just been married less than a year, still a new couple all around, so I understand he didn't know if he could trust me not to go out and spend it.. Oh wait, I didn't even have a driver's license at the time, so how could I?) Of course she didn't mention it. She also had my husband's passwords for his bank accounts, received emails from his bank and stuff like that.



AND GET THIS.. while hubby was deployed, he set up an allotment for me b/c we didn't have a joint account at the time. Since what my husband set up proved to not be enough for diapers, wipes, food and rent per month, I asked for a little more money every month. Apparently he told his mom to get on his account and see if she could set it up and give me 100 more per month. First off, SHE shouldn't be the one to get on HIS account. Second, she sent my husband emails calling me a bitch and telling him I should stop bitching about the money and blah, blah, blah.. Um, first of all, it's none of her business what goes on with our finances and if I'm not receiving enough money to where my MOM has to chip in for groceries and diapers, then yes I am going to ask for some more money. Second of all, who she callin' a bitch?? And third.. What's it to her? Oh wait, that kind of ties in to not needing to know our finances.. But still. CUT THE DAMN APRON STRINGS ALREADY!!!!!!!! Thankfully, things have been smoothed over. She no longer gets involved like she used to, as far as I know. But this just felt so good to get off my chest!



Thanks for letting me rant :)

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Haha, Bonnie, no I love her anyway. But I'm sure she would drive me fair up the wall if I had to spend a lot of time with her!

Nikkole - posted on 01/07/2011

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lol my mil does that its kinda like shes paying him to spend time with her :P

Shauna - posted on 01/07/2011

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My MIL used to bribe my husband over to her house, sometimes even saying im sure you could use some gas money honey ... like they had a secret relationship ... SO FREAKING WIERD!!!!

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My mother in law is great! She asks what we want done withour daughters when they're visiting as far as meals, bed times, etc. She doesn't meddle, and tried to make life a little easier for us whenever she can. The biggest complaints I would have are that she goes garage-sale-ing waaaay to often! She gets some great deals and haggles with the best of 'em, but she spoils my girls, and we have too many freaking toys. O. M. G. The only time I've ever not wanted to be around her were when I was pregnant and we had to move after a house fire in our duplex, she wouldn't let me do ANYTHING, and I was absolutely fine. She wanted to run the show. I know she was just trying to help, but JEEZ! And then after each of my girls were born, she wanted to be over or have us over to their house almost every freaking day. There again, these were her first 2 grandchildren, and both girls, where she had 2 boys, so she was excited, but she was driving my absolutely batty! The greatest thing about her though, is that I can tell her that, and she'll back off, no hard feelings. She knows how she can be, and takes constructive criticism and requests without offense. Couldn't have asked for a better MIL than that!

Nikkole - posted on 01/07/2011

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@Julianne im surprised my mother in law hasn't told me that yet she tells us all the time we are forsaking the sabbath by not going to church but i refuse to go to a church with a bunch of rich snobs who judge and are cruel to anyone who is different (thats how the people that go to her church are) and there preacher is a recording on a big screen hes not even there!

Nikkole - posted on 01/07/2011

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Shauna yea my mil acts like my husband owes her and his brothers and sisters something or thats what it seems like if the cars broke call William if the light bulb blew call William i cant stand it! My mil also acts like women can't do the same things as men like fix things, or put things together and yea her daughter does no wrong either! And she is the biggest gossiper EVER but she doesn't get her information right and starts crap between people! I really wish we didn't live close to her so my husband wouldn't run over there all the time!

Shauna - posted on 01/07/2011

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NIKKOLE--- jeez ... my MIL did the same thing when we talked. My husband was her go to guy. *shes single too* ... she had him on speed dial and made him come over constantly. AND she always talked crap about me saying she dindt think i was truely in love and that i have a bad attitude blah blah ... HER DAUGHTER is a X stripper .. and was a CALL GIRL! and can do no wrong. Her daughter had a child young and never got married but bitched at us for living in sin b/c we were living together before being married.......
The very first time i was introduced to Ryans mom i was excited b/c i have always loved my x b/fs mothers. NOPE this was horrible the first thing out of her mouth was "oh god are you pregnant?" "i hope your not another mistake like the one Trent *ryans brother brought home*

Shauna - posted on 01/07/2011

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Sal- sounds like my MIL ------ and she thinks i stole my husband form her too ..... UMMMM my husband is 33 yrs old. she still thinks her kids are children. when we are engaged she would always say things like "shauna dont you jsut LOOOOOVE ryan so much! .. how much do you love him!? * i would die for a guy to buy me such a nice ring* .... why do you love my son? .... uhhh shut up women!!!! ..... and the first time we went out to dinnner together she stole all the little free packs of crackers and put them in her purse ... saying she was gonna have them for lunch tommorow b/c she has to watch her figure ... WHATEVER

Nikkole - posted on 01/07/2011

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My MIL is one of those crazy church laddies, she preaches to us every time we visit to go to church and blah blah blah! When i turned 18 i moved in with them because we were getting married the next month well every day till our wedding my mil would say we were living in sin offering to pay for us to go to the court house to get married DROVE us nuts! Then a year later i was pregnant with our son and we had been prepared to have a c section because of medical problems well when i was 8 months we had a huge fight because she told me having a c section was not god's way and how wrong we were, then when i had my son she didnt come to see him till the last day we were there annd i had tried bf and my milk wouldn't come in at all so i was bottle feeding and my mil told me my son was going to be sickly and retarded because i didn't bf him!!!! I cried for 2 weeks about that it made me feel horrible! Then after my daughter was born she came to see her the last day and stayed 20min maybe and she has only seen both kids 4 times total and we live 6miles away she says shes too busy to come see them she only works 3 days a week, and my husband goes over every weekend to help her with chores of the house (shes single)! BUT her daughter my sil has had countless boyfriends live there she got pregnant before marriage and her baby's father left her now her finance lives there they sleep together and my mil acts like my sil's kid is hers and buys him things and watches him ALL the time! My mother in law acts like my husband is the man of her house and he should fix everything and talk to his sister like her father it drives me nuts!

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everytime my mil comes to our house (which isn;t too often) she starts on the poor me's, how she is broke, (she isn't), how she could be dead and noone would even notice (even though hubby calls and she doesn;t ever, how she never gets to see the grand kids,then she starts on about wills (yep things people leave when they die wills), and why it wasn't fair what her brothers sisters got, blah blah blah, she is just a selfish horrid lady, she has never forgiven me for stealing her son away, turned up late for our wedding, and sat and sulked the whole day, tels me that my hubby uses a nick name for me because he can't remember my name as he is seeing someone else, who is proablly a guy as his dads cousin was gay and still got married (in about 1930) and when we named our 1st daughter i refused to use a family name from either family, chose grace as a middle name then she went about telling people it was after her dads sister (who we never meet) and who was known by everyone as something else (even hubby never knew it was her name!!) just to be spitful. last time she was here i threw her xmas present at her and told her i was sick of her nasty money hungry behaviour and she should just f**k off out untill she could behave nicely.....haven't seen her since....works for me though

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I have 2 MILs that are great! My husbands mother lives 2400 miles away, so we only see her 1x/year. She's fine. Never bothered at all in the 17 years we're together. She adores our son. My husband's step-mother is AMAZING! Mi in-laws used to live 45 minutes from us, but they also moved back east 2400 miles back a year ago. Ironically, my MIL (hubyb's step-mom) never had children of her own. But she is just fantastic with our son. She's a real hands-on grandma, on the floor playing, reading, going to museums and parks, cooking, and now that he's older, just all kinds of fun! Next summer *may* be a summer to fly out to Connecticut and let him stay with Grandma/Grandpa for a week or 2. I really so miss my in-laws.

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she sounds a bit like my mom...i talk to my mom though. its not her fault shes mentally ill...LOL

Shauna - posted on 01/07/2011

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SHES is the worst form of evil! She has 3 children and has managed to scare away both daughter in laws, and the son in law. My husband doesnt even talk to her. She needs help.

Bonnie - posted on 01/07/2011

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Sharon, just curious, is that why you love her because she is in another country? :-)

Shauna - posted on 01/07/2011

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Dont get me started: I HATE MY MOTHER IN LAW ... she hasnt even met our child that is 9 mo old. thats how bad i hate her. And my husband agrees, shes nuts and doesnt mind not talking to her. I tried getting along and its not possible.
The day of our wedding, when the pastor asked does any one object? she did a *ahem* cough cough ... and rolled her eyes as we were saying our vows. Was disrespectful to my family .. saying "OHHHH this must be the cooper clan *my maiden name* and snickering. The only thing she paid for was something that was 90 bucks the phamplets we handed out at ceromony and she asked my parents to pay her back. Then she stole all of them at the wedding and said "they are mine since i paid for them"
UMMMMMM shes divorced from my husbands dad has been for 20 plus years, and he is remarried .. at our wedding she laid a big fat slopy kiss on his dads face in front of his wife .... just to be a bitch.
she wasnt in any of our pics ..... then flipped on me for not being in them.
Didnt watch any of the cake cutting .... did nothing .. but prance around like she was hot shit ..... one of my bridesmaids said "mariane you look nice' she comment correct yourself sweetie i look beautiful.
THAT WAS JUST MY WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My husband has a son *my stepson* .... and when things were difficult with that she was seeing his son and lying about it ... paying his x money to see his son. Um when it was our weekends with his son and Isaac his son didnt want to be with her, she would flip out saying im brainwashing him and stomp and complain like a child that isaac likes me *who he knows as mom* better than her. SHES A CHILD.
One time i said i was not going to come to her house untill she aplogized for making up these rumors about me .. so in her most disrespectful voice she said I GUESS IM APPOLOGIZING" .. when i said that doesnt count its not sincere she stood in front of my car and through a hissy fit opened and closed my car door several times untill the speakers fell off .. the neighbors actually called the cops on her ... shes a freak!!!!!
Cant stand the bitch.
THEN .... my brother in law was having his first baby his wife said she did not want her in the delivery room ... so while my sister in law was pushing .... the bitch snuck in and was hiding behind the door watching the whole thing!!! .... i will never ever ever ever allow my kids to be around this women. they will never know her.
These are just a few few few small storys.

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My MIL drives me batty. She loves gabby though, i just wish she didnt feed her junk, every time she goes with her.. she comes back with a diaper rash or constipation/diarrhea. She disagrees with a lot of my mothering decisions. She laughs because i want her rear facing, even went so far as to flip her carseat around on me and drive with her....AGHHH she ridiculed the way i "wore her" said i was going to kill her by cosleeping, and said i was denying her "real food" because i didnt feed her kraft dinner. ohh my. sometimes i want to flip right out, then i say to myself, she just doesn't want to admit she did something wrong as a mom, thats why she is so set in her ways. I showed her a video to fix the car seat issue..



she makes fun of my hair too, i look like a dirty hippie apparently....oh well

Charlie - posted on 01/07/2011

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I actually wish my MIL had more to do with her grandchildren and Jamie , It breaks my heart that she cannot be closer to them and to her son who loves and misses her immensely , I try to keep her up to date with everything so at least she knows how the boys are , all I can do is hope one day she can find a place of peace in her mind that will allow her to recconect .

Rosie - posted on 01/07/2011

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my mother in law isn't bad, she's just not great. she doesn't make an effort to see the boys more than their birthday parties, christmas, and a few other family functions. she never just stops by and wants to see them, nor does she ask for them.

she is also very stupid (can't really say thats the right word, it sounds harsh, but she is not smart) so it's annoying. my husband was talking to her today about how he needs to take some things to the dump today with her on the phone. she asked if he was taking his truck (his only vehicle) and he was like yeeessss......why wouldn't i? she replied, "well i didn't know if you were going to borrow someone elses or not"
why the fuck would he borrow someone elses truck when he has a perfectly good one himself? just stupid shit like that over and over. along with the fact that she passed off her first husband as chad's dad for 14 years, is married to her 2nd husband now, but lives with another man and has for the last 9 years. she goes back and forth between the 2, and drags us into her drama (so does his step-dad, but that's a different story). she has not set a good role model for her daughter, and of course her daughter is turning out to have just as much self esteem as she does.
she's a nice person, she just really gets to me with the way she has no self esteem, and can't seem to get out of that.

Lacye - posted on 01/07/2011

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If I could push my soon to be mother in law over a cliff, I would do it in a heartbeat and have no problem doing it either! The woman drives me nuts. She doesn't come around too much (thank God for small favors) but when she does she always has something rude to say to me. She doesn't come to important events that involve my daughter, for example: Lily's first birthday, Lily's Christening. I have told her many times that she is more than welcome to come over and see Lily, I have offered to bring Lily over to her and she said she didn't want us to come to her house. She calls Lily by her middle name, which is Grace, but she doesn't call her Grace, she calls her Gracie. I hate that. I didn't name her Gracie. I have talked to her about this before, a few hours after Lily was born as a matter of fact. She didn't get Lily anything for her 1st birthday or Christmas! I just plain can't stand the woman.

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My mother in law isn't a monster but she isn't involved at all either. She has never been to one of my kids birthdays or even come over to our place to see them when they were first born. This christmas she got a win on the pokies and brought for every one else except us or our kids. Now i don't care that she didn't buy for us but she didn't even send a card. They used to come over to our area to see her father and they had to drive through our town to do it not once did they ever call in. Last time we went to visit my hubby's sister she got all up in arms about not seeing her new grandchild and why doesn't she count blah blah blah.
My mother has a good heart but my oh my she can get frustrating which is part of the reason we have planned to move at the end of the year.

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My mother inlaw is great. She is not pushy or opinionated. She will give an opinion at times, but let me do with it as I wish. We have our odd falling out, but definately way less then the falling outs I have with my own mother (that's another story).

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My MIL is generally brill, she has been really welcoming into the family. If I want advice I can ask her and she gives me it, I don't always take it but I find another perspective always helps. She used to interfere a little sometimes but since I have had Ethan she doesn't she waits for me to ask for help instead of trying to make me have it, I think she has realised that I am more likely to ask her if she just leaves me to get on with things because I know when I need help and am not afraid to say (whereas if someone tries to push me into something I am more likely to not ask them). So overall my MIL is wonderful!

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I too love my MIL...she is the most generous person I have ever know. She'd give you the shirt off of her back. HOWEVER, my mother was not as lucky as I am. Her MIL, my grandmother, has said some pretty awful things to her. Here's one example: My mom was on her period and really wanted ice cream. My dad was already halfway out the door for cigarettes and said he'd def pick her up some ice cream. Well he came back with the cigs but forgot the ice cream. My mom was crying and upset (hormonal) and her MIL walked by and said Elephants never forget! ( my mom is on the heavy side). I will never forget that story. That is one of the meanest things I have ever heard from my grandma and I think there are similar stories that I don't know about because my family doesn't talk about how my mom gets treated.

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I love my MIL. :) She's a great lady! She's funny, we get along well, and she really only gives advice if I ask for it (and sometimes I do because I value her opinion). Are there times I get annoyed with her? Yea, but I get annoyed with my own mother more frequently.

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Eeeeeeeeeeeeeep....my mom while is very opinionated, she is not meddling. However I think that has something to do with her children being very vocal. I feel for you. When my monster in Law gets out of hand I run to my Mom or my sister to vent. Can't imagine life if Mom was just as bad.

As far as your last comment....somedays, I open my mouth and out pops my MOTHER!!!! You've never seen someone clamp their hands over their face SO FAST!!!! Its inevitable, we turn into our parents. In your case, you'll turn into your Mother in law!! ;)

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2011

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i don't really have a horror story when it comes to my mother in law and we get along fine, though she does kind of drive me crazy and she has very little respect for our wishes when it comes to how we parent our son. we are just 2 completely different kinds of mothers so we clash.

while struggling to get my son to latch she was around every day and it was constantly "just pump for him, just bottle feed, there is nothing wrong with formula, he will be fine, etc, etc, etc." and just overall very discouraging. for a while, i couldn't even leave my son alone with her for fear that she was going to sneak him sweets (the hubby and i were very particular about the food our son ate before his first birthday), and she sees nothing wrong with smoking around him even though we have asked her not too. she has gotten a lot better about it all, since her husband laid int her about it being fucked up.

Desiree - posted on 01/07/2011

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I don't have a problem with mine actually she has just recently passed and even when she was here she was great. But I do have an interferring Monster MOm don't get me wrong I love my mom but she is a nightmare always giving her opinion, not letting things go or better yet telling the world how her kiids have let her down and don't want he anymore. I feel for my Husband I wish he has a Mom-in-Law as nice as mine was instead he got my mother. If she drives me around the bend I can only think what she may be doing to him and then he has to listen to me complain, just realised I am starting to sound like her. Oh No not going there bitter and angry at the world and never happy with anything she has in her life.

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My Mother in law is the epitome of the word Matriach. For the first part of my marriage we never had a problem because my husband and his family was estranged. YAY ME!! However me and my big mouth enter.....I told my husband it was only right that they be invited to our wedding. Isn't hindsight a bitch. Over the years a relationship has formed. Last year we got a call from his family stating that the family farm was going to be foreclosed on and could we help. This means uprooting our family, quitting jobs, leaving lifelong friends and family, and trying to move an established business. Even tho my husband was estranged for almost 18 years we did just that.

Since our arrival this woman has done nothing but make my life MISERABLE. When we arrived to our "new home" (family farm house) His sister still resided there. UGH. Not only that she still had all her and half the family's belongings in the house. UGH. She had her dog which pissed and shit everywhere and so much so that the vents in the one room were GLUED closed by what looked like tree sap. WRONG....it was dog pee. I won't tell you about the vents.

This woman runs her WHOLE family. If she says jump everyone says how high. Needless to say, I am not her favourite person because she tells me to jump and I say....YOU FIRST BITCH. HA! Her children are all grown adults but they ALL live at home and she runs them. Her children are 34, 33, 28, and 26. I mean, c'mon....its time to let go. My husband is a pretty head strong man and she has since tried these same tactics on him......they don't work. THANK GAWD HE GOT OUT!!! He has her figured out but lately she has tried a different tactic......CRYING and FAKING SICKNESS. I'm going batty......and it could be quite possible that someone may find a knitting needle embedded in her temple. *whistling*

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I am lucky to have a pretty decent mother in law, though sometimes she drives me nuts. After her son left me for another woman a few days before Christmas, she dragged me to Christmas dinner and the girlfriend was not invited. She even got us to sleep on the cot together, and I got to have fun watching him go into the other room to love talk his new love interest. But at least I wasn't alone. Uh...yeah.



Now she loves her son and she thought there was nothing wrong my friend and her two kids moving in with me when they had no other place to go and then my friend hooking up with my husband while I was babysitting all of the kids combined. "If he can be taken, he should be".



Sometimes we go for coffee and are good friends and sometimes I think she's crazy and insensitive. We sit by the water and discuss books and I think how loving and insightful she is. Then she takes my son out, he hits his head and she doesn't take him to a doctor and even tell me he was hurt, so I see the mark later and panic. Or she exclaims that a puzzle must not be too hard because I solved it quickly. Dude I was a math major (before my husband left and I started failing my math courses, then switched to being a psych major and started getting As again). I have brains in my head!



So yeah, my MIL (technically ex MIL) is a good, interesting, intelligent person who sometimes rubs me the wrong way

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